Ever since I was around age 7, my parents have been divorced. I live with my mom. My dad lives on the other side of the country, so I don't get to see him nearly as much as I'd like. I see my dad once a year for about 6 weeks in the summer. It may sound like a long time, but believe me, it goes by faster than you could ever imagine.
I'm a senior in high school, and ever since that day we moved away from my dad I've always felt like there was something missing in my life. I have a stepdad, but its not the same. I have seriously been thinking about moving up there with him to go to college around there. My mom thinks my dad gives me to much freedom and that I would throw away any potential I have. She thinks its best for me to stay here, but I would really like to live with my dad atleast for my college years to try to make up for lost time. But I don't want to ruin my relationship with my mom by choosing to live with my dad.
I'm at a crossroads in my life. What would you do?
2007-08-03 03:59:46 · 6 answers · asked by jack b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think you need to follow your heart. Your Mom might be having a hard time letting go of you. I am sure you will be able to work it through with her. Sit down with her and let her know your reasons. Is there a good school near your dad?
Check into that and let her know you really want to go to this school and she should trust you enough to follow through with your plans on school.
2007-08-03 04:05:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my parents have been divorced since i was born so i completely understand what you're going through. i think it's a good opportunity for you to move up there with your dad for at least your college years and see how it goes. let your mom know that you love her and nothing's going to change and let her know how you feel about your dad and the whole situation. she'll understand after you explain how you feel. and remember, if it doesn't work with your dad, the door is always open at your mom's house. good luck!
p.s. i moved in with my dad a couple of years ago when i lived with my mom my whole life and in the beginning it might be a little rough since you guys don't know each other that well. but it'll work :)
2007-08-03 11:31:40 · answer #2 · answered by Mandie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would move with dad....try it out for about a year go to college and then see if things really work well for you, and if they don't then you can move back with your mom. Just move it's worth a shot, you never want to wonder "what if"
2007-08-03 11:07:32 · answer #3 · answered by mindseye06 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'd do what was best for ME>
your mother will survive... and get over it eventually.
let her know it's got nothing to do with HER... it's your life and your choice. besides you're almost an adult, so you will have the right to do as you please, anyway.
you seem to have common sense, from what you've written here, and i don't think it would matter if your dad gave you too much freedom (?), i think you'd be just fine.
take care of YOU! hugs
2007-08-03 11:11:29 · answer #4 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your mom cant force you to stay at home with her, and you need to see for yourself what living with your dad is like.
If you talk to your mom she'll understand, you wont ruin your relationship with her, she's probably saying those things because she doesn't want you to leave.
i think you should do what you think best!
2007-08-03 11:07:06 · answer #5 · answered by °♥Amelia Rose♥° 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think you should....
sowies
2007-08-03 11:05:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋