They was married for 21/2 years but together for 5 yrs but without any warning he left, things had been a bit rocky for a while and they were having conselling which i thought was going well, she is devastated that this has happened.
but i was more shocked at the reasons why this had happened, when i asked have her why she told me that her husband prefered internet sex rather than having any contact with her although from the outside you would have thought they were a perfect couple they did eveything together i knew she had been depressed but i assumed it was because of postnatal depression they have 3yr boy together has anyone gone though this so i can help her recover from this.
2007-08-03 04:14:44 · 10 answers · asked by scats 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
How awful. I'm sorry I don't have much advice. It will take her a long time to get over this and it's terrible that a child is involved. How long has it been rocky for? Can I ask if they got married because she was pregnant or was it on the cards anyway?
2007-08-03 04:19:10 · answer #1 · answered by magic_porridge_pot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope never got left with a child to care for and a wounded ego like that, sorry to hear, but listen everyone questions whats next, where do I go from here, and if you keep your mind set on whats next then she is lost and wont go anywhere, seriously the best thing for her now is to pay as much attention and give as much love to her only child because daddy is gone and she might need to put off dating and relationships for a while as well until the child is in school full time.
2007-08-03 04:19:37 · answer #2 · answered by J from O 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was married for twenty years then my wife left for something else.
Read my blog and perhaps you will see what to expect. I am a yeart and a bit down the line, perhaps get your sis to have a read. I hope you find something that will help her.
http://uk.groups.yahoo.com/group/SeparationHURTS/messages/1?l=1
I also found this website very good, people all in the same situation just at different stages of "recovery".
http://www.desertionsurvivors.org.uk
Good luck, just keep supporting her, my family got me through mine.
Steve
2007-08-03 06:46:34 · answer #3 · answered by Steve M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can be supportive and caring.
we really do not know what goes on in another's marriage or relationship. so it's best not to judge either party.
it was not right of him to leave without a warning; however, he might have felt it was the best thing for him at the time. it was not right to abandon his child, either.
i'm sure your sister will get through this.. she needs love and care right now. that's the best you can do for her.
hugs
2007-08-03 04:20:52 · answer #4 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep in mind, you have only heard one side of the story. People rarely fill you in with the actual set of details or tell the whole story, they often tell you what they want you to know so that you take their side.
Rare is the case that a man or woman leaves a family for no reason...theres lots more to it.
2007-08-03 04:20:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear that.
Thats awful and especially with her having a child too to him(not awful that she had a child but awful that he left him too)
What a jerk.
Just be there for her when she needs you,show her support take her out to make her feel good and so she doesnt feel guilty
i.e "is it me?"
"Did he think I was ugly?"
But dont smother her...if you know what I mean.
Just support her...give her a shoulder to cry on,be there to talk with her when she needs it.
Good LUck
hugs to you both
0x0x0
2007-08-03 04:22:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
aww that is really awful, things will get better eventually, go places with her holiday for instance to take her mind off things.....good for her she had a loving sister to look after her though this hard time! time is a great healer trust me, she needs to go and get some fun!!
2007-08-03 05:35:25 · answer #7 · answered by Just passing the time! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Done her a favour, let her get her life together and be a new person because maybe she was a drudge.
2007-08-03 08:38:37 · answer #8 · answered by Rick J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry that your sister is going through that. Nothing is really as it seems.
2007-08-03 04:17:11 · answer #9 · answered by ron-D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what an unfortunate situation. hopefully you will just continue to be supportive of your sister and she will make it through this
2007-08-03 06:37:18 · answer #10 · answered by JJDK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋