I am having a family dellima. My ex-husband and I have recently remarried. My daughter (9yo) and I lived in a house next to my mother and my grandparents. They have been very helpful through the years. I frequently expressed thanks. I did things for them to help out. I mowed everyones yard and did some weedeatting. Watched my moms dogs, checked on my grandmother when I was off ect......I sat at home and did nothing but be the best mom I could be and go to work. I have always loved my ex husband. We were young and got mixed up with drugs. That is the main reason we divorced. We have both matured, cleaned up, and work. When we got married my family told me to move out. This is my home and my daughters home for 4yrs. My mother told me the house was mine but not the land in case I went back to my ex. Now she is taking that back. My whole family tells me "You never appreciate anything we do for you". How do you show appreciation and how long are you suppose to be indebpted
2007-08-03 04:23:08 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
5 minutes, then move on to the next issue! You need to let all concerned that you have your life to get on with and you need to provide for your kid/ kids. You cannot cater anymore especially if they are cutting you out of anything. That is flagging you to move on!
2007-08-03 04:30:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you've done plenty for them.
They are probably concerned that you are going down the wrong path, or the same path you took before with your ex.
Be calm, and sit with them to explain how you have changed, how he has changed and with their help you were able to see the right path for you and your daughter. Let them know that because of them, you are on your way to a great life. Tell them that you have appreciated all they have done, the love, and the sacrifice. Then explain to them that with these tools/lessons they have given and taught you over the last couple of years - you are ready to make some big choices on your own. And you ask that they have trust and faith in you to do the right thing. Ask for their support and to believe in you.
And then you better do the right thing, and make those right choices, and show them that you can!!!
Good Luck!
2007-08-03 04:34:55 · answer #2 · answered by jt 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
A life time! It may come and it may go but it must always return if not then thers problems and they must have respect for you as well it works both ways. My mother did that to me once pretty much told me it was the house or my husbadn and well I told her to stick the house up her *** - moved out and then 2 years later she came to us telling up we could have the house back if we wanted it and she wanted us to be in it and not anyone else. We are in the process of buying it, they just want to best for you and want you to be happy! They really don't mean any harm. Ride it out they'll get over it...
2007-08-03 04:37:05 · answer #3 · answered by sophia_of_light 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
They are not being very adult. You have to think of your family (husband, daughter) now. Let them get used to the idea, maybe when they realize they may have lost their daughter, granddaughter, great granddaughter they will apologize and you can be a family again. Move out and go live your life.
2007-08-03 04:36:25 · answer #4 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell them to "F"off. Make them evict you through the courts (don't tell them that though, make them figure out how to do it). It is your home, it's your legal address. They are playing a game of manipulation. Stand your ground and show them that you will not be pushed around. Your life is yours to live. As for appreciation, if you honestly felt it and showed it then nothing else matters, it isn't your fault or problem when other choose not to see it.
2007-08-03 04:31:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
Time to cut loose. Who knows why they are being this way. I'd find my own way, make my own income, raise my own daughter and be accountable only to myself. This is the only way you are going to break free from being held to the wall for the rest of your life.
2007-08-03 04:30:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Time to listen to your own heart. They think they are doing you a favor by forcing "Strong" love on you. But it's time for you to find your own way for your sake as well as your daughters.
2007-08-03 04:38:59 · answer #7 · answered by Chris K 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i think 1 good serving should do. your mother is wrong for taking the home from you and your daughter.
2007-08-03 04:35:47 · answer #8 · answered by Chips 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
you need not be under any sort of obligation to your mom.
if she dislikes your husband, just tell her that you need to give the realtionship another chance.
dont claim your mom's home!!! that's silly..
now u really have to choose- love or money
2007-08-03 04:37:02 · answer #9 · answered by dr_rksood 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i believe they are doing this because they think you have made a big mistake going back with your ex.
2007-08-03 04:27:07 · answer #10 · answered by LISA 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋