have problems because he wants sex too much, and you don't want it as much as him? If so, how does this make him feel about the relationship, and how do you handle it so that it is not a huge issue that involves arguing all the time? Thanks.
2007-08-03 04:30:01 · 21 answers · asked by starchild4485 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it is tough on the relationship..
2007-08-10 22:53:41 · answer #1 · answered by Felix 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is bound to cause problems, especially if you aren't ready to be in a sexual relationship yet. Things would probably be easier for you if you both waited until you were married. Obviously, if he's angry about sex, it's causing strain on the relationship, and you don't need that right now. If you simply tell him you don't think you two need to anymore and that you should wait, he should respect that decision and all your arguing should go away. If he doesn't want to respect you, he isn't that great of a guy, anyway.
2007-08-03 11:35:42 · answer #2 · answered by Kari Grace 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know a few people who have that problem, one wants it more than the other. Find a happy medium. The two of you need to discuss it, it may sound silly, but agree on how many times a week your going to do it and stick with it. It makes it kinds fun because when the day comes you can have some fun stuff in mind. That way the one who wants it more will be anticipating it and the one who doesn't can prepare for it. It has worked for some of my friends.
2007-08-03 11:44:52 · answer #3 · answered by junebug 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Personally i dont have a problem if my bf wants too much sex, but probably will if he dont want any at all.
In my opinion, he might feel rejected and also his need are not important to you. U can try to help him using other alternative if you dont feel like having sex. Try to express your love to your bf to let him know how you felt bout him so that he wont think of others.
2007-08-11 08:19:54 · answer #4 · answered by AK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in the begginin gof our relationship we had sex all the time, but I soon realized it was the basis of our relationship, so I backed off way off on the sex, but all I can say is it may always be an argument if he wants it all the time and u do not, it is with us, He threatens to go get it elsewhere and when he sees it does not scare me he backs off for a while, but I think if your man allways wants it and you do not it is gonna be an argument no matter what
2007-08-11 05:33:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to reassure guys of the reasons why you dont want to have sex as much as they do if you have more on your plate than they do ask for a little help so your more relaxed and more inclined to say yes we have alot more responsibilities in life than they do if you share the load so your not so stressed its easier to actually want to.
2007-08-10 16:34:42 · answer #6 · answered by laflaca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand your point here especially when your man seems to be sexually greedy and you have to having your own attitude too. I would suggest a perfect balance in your relationship, in sense that you wont be losing him or making him desperately removing himself fulfilling his greedy desire outside your scope. Talk is better than anything. Have a talk to him stating your reasons of a quite equivalent mutual fulfillment between both of you where he finds it perfect to desire you in an acceptable sufficient way and you find him enough when its exceeding its desired limits.
Find middle grounds but never stop communicating together ... guys fly away and do anything just to live in a lustful moment.
Experience is my sweet bitter tutor.
2007-08-03 11:36:40 · answer #7 · answered by Sara007 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its an issue not new. Most couples complains on this. U better indulge in it it till he tires cos steeping back or neglecting this matter, especially if u two r young, has seen repurcussions.
With time evry1 mellows down.
2007-08-11 09:25:27 · answer #8 · answered by Partho 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
welllll coming from a guy..... we alll want sex all the time.... but if we start arguin abt it and complain its coz the whole relationship is based on it........
just make him sit down and talk and let him know that the more he starts askin abt it the more u wouldnt wanna do it.....and it will just get worse from there..... If he really cares abt you he would understand ur feelins but then u have the responsibility of understanding his aswell...... "u need two hands to clap" .. its an expression that means its never one persons fault... its both of them....
2007-08-03 11:38:52 · answer #9 · answered by random Guy 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Man usually want more sex than women, it's kind of nice that he always wants some, but i usually want it too, so we don't argue much about that.
2007-08-03 11:42:51 · answer #10 · answered by Haidee 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
why would you not want to have sex as much as your bf does its a reflection of the love you have for each other in a physical way and emotional
2007-08-03 12:08:18 · answer #11 · answered by GA 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋