my girlfriend has trouble at home, he parents will soon be getting divorced. the other day, after an argument her mother repeatedly called her 'disgusting' and 'a disgrace to the family' (she didnt do some housework) while she cried and told her to stop because she was hurting her (she is 16). she is suffering emotionally and when she asked her mother to let her see a psychiatrist (preferably with her mom) her mother refused claiming it would be an emarrassment. there is only so much i can do....please offer comments and advice, thank you
2007-08-03 04:26:27 · 8 answers · asked by boredatwork 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
sorry your girlfriend is going through this.
i'm sure her mother has a lot of issues, and instead of dealing with them, and learning some good, sound coping skills, she is taking it out on your girlfriend...
her mother is an emotional midget and yes, needs some help
can your girlfriend go to her father for help to get into some sort of therapy?
if not, can she call the local health department to see if there are options for children of divorce who are having emotional problems?
it's very kind of you to want to help your girlfriend -- just having YOU around might help
you could also do a websearch for TEENS COPING WITH PARENTS DIVORCE, and similar searches... there are websites for teens and suggestions for help and coping with these problems as well.
i wish your girlfriend all the best. hugs
2007-08-03 04:30:45 · answer #1 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is gonna make a mess of her emotions and people skills, its horrible and unfortunatly wont stop when she asks her mother to stop.. and alot of times since it is her mother she may eventually believe it and loose self worth. My mother called my sister a slut all the time and well she became pregnant at 16 and is very premiscuis, So hopefully you can just be very supportive of her and assure her she isnt disgusting or a disgrace, and encourage her to see a school counselor. They can possibly get her connections to a therapist without her mother. Good luck she needs a caring friend right now be as supportive as you can.
2007-08-03 11:39:49 · answer #2 · answered by Emily May 11/10/08 :) 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be there for her to listen. Dont feel like you have to solve anything for her, just listen to her vent. Be real careful though that she doesnt use you to escape from a bad home life because that is not a good basis for a relationship. She needs positive people in her life to counter balance all the negative.
2007-08-04 02:14:54 · answer #3 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my mom once called me poisonous snake, after I complained to her about my brother's crazy antics. Just tell her to shut down those hurtful comments and not pay attention to them, sometimes people speak out of their butt.
2007-08-03 11:30:14 · answer #4 · answered by buttlerfly fly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are child support groups she can talk to, if she is still at school maybe she should try talking to a teacher she trust's at school.
2007-08-03 11:32:33 · answer #5 · answered by solo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be positive. I wouldn't get to involved in the situation because it just may make it worse. Just be there for her.
2007-08-03 11:28:46 · answer #6 · answered by Keith W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont get involved between her and her mom
as guys said, just be their for her, try hardly to stay near to her as u can, and call her from time to time to check upon her
2007-08-03 11:32:19 · answer #7 · answered by Medo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be there for her
2007-08-03 11:29:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋