Family & Relationships - 27 July 2007

Prior to agreeing to marriage, my wife knew i liked to 'play' the field so to speak and there was risk i did not quite have this out of my system yet. We also agreed that what she did not know, would not hurt her. Anyway, for the first six years, there were less than 15 occassions where i found entertainment outside the home if you know what I mean, so it was manageable. The last year the pace has picked up for some reason, its as if women are throwing themselves at me. My wife is my true love and I want to remain married - shes a great housekeeper and good friend. Anyway, she recently asked me if Id been loyal - how am I supposed to answer that one?!? If i tell her, she'll be upset even though we agreed years ago that what she did not know would be better for her. Any suggestions are appreciated - I don't want a divorce.

2007-07-27 15:50:07 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Went out twice. Went well. What goes through your mind if you have not heard from her in 3 weeks? Do you call her? Do you wait for her to call you? I have the urge to call him, but I do not want to look aggressive or needy. Need feedbacks. Serious replies only, pls!

2007-07-27 15:49:13 · 14 answers · asked by olgaacademy 1 in Singles & Dating

y do guys act so retarted.
i mean i talked to my bf about this thats affecting us than i no i shouldn't snoop around in his email so don't tell me y i did. but anyways a girl emailed him and he respond. she said that they should hang out more often and he said that they should grab more ppl and go camping again. what pissed me of is the fact when i was crying to him telling him we should spend more time 2gether and less with his frds ( they hang literally 24/7) and saying that we don't talk and its like i don't know u anymore. he didn't feel he need to mention that he talked to her, i mean she txt him and calls don't know if a lot cause i dont hang with him enough. but the point is i always tell him that we should talk more doesn't matter if its something stupid like i woke up at 11. not to check in on him more to know whats up since i don't talk to him its like i don't know what he was doing. Even if he said he went and hung out with his frd and watched a movie. TIRED OF IT ALL....

2007-07-27 15:48:43 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-07-27 15:43:38 · 14 answers · asked by Mercedes 5 in Singles & Dating

And before you ask...no..."sex" doesn't count. Seriously, what would you like a girl to ask you, and/or what topics would you prefer to discuss?

2007-07-27 15:41:42 · 7 answers · asked by Bennett 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-07-27 15:39:39 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

2007-07-27 15:38:56 · 5 answers · asked by meg 1 in Friends

Well he kissed a girl but I know he liked her but has always loved me. I broke up with him after he did that.. That was the right thing to do right? We had 6 months and then I broke up with him. He was always a good friend but I do miss him. I'm not going to take him back but should I stay friends with him? HOW DO YOU STAY FRIENDS WITH AN EX??

2007-07-27 15:38:51 · 15 answers · asked by The German Girl Next Door. 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-07-27 15:38:06 · 6 answers · asked by cptadam031969 1 in Singles & Dating

I have a good husband. He is a good father to my one year old daughter, he helps me clean sometimes, and he is mostly sensitive to my feelings. However, he is generally uninterested in me unless he wants to have sex. He will not talk to me for hours at a time, and I feel like I am living with a miserable person. When we go out with my family he is bored and unexcitable. He does not take me on dates or surprise me with any romantic gestures. I am 22 and he is 30, and while at first i didnt think age was an issue, I am begining to think that I am too young for him. I want to have fun, especially after a difficult year working full time and taking care of a growing baby. I feel like the best solution is to separate, because it is too late to work on our marriage. I cheated on him. (he's unaware ) I do not feel I am a bad person for what I did, I think I have just given up on my marriage. He says he will change, and I believe him, I just dont know if I care anymore.

2007-07-27 15:37:50 · 22 answers · asked by Gitana 1 in Marriage & Divorce

The communtiy with Black man and white women...
Togather...

2007-07-27 15:36:08 · 15 answers · asked by Deon S 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-07-27 15:36:01 · 12 answers · asked by mamameeg3 1 in Weddings

the ex was not willing to commit to me as much as i did for the past 4 yrs, he never cheated when we were together, but i felt as he did not put enough effort. thats why i left him.
now we meet up for lunch here and there. should i try again or change my # and never talk to him again?

2007-07-27 15:34:08 · 17 answers · asked by carrie_polska 1 in Singles & Dating

My husband is an alcoholic/drug addict. We had a huge fight on June 13 and I haven't heard of seen him since. I have tried calling his family, friends and nobody has heard from him either. He does have a job working offshore and i don't know if he is even working. I have called and left messages at his job, and still no response. How can a husband do this to his wife? Should I take his behavior as him telling me that he has not intentions of ever coming back? his alcohol and drug addiction has been the very root of our problems but i have always stuck it out with him and been there for him. he makes excellent money working offshore and I have not seen one dime! what would you do?

2007-07-27 15:32:29 · 28 answers · asked by juju43 1 in Marriage & Divorce

long story short: my crush and i both told each other we like the other, but don't consider ourselves bf/gf.

i want to know why he won't ask me to be his gf, and i want to ask him why, but i dunno how or if i should. please help? thnx in advance.

2007-07-27 15:29:47 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

He's been in jail for making a few bad decisions after another. It landed him 3 years away from his daughter. The last time he's seen her was when she was 3 mon old. Of course she doesn't know who he is and neither did I school her on who he was. I have been with the same guy for 3 years. He's been there for me and my daughter since she was 3 month old. When she turned 1 she called my boyfriend daddy I corrected her and told her that was "John". That mistake stopped her from called me mama. She then started calling him by name and me too. Finally when she made the terrible twos, I explained to her I was mama and thats what I should be called. She then started calling my boyfriend daddy. This time I didn't correct her. So we've been happilly ever after since.

Until I get a phone call from her biological father. He wants to see the baby. I decided to meet him at a local park.

Additional Details

23 hours ago
He walked up and called her name and she answered but when he started walking toward her she said "I don't like you" "You're bad" I'm gonna beat you up if you touch me" "Leave me alone". Before you jump to conclusions I taught my daughter to recognize and scream if a stranger is bothering you. She figured he was a stranger. She ran from him and refused to let him hold her. I never once corrected any of her feelings because I knew it wasn't programmed feelings it was just the way my daughter felt. I feel bad for not correcting my daughters behavior but then I felt like if I would have I would have been confusing her. When I told her that that was her daddy she said "No he's not I have a daddy already" and then she said my boyfriend's name. The biological father left saying it seems like a happy family and I don't wanna intrude so I'm gone and he left!!!

Any thoughts or suggestions would be helpful because I am confused.

23 hours ago
The biological father has never been consistent with providing for her or even just taking care of her if I have something to do or just needs a babysitter. I don't want to take away a man who has been consistent each and everytime for a guy who hasn't the slightest clue on how to take care of a little girl. I want him there but its not mandatory that he be there full time in my eyes because they have a guy that plans on being there full time already.

From singing the bo-bo song when she hurts herself to adding her to his health insurance this guy is the one

2007-07-27 15:29:24 · 9 answers · asked by Niinnaa 3 in Family

It's not fair. Guys want to marry virgins, but they've already had sex with a ton of girls. :-(

2007-07-27 15:24:43 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Well one of my best friends got pretty annoying and so i kinda stopped hanging with her but I was still nice to her. Then someone heard me telling my best best friend that was starting not to like her. she said no one does. One of the snobby mean popular girs in my school overheard and told my friend. She was sad and stuff. she e-mailed me and asked me why dont people like me? she was still my friend so I had to be truthful to her. so I told her everything. she got mad and changed all my replys to the e-mail and sent it to all my friends and no one believed her of course. So she got even madder and started telling my friends that if they didnt hang out with her she would spread rumors aout them so against their will my friends did it. then i told my former best friend that i was tired of her crap and that i hated her and i didnt want to be her friend. she acted like she was happy and then at school everyday she sat in a corner and acted sad. Is it my fault that our friendship is over?

2007-07-27 15:20:09 · 19 answers · asked by smiley_roxs 3 in Friends

Usually it's small kisses from about 20 ft. But one time it was his whole hand across his mouth from about 75 feet. Then he walked up and asked me if I liked that. I said I did and wiped his face a little like he had the kiss on his chin...dribbling down..

2007-07-27 15:19:57 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-07-27 15:19:09 · 22 answers · asked by Wrong number 5 in Singles & Dating

For women out there that have been cheated by there boyfriend or husband. Did you give him another chance, and if you did, did you ever learn to trust him again?

2007-07-27 15:11:13 · 16 answers · asked by missM 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I have been noticing lately my dad's strange behavior. I have found porn sites on the computer, he gets on aol at weird times in the day, he has a myspace and he isn't telling anyone, and my parents fight a lot. I don't know what to do, I was thinking about confronting my Dad about some of this, but I don't know what to do.

One time he was on aol at home and I asked who he was talking to and he said no one and I saw a window blinking at the bottom so he was lying...I don't know what to do, or what he is doing....PLEASE HELP!

2007-07-27 15:09:12 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

I moved heaven and earth, moved out of state and re-established myself here to make the relationship work. Unfortuantely, it didn't. I told her I couldn't make the finances work. She quit her job shortly after I came here. She told me that I wasn't concerned about her because I waited to tell her I was having trouble supporting us both, and paying my child support and alimony. (I didn't leave my ex-wife for her, ex-wife left me for someone else). I'm getting tired. Any hope for this?

2007-07-27 15:09:06 · 13 answers · asked by PersonalImprov 2 in Marriage & Divorce

what is the best way you know on how to pick up a girl?
im not talking bout on myspace or the internet.
im talking about a random girl you just meet outside and that you dont even know at all.
guys feel free to answer this
girls, tell us what you DONT want us to do
no pick up lines please even though they crack me up :D

2007-07-27 15:08:05 · 12 answers · asked by theownly1 2 in Singles & Dating

ok, well im shy, but a lot of boys ask me out, or want my number!!
I dont feel comfortable saying yes, because i dont know what to expect out of the relationship! being a teenager im not comfortable having sex! How do I overcome my timidness by opening up while setting my ground rule (NO SEX!!)

2007-07-27 15:04:50 · 7 answers · asked by Sarah L 1 in Singles & Dating

Hard luck Mario,I am a male.
You could be looking in the wrong places.

2007-07-27 15:03:10 · 1 answers · asked by starone 3 in Singles & Dating

I had a bad day today and my guy friend new it. He invited me over to his house but i couldnt go. He said he invited me over to cheer me up. Then like 5 sec.s l8er, hes calling me cute and pretty and awesome on aim? Is he truly flirting or just trying ot cheer me up?

2007-07-27 15:02:35 · 2 answers · asked by bearr<3 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-07-27 14:59:04 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My boyfriend and I have been together a long time now and he's going to be getting deployed to Iraq in September. We're both pretty young and therefore broke so its not like we can take off for a week together anytime soon. But I would really like some ideas on short weekend getaways or trip ideas that we can do before he leaves?

2007-07-27 14:55:57 · 1 answers · asked by rigrl 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

Is it possible to come back to a new life & meet then marry a spouse from a past life?

2007-07-27 14:53:15 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce