I'm unsure...?

Question

long story short: my crush and i both told each other we like the other, but don't consider ourselves bf/gf.

i want to know why he won't ask me to be his gf, and i want to ask him why, but i dunno how or if i should. please help? thnx in advance.

i dont wanna ask him cuz i dont wanna intrude on whatevers preventing him. yes, he can be shy. i had my turn leading by telling him i liked him first & asking him if he liked me.

MY QUESTION: how do i find out whats up without intruding?

i mean, what if its a family or a parent preventing thing, or maybe he's sensitive.
how do i ask him about that?

Answer 1

dont ask him if hes going to ask you out, because if he WAS planning on it, which he probably is, you'll ruin it for him.

Answer 2

Well let's see, were the both of you friends before the reveal? If so, (I feel that) things may be a bit awkward/tense because the reveal may have nudged your friendship to the next level. My suggestion is to not let things be awkward. If he's not making the move to keep things straight then you do it. It's really not that hard, I'm sure you can find things to talk about: summer events, movies, music, jobs, school, etc...

If you can sense that he still seems hesitant than the reveal may have shook him up. But give him a little time.. a couple days at most before trying to talk to him again. Try to remember to relax, if you were friends before this it meant you two got along, it means you had common interests, it means something was there between you two that kept the friendship in tact.

If you really want to ask him why he hasn't asked you to be his gf then do so! But maybe not in that way... try starting off by asking something like "so what do you think about what happened?" Then.. "so what's the deal?" and if you're feeling brave, let him know you're ready for a relationship. If he isn't than there isn't that much you can do.. and let me tell you first, waiting for a guy who isn't ready isn't a smart thing to do.

Wow, it seems like I can just go on and on, sorry if you wanted a short answer: Just go for it and ask him, you'll never know if you don't try and you may regret not asking if you let the opportunities slip by.

Answer 3

So you like each other. Maybe he likes other girls too.
If he doesn't want to be your bf then maybe you need to go looking for someone who does.
Things dont always work out and sometimes a boy will tell you what he thinks you want to hear to avoid a scene.

Answer 4

You don't ask someone to be your bf or gf. It's not like a proposal for marriage. If you are having qualms about it just ask him straight out, "are we together?" When you are someone's bf/gf, it just happens. It's something that is understood.

Answer 5

thats a toughie.
first things first. keep hanging around with him and doing your girlie thing. than maybe, at the right moment, you should bring up the topic. But don't sound like your desperate, cause that might screw things up. hope ima help..good luck

Answer 6

Most likely he doesn't want a commited relationship right now. If you want to be, don't wait for him. Life is too short for that.

Answer 7

Maybe you should stop waiting for guys to make the move and be pro-active for once!

Just do it without looking like a s lut (pick one guy and make the move!)

Answer 8

he just wants to feel free or maybe not ready for a relationship.

Answer 9

i think you should flirt with other guys around him (just don't take it too far) maybe that will encourage him to ask you out.

Answer 10

Some boyz r like shy.so ask him.