I moved heaven and earth, moved out of state and re-established myself here to make the relationship work. Unfortuantely, it didn't. I told her I couldn't make the finances work. She quit her job shortly after I came here. She told me that I wasn't concerned about her because I waited to tell her I was having trouble supporting us both, and paying my child support and alimony. (I didn't leave my ex-wife for her, ex-wife left me for someone else). I'm getting tired. Any hope for this?
2007-07-27 15:09:06 · 13 answers · asked by PersonalImprov 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Need to add that she is in law school, I asked her to work part time to help.
2007-07-27 16:11:30 · update #1
I had been giving her 1400/mo to pay bills, then told her today that it's increasingly difficult, borrowing money to pay bills. I'm not going bankrupt.
2007-07-27 16:15:13 · update #2
Your wife is making excuses for the fact that she is unhappy and has been. If she wants a divorce after the things you have tried to do then your marriage is probably over. The last thing you can try is marriage counseling. If she is unwilling then I see no other means of alternative.
2007-07-27 16:18:32 · answer #1 · answered by Carrie C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first question is if your wife left YOU for someone else then why are you paying alimony? Child support yes alimony no. That shows right there your the type that will roll over and not stand up for yourself. Time to make some changes the first is the wife she showed her true color when she didn't understand and go back to work. If she doesn't feel a need to help out then just leave and go back home then when you get there call your ex and tell her the alimony is over and get a REAL attorney and take her back to court a good attorney will get the alimony dropped and child support only.
2007-07-27 15:48:22 · answer #2 · answered by miester44 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she wasn't aware of how bad things were financially and you just sprung a "guess what dear, we're bankrupt" she has every right to be a bit upset. Especially if she thought you guys were doing fine. Now, once she cools down in a day or two, any reasonable woman would start looking for a job.
My husband wanted me to quit working right after we got married. I almost did. I'm so glad I didn't as he spent most of the last two years laid off at one job after another. It's hard to get back into the workforce. Especially if you really didn't have skills so much as you had years put in at your job. She may be going back to work back at a buck or 2 over minimum wage. That would have me downright angry too. Especially if she had worked her way into some kind of seniority.
2007-07-27 16:11:01 · answer #3 · answered by Unknown.... 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear about your situation. I'm sure it eats you up sometimes and can be very hard. Lets get to business and not allow any delusions to continue, shall we? First of all, she's not in love with you! This is why she's been hopeless and lazy. By getting a divorce, she's doing you both a huge favor! So be thankful! Secondly, asking her to work is not why she's asking for a divorce! It's just an easier copout! Move on with your life and be glad to be rid of the dead weight. Once you are free to find someone much better for you, you'll be glad this happened! Also, there's no use blaming her when her feelings are involved. We all make mistakes in relationships and all deal with them within our capabilities.
2007-07-27 15:22:47 · answer #4 · answered by oogabooga37 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her she is being selfish because she wants to sit on her behind and watch u get stressed about making ends meet. She does not care about the family yall formed together. Doesn' t she know this is not the 60's and it takes 2 to make it these days.
2007-07-27 15:15:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She won't go to work to help you both financially? Tell her to hit the road. Marraige is a team & if 1 person in that team is struggling than the other person should step up. Sounds like a lazy moocher to me.
2007-07-27 15:33:35 · answer #6 · answered by texas tornado 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ditch her and find a real woman who is a contributing factor to the household income... sounds like shes just a leach anyways
2007-07-27 15:15:28 · answer #7 · answered by silkbutterfly1973 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Someone's a little selfish leech. Time to kick her to the curb.
2007-07-27 15:15:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she looks at you as a meal ticket... sorry.. but my bf is going through the same thing you are///only he has job stress.. i keep trying to get him to quit// if only to save what we have together.. he will find something else.. but will he.. no ..
2007-07-27 15:15:47 · answer #9 · answered by vis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
law school, i can see who's going to get ahead on this relationship
2007-07-27 17:07:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋