Prior to agreeing to marriage, my wife knew i liked to 'play' the field so to speak and there was risk i did not quite have this out of my system yet. We also agreed that what she did not know, would not hurt her. Anyway, for the first six years, there were less than 15 occassions where i found entertainment outside the home if you know what I mean, so it was manageable. The last year the pace has picked up for some reason, its as if women are throwing themselves at me. My wife is my true love and I want to remain married - shes a great housekeeper and good friend. Anyway, she recently asked me if Id been loyal - how am I supposed to answer that one?!? If i tell her, she'll be upset even though we agreed years ago that what she did not know would be better for her. Any suggestions are appreciated - I don't want a divorce.
2007-07-27 15:50:07 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if she really was your true love you would never even think of doing something like that with someone else. keep your d*** in your pants. get a divorce. if you really loved her you wouldn't have done it in the first place
2007-07-27 16:09:24 · answer #1 · answered by jenni 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All the women that have been brought to you since you married were temptations to test your loyalty to you wife. You failed each and every time. The pace has picked up because you are not getting the lesson. That loyalty and fidelity to your wife will be your choice, each and every day, as long as you are married. If your wife is your true love, you will choose today and every day to honor the promise you made in your marriage vows, to love and honor her; to be faithful to her. If you cannot keep that promise, you need to be honest with her. If she accepts your "finding entertainment outside the home", she will stay with you. If she has one ounce of dignity, she will tell you to be on your way, leaving you free to accept the offers of all these other women, guilt-free.
Your choice. Decide what is important to you. A different bed every night or your true love. Your choice. Pass the test or fail, again and again.
2007-07-27 15:57:50 · answer #2 · answered by friendlyadvice 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow! How incredibly convenient for you... World is full of women with very little self respect, who throw their life away on a guy, who never stopped dating... Who doesn't mind being married, as long as he doesn't have to sacrifice anything at all... What probably happened in your marriage, while you were out enjoying yourself, your wife got older and wiser. She had grown and became a self respecting lady, she isn't the one you married so many years ago... So I suggest: grow up and become a true husband she really deserves and needs. Otherwise you might lose her forever. BTW, if I were you, I would make sure I don't bring home any unhealthy 'presents' from your little adventures.
2007-07-27 16:08:06 · answer #3 · answered by ms.sophisticate 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok for one that is a really horrible thing to do to your so called true love. I would tell her, whether you agreed not to tell her or not because she deserves at the absolute least to know what you have done to her. She deserves someone who can stay loyal to her, maybe you should think about giving her the same loyalty I'm sure she gives you.
2007-07-27 15:54:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree that women DO throw themselves on men nowadays not just on YOU.
Personally I have yet to meet a one-woman-man.
It doesn't mean that all men are cheaters, it's just the way it is. Period.
Thus I adivse you to stop feeling guilty, and instead to be proud of your choice to remain married and keep on seeing the positive side of your wife. Cheating is relative.
Just stay cool when asked about your infidelities. Your wife probably just needs a little ego boost, assuming that she is not in fact digging for trouble.
Do not wake up the sleeping dogs is my motto.
2007-07-27 16:01:46 · answer #5 · answered by firefaerie 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You swayed from your vows. Now it's time to fess up and pay the consequences. Had you been faithful, you wouldn't be in the situation. Be a man, prove to her you love and respect her enough to be honest with her. At least give her that much.
I am only being honest with you. No judgment here. Just my opinion.
Best of luck to you.
2007-07-27 16:06:44 · answer #6 · answered by justme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know how she could have been serious that 'what she doesnt know wont hurt her'. And even if she was, thats horrible that you could do that. I dont see how you see her as your true love if youre screwing other women. Ugh I cannot stand men that cheat. You should tell her and you probably will get a divorce unless shes really dumb
2007-07-27 15:57:19 · answer #7 · answered by May 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
seems your honesty and loyalty are on test on this kind of situation. that when you're honest to your wife, saying you were not be as good husband behind her back, im sure he will be hurt and upset. and when you keep all your secret it to your self your fooling yourself. so what you want?
2007-07-27 16:02:16 · answer #8 · answered by taurust_girl27 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are many people in your situation.
You should probably be upfront with her and say no, you haven't been loyal, but that you still love her and still want to be with her.
Remind her of your agreement.
2007-07-27 15:54:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it is plausible despite if not usually, and often one is often enjoyed greater. merely on account that is plausible does not make it ideal. what's the factor of having married in case you don't make plans to be truthful. this is what breaks marriages up, not keeps them collectively.
2016-09-30 22:47:12 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋