Family & Relationships - 23 July 2007

My boyfriend and I have been fighting a lot lately. He seems to think that because we are dating that I should just shell out money whenever he asks. Here is the most recent argument tell me if I am wrong: He asked to borrow my car.
"I ask what's wrong with your car?".
"I dont have gas."
"Why dont you put gas in your car?"
"I dont have money"
"No, you have money to buy ciggarettes use it to buy gas. or go ask your mom for gas money."
"I dont want to ask her. I am asking you. Do even you care if i run out of gas?"
"You obviously dont so why should I?"
"You are selfish and stingy. You have a job it wount hurt you to let me use your car or to give me gas money."
I work fulltime and i go to school fulltime. He is out of school but unemployed. He always has money or time to do what he wants to do but expects me to pay for stuff when he mismanages money. I am tired of it. I feel like I am being taken for granted and being taken advantage of. What do you think??

2007-07-23 09:46:54 · 26 answers · asked by kystik83 3 in Marriage & Divorce

Just a curious question for those of you in relationships right now. (Or if you said it in a previous relationship.)

2007-07-23 09:46:11 · 22 answers · asked by Mel 6 in Singles & Dating

we went out twice. he's into things like sports and cars, very outgoing. i'm more laid-back but i'm up for anything fun and new. im also shy, i don't know why he asked me out for a 2nd date, which went fine but now i don't know if he's as interested as he was before! please help. and please do not answer my question with "sex will keep him interested" LOL

2007-07-23 09:43:58 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I was living in a foster home with this lady and two other teenaged girls. I will be eighteen in a couple of days and I have been living with this lady for 2 years. I am on my way to college and I have 2 jobs. i'm not a trouble maker at all. One of the girls recently cursed her out and she still allowed the girl to stay in her home. I recently snuck out of the house to meet my boyfriend at the park late at night. I was only gone 30 mins at the most. The other girls on the other hand didn't come home until 4 a.m. My foster parent found out about it and now she is putting me (and the other girls) out. I feel like she gave the other girl a second chance so she should give me one too. She said she is dissappointed in me because she had more trust in me. I feel like it was nothing compared to what the other girls did. I also feel horrible. This is the first time I ever did something like this and I feel horrible. Why won't she let me stay?

2007-07-23 09:43:57 · 10 answers · asked by ladie p 1 in Family

I have a terrible, basically non-existant relationship with my father. He mentally abused me for about 8 or 9 years until I basically cut things off with him (when I went off to college). The other day he physically abused me for the first time, at my grandfather's birthday party in front of everyone. I don't want answers such as "just cut him out of your life" "your an adult, just don't talk to him." I know all that, I've already ignored his emails and will not answer the phone if he ever calls and I will avoid future family parties if I know he is going to be there. I miss everyone else but its just not worth it. The reason I want to be legally separated from him is because I know that he has a LOT of debt and when he is gone I don't want anyone chasing after me for the money. I don't want to have to deal with his mistakes when they have nothing to do with me. If there is some secret cash when he dies, I don't want it, I want nothing of his, debt or cash or otherwise.

2007-07-23 09:43:50 · 11 answers · asked by Darlin 1 in Family

I've been with my boyfriend for four years. Through out the four years his parents has always dislike me. They will find all kinds of excuse to call me lazy. He is vietnamese and i am chinese. Although our culture are similar i don't speak the language. I don't know how to cook their food, i dont know what their tradition is. His dad constantly trying to break us up and last night he told me i need to get all my stuff and leave and if his son choose to be on your side he will disown him. My boyfriend is torn. He loves me but than he only has one dad. I want to make it easy for him and just leave, but his mom tells me to stay because she sees how unhappy her son is. I don't smoke i don't drink i don't gamble. I try to stay out of his way why does he still hate me so? I said nothing but cry. What should i do? Listen to his mom or Just leave like his dad demand? I'm afraid i will create more problems. I want to leave but i can't and don't want to live without the love of my life. plz Help

2007-07-23 09:43:00 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

you are scared when we talk about "comitment" or "marriage" words???does anyone believe in Happy ever after anymore???(yes, i know some women the same...)

(Please not stupid answers)thank you!

2007-07-23 09:41:50 · 7 answers · asked by Rute A 3 in Singles & Dating

I'm in love with this 16 yr old boy and he loves me to but he don't know it i mean he knows that i like him..... he is my sisters brother i don't know what to do every one keeps telling me i'm nasty but he's not related to me please help. i think i need dr. phill ha ha ha oh thats not funny i think i should.. oh help me.

2007-07-23 09:41:01 · 21 answers · asked by alesha1995 1 in Singles & Dating

Like they are different and more odd and detached than before, even from friends and their kids

2007-07-23 09:40:38 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

A woman has started to get really close to guy, and they have started to get intimate...One evening after getting intimate, the woman decided to leave a pair of her undies with the guy--They continue to go out. After a few weeks, they have a falling out, and she demands that he returns her undies. Is the guy under any obligation to return them after she purposely left them at the guy's place so long ago? Isn't this a strange request?

2007-07-23 09:40:21 · 25 answers · asked by dantiuspalaptine 3 in Singles & Dating

Their is this guy Jo I used to know last year, who I met through some other people I know. I was never thrilled with Jo...... But I kinda always knew he wanted one thing, by the way he was hinting it to me. He told me he truely loved me after 10 minutes of meeting him and he wanted to marry me. I didn't have any attraction to this guy and I didn't like his personality and I didn't trust him. Some other person I knew went behind me back against my will and this Jo guy my cell and my e-mail. I told Jo I only wanted to me friends, but he was pissed off after that, because he wanted more. He tryed conning my mom into making her think that he's a good guy. He told me I was beautiful every 5 minutes, how annoying. After I saw a few of his friends a few months ago, the phone calls would't stop and he invited me over his house a year later and said it would be me and him and 4 other guys what was he planning. And no I never attended the event

2007-07-23 09:39:42 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Do men really like when a women makes the first move?

2007-07-23 09:39:22 · 17 answers · asked by CurlySue 3 in Singles & Dating

i have one! but like its weird we are kinda 'seeing' each other but we see other people too but the sex is great!!

do you think we should stop or is it harmless fun?

some of my mates think i should stop while others think i shouldn't

2007-07-23 09:38:23 · 57 answers · asked by LaLaLouisa 1 in Singles & Dating

Is it not male instict to sew his seed in as many places as possible? Why do you think the idea of monogamy came about? And why do most men want to sleep around?

(note to girls, I know your boyfriend says he doesn't want to sleep around, and he probably won't if he loves you. This doesn't mean he doesn't want to)

2007-07-23 09:37:04 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

that an old guy friend from high school was coming over today, and i wanted him to know and that he can come too. I thought i was being honest,that's how i expect our relationship to be.On the contrary,he screamed at me,saying that was disrespectful.
I told my friend not to come now.How can i fix this now with my b/f when he gets home ? What can i expect ?

2007-07-23 09:36:54 · 17 answers · asked by dersexy 1 in Singles & Dating

My boyfriend and I have been fighting a lot lately. He seems to think that because we are dating that I should just shell out monry whenever he asks. Here is the most recent argument tell me if I am wrong: He asked to borrow my car.
"I ask what't wrong with your car?".
"I dont have gas."
"Why dont you out gas in your car?"
"I dont have money"
"No, you have money to buy ciggarettes use it to buy gas. or go ask your mom for gas money?"
"Do you care if i run out of gas?"
"You obviously dont so why should I?"
"You are selfish and stingy. You have a job it wount hurt you to let me use your car or to give me gas money."
I work fulltime and i go to school fulltime. He is out of school but unemployed. He always has money or time to do what he wants to do but expects me to pay for stuff when he mismanages money. I am tired of it. I feel like I am being taken for granted and being taken advantage of. What do you think??

2007-07-23 09:35:50 · 10 answers · asked by kystik83 3 in Singles & Dating

I want to tell my bf that iam not happy with the sex (he comes too fast ALWAYS) i havent said anything becuase i dont want to hurt his feelings...How should i tell him???

2007-07-23 09:35:15 · 36 answers · asked by Jennifer 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

ok anyone know if there is a contest to get a date with jason dolley if so please tell me it because its a present for a friend

2007-07-23 09:33:13 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

he just treats me like im nothing and just complains and hollars, im so sick of it, we have no kids and he tells me ill never make it on my own even though i will , i only have a year of school left, we are 23 and he is 25, only he acts like my father more than my husband, he is controlling, but i wish i klnew how to make it work, please any advice?

2007-07-23 09:32:26 · 17 answers · asked by Mamma in the making 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Hello,
I am just wondering how does one go about getting more vagina in there life? I have a few currently but, thats not enough.

2007-07-23 09:31:02 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

ok i like this boy sooooo much and idont know how to tell him that and show him, he's sister says that he likes me but i still dont know, i feel like im gonna burst out crying if i dont talk to him or see him

can somebody please help mmeeeee??

2007-07-23 09:30:14 · 5 answers · asked by gabby 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-07-23 09:28:16 · 2 answers · asked by younglou 1 in Weddings

Why do guys like to mess with your head?

Just realised someone who I thought was single, is actually seeing someone and is obviously just using me. Not impressed.

There's a severe shortage of decent guys it seems!

2007-07-23 09:27:45 · 19 answers · asked by abcd 5 in Singles & Dating

He always waits for people to leave out of the room and he tells me how pretty I am and how thick my legs are and how he wishes that he can break up with her and he always wants a hug. I really like him as her bf and a brother, but it grosses me out.

2007-07-23 09:27:01 · 9 answers · asked by DetroitFynest 2 in Singles & Dating

About a year ago, my boyfriend and I got engaged; we immediately set the date for late October 2007. The night that we announced our engagement to our parents, I excitedly called many of my friends to tell them the good news. Along the way, I mentioned to a few of my closer girl friends that I wanted them to be bridesmaids, including a girl I've been okay friends with for a few years. In the year since then, we've hardly spoken to her at all...or rather,she's hardly spoken to us. If I call her, she only talks for a few minutes, and never calls me back; if I comment her on MySpace or Facebook she doesn't respond;and all in all, we've grown apart immensely. At the same time,my sister and I,who were never very close before, have gotten very close and talk very often. I would really like to replace the mutual friend with my sister,but I don't know if there's any tactful way to handle the situation other than just accepting it. Am I stuck with this fair-weather friend as a bridesmaid?

2007-07-23 09:24:29 · 43 answers · asked by Sara J 2 in Weddings

that a guys "size" DOES matter??

thats just as shallow isnt it? most girls will respond with "breast size doesnt effect sexual pleasure" but in reality yes it DOES. its stimuli.

now i know i probably am coming off as a guy who is "Small". but im not. in fact i a big. and alot of girls know this and try to hit on me instead of a friend of mine or something. i think its sad that women are that shallow these days. and even though i meet the standard for a "size queen" i would NEVER date one.

2007-07-23 09:24:17 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-07-23 09:24:09 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

i want to get my bf REALLY hard before i leave in the morning so he is thinking about me allll day long ;) then when i get home we'll be all over eachother, i never have a problem getting him hard, i was just wondering what guys think makes them harder than ever
also ive heard that when a girl is giving a guy a bj, that the guy likes it if the chick sticks her finger up his @$$, is this true? i dont want to try it if he's going to be freaked out by it

2007-07-23 09:21:14 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I dont get it. I start to "talk" to a guy and I feel very interested. Then when it comes to them asking me out or dating, I get this bad feeling and I dont want to be involved with them relationship-wise anymore. I choose friendship and I feel WAY happier. If I do end up going out with them, I realize I dont like them. When Im "interested" and I think about a relationship, everything just dies. I dont understand that if I dont like them, why am I so interested as if I like them? Becuase Im pretty sure i dont?

Do I just not want to be alone or.... I dont know.

2007-07-23 09:21:03 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My fiance's sister (who is 2 years younger than us) seems to have a problem with me. She and I got on great at first but now she seems to hate me! She is constantly bitchy to me and even when I'm nothing to do with it, she brings me u during family arguements. Its like she resents my presence. My fiance's grandparents and I get on great, because we make the effort to visit them often and we enjoy their company. I also get on very well with my fiances aunt, uncle and cousins. I work in his uncles business now and have a very good bond with all of them. Without meaning to sound bad, I think she may be jealous because I have been really accepted by the family. However, whereas before my future parents in law and i used to have a very good relationship, now that is suffering because my fiances mother doest want to look like she is favouring me over her daughter, which is understandable, but it is making me feel very uncomfortable... any advice would be greatly appreciated. thanks x

2007-07-23 09:20:48 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships