that an old guy friend from high school was coming over today, and i wanted him to know and that he can come too. I thought i was being honest,that's how i expect our relationship to be.On the contrary,he screamed at me,saying that was disrespectful.
I told my friend not to come now.How can i fix this now with my b/f when he gets home ? What can i expect ?
2007-07-23 09:36:54 · 17 answers · asked by dersexy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Were you ever serious with the old guy friend before you went out with your now boyfriend? If yes, I see why your boyfriend may be mad cause he's afraid of you going back to him, but if you never dated the guy and told your boyfriend he can come over too just say to him I honestly did not mean to be disrespectful to you , he is just a friend I wanted you to meet cause I do not want to hide anything from you, I would never think of cheating on you, maybe your boyfriend feels a little insecure cause he just doesn't want to lose you.
Good luck
2007-07-23 09:57:03 · answer #1 · answered by Hmmm... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were up front and honest. You invited him to come over. Obviously your boyfriend has a jealous streak and is very insecure. You need to call him on this behavior. Tell him you don't appreciate him freaking out when you're being honest and faithful. He'll probably get even more mad, but don't back down. This isn't your fault, and you must not accept the blame for it. Just tell him that you have friends that you see on occasion, and if he doesn't want to visit with them he doesn't have to, but you expect him to trust you and allow you to have friends.
He may not like that, but if you back down now, he'll eventually force you to avoid any friend he doesn't like. Do you want that?
2007-07-23 16:44:08 · answer #2 · answered by rohak1212 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your bf is a controlling a ss. He should not make you break your plans with an old friend from High School. I bet that he would have no problem coming over and meeting one of your female friends from school. Tell him to grow the F up and quit being so possessive....unless you are one of those people that enjoys having their man tell them exactly what they can and can't do........Maybe he can smack you the nose with a newspaper like a little puppy because that is how he is treating you.
2007-07-23 16:43:07 · answer #3 · answered by Lookin-2-Talk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thought that you did the right thing by telling your boyfriend about your friend coming over. He apparently has trust issues, but I would still have my friend come over, you are showing your bf that every time he doesn't like something and screams at you, you are going to do what he wants. You were not going to do anything wrong, and I think yr bf should understand.
2007-07-23 16:41:53 · answer #4 · answered by Jennifer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All you have to tell your b/f is that you want to catch up with an old friend and he can be there to supervise.
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Let your boyfriend know that you care about him and that you don't want to disrespect him. So talk it over with him and get both of your opinions out on the table.
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Call your boyfriend and tell him that you are not in a relationship with your old friend BUT that your in a relationship with him and that he should trust you and you should be able to trust him.
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Tell him that you want your friends to be his friends and vice-versa.
Make sure you say it in a calm way so that you all don't start an argument.
2007-07-23 16:50:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girly....you cant fix this...he says your being disrepectful....he is the one that yelled at you...you dont have to apoligize to him because you can do what you want. If he acts like that the relationship can only get worse...do you really see yourself in years with someone who can take something like out of proportion. Its not worth it...You shouldnt have to explain anything to him its your life and you can do what you want...if he doesnt trust you then your in for a lot more fights than this
2007-07-23 16:43:27 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you're living with your bf he was probably angry to have not been consulted before you told your old guy friend he could come over. Expect some hurt feelings and probably another argument...
2007-07-23 16:44:32 · answer #7 · answered by SodaLicious 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what?! he has no right to be mad at u, hes just an old friend coming to see u, ur bf is being way to protective! and u weren't being disrespectful at all! atleast u told him that he was coming over! im srry to say this, but ur bf has issues! if he dosent like the fact that u just wanna see an old friend, then that's his own damn problem, not urs!
2007-07-23 16:44:08 · answer #8 · answered by hunterjumper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can expect the b/f to only get worse. Tell him to screw off!!! You were not wrong in this instance. He was being a d*ck. Sounds like an a**.
2007-07-23 16:41:18 · answer #9 · answered by texas tornado 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think your boyfriend has some insecurity issues, I also would be concerned about his temper, if he gets that upset over something that trivial then I would be a little afraid.
2007-07-23 16:43:14 · answer #10 · answered by special k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋