My boyfriend and I have been fighting a lot lately. He seems to think that because we are dating that I should just shell out money whenever he asks. Here is the most recent argument tell me if I am wrong: He asked to borrow my car.
"I ask what's wrong with your car?".
"I dont have gas."
"Why dont you put gas in your car?"
"I dont have money"
"No, you have money to buy ciggarettes use it to buy gas. or go ask your mom for gas money."
"I dont want to ask her. I am asking you. Do even you care if i run out of gas?"
"You obviously dont so why should I?"
"You are selfish and stingy. You have a job it wount hurt you to let me use your car or to give me gas money."
I work fulltime and i go to school fulltime. He is out of school but unemployed. He always has money or time to do what he wants to do but expects me to pay for stuff when he mismanages money. I am tired of it. I feel like I am being taken for granted and being taken advantage of. What do you think??
2007-07-23 09:46:54 · 26 answers · asked by kystik83 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think its time you found a real man... not a boy trapped in a man's body. Men borrowing money from women is just icky... unless you are a banker. C'mon.... is this a guy you WANT to call your boyfriend? You can do better than this... find a real man who will treat you like a princess, not like an ATM machine
2007-07-23 09:52:59 · answer #1 · answered by Aron1968_30 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not being unreasonable. And you are being taken advantage of. You are going to school and working fulltime and he is not doing anything. Where is his self respect???? It is ok to help out when help is really needed but he is going too far. Don't feel guilty when he calls you selfish and stingy. He is the one looking for a free ride - you are NOT wrong. Is he at least looking for employment? What if he gets into accident with your car? If you are uncomfortable about this and you are getting a bad feeling, then you are probably right. If he lacks ambition and you are always helping him, he will never stop and will always expect you to take care of him. Find someone who is your equal and don't settle just to have a boyfriend.
2007-07-23 10:08:45 · answer #2 · answered by Babycat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes girl! You are being taken for granted and being taken advantage of. I think you did the right thing by saying what you did to him. If cigarettes are move important than gas...then let him buy the cigarettes and then he will have to accept the fact that he doesn't have gas money. He sounds like a BIG LOSER! Here is a thought...LOSE THE LOSER!
2007-07-23 09:56:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If I was a black woman I'd say "you go girl" or "right on girlfriend"; but I'm not.
Tell him you aren't a bank and not to equate love with money. Now if you guys were married that would be one thing, but this is not the case. You are being taken for granted. Tell him to get a job and to start spoiling you a little bit.
2007-07-23 10:07:51 · answer #4 · answered by Tim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are being taken advantage of. You have to stop being his bank. He has to grow up and get a job. Stop being his personal ATM. How does he get money to do what he wants when he is unemployed? You are doing well working and going to school full time. Break it off with him finish school and find someone who will appreciate you for your mind, heart and being a good person. If you want to stay with him this is just a glimpse of what is in store for your future if you stay. Good Luck
2007-07-23 10:07:43 · answer #5 · answered by Hope 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you feel like you are being taken for granted and advantage of BECAUSE YOU ARE! You sound very motivated and I think you need a boyfriend that is also motivated and will be stimulating for you. It sounds like your current boyfriend still has some growing up to do. You KNOW you deserve better, now go get it.
2007-07-23 11:10:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think YOU are being unreasonable.
I dont think a relationship like this will work out. If you dont have an understanding about money, which it sounds like you dont, its not going to work. He thinks you should pay for everything because you work. HE should be working! I would think about getting out of a relationship like this. Money is a HUGE factor in a relationship. Is he looking for a job? Will the two of you be in this same situation in 5 years?
2007-07-23 09:59:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are being taken for granted and being taken advantage of.
that being said, he can only take advantage of you if you allow him to. So... CUT IT OUT!
What a lazy bum! If nothing else, he should be working part time at a fast food place so he can cover some basic living expenses.
In your heart, you know you deserve better. Put your foot down. Pay for NOTHING of his and see if he still wants to be your boyfriend. HE is his own responsibility. He is not YOUR responsibility.
2007-07-23 09:55:36 · answer #8 · answered by candy'sroom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what ever you do,do not marry him,i was with someone like this for a yr and a half.he would even take money out of my pocketbook while i was sleeping,he wouldnt hold a job and when i would get home from work he would be drunk with the money he stoled out of my pocketbook.things got worse and i kicked him out,yes it was hard he basically was stalking me.only because i was paying his way.you deserve better,always remember that.take care
2007-07-23 15:27:21 · answer #9 · answered by tammy g 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are being taken for granted and taken advantage of!
Tell him to find a job or you're through!
2007-07-23 09:51:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋