Like they are different and more odd and detached than before, even from friends and their kids
2007-07-23 09:40:38 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Cause they know how much they hurt everyone involved. See when people divorce, they tear apart the entire family with them. And if there's no "just" cause (like cheating or drug addiction) than they probably just feel very weird and don't know how to act around anyone.
2007-07-23 09:49:06 · answer #1 · answered by me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is a thing that it is all part of the healing process from a divorce. My parents did the same thing and then turned around. It all depends on how long they were married, how young they were when they got married and the amount of issues they had in the marriage that you may or may not know about. Give them time to heal and they will be fine. WIth both my husband and my own parents being divorced, I tell our boys that they are special because they have 7 grandparents that love them.
2007-07-23 10:43:16 · answer #2 · answered by Melissa F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When someone is getting a divorce, it takes them off into many emotions and questions. They were secure and safe and now they feel like failures, questioning what is real and what isn't. Many feel frightened, and wonder what went wrong. Questioning how one day they could love, and over a matter of months, years, not feel that love.
When children are involved it is even more thoughtful where worry is doubled. It doesn't matter who wanted the divorce, it is painful for both parties. Detachment comes from thinking about all of the above.
2007-07-23 09:48:11 · answer #3 · answered by pattimaris1675@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I had the answer to that age old question.. I think it is sad and even hard on the kids to deal with the drastic changes life has forced on them. I dont even know if the adults even realize they are doing it. and Some I believe are that way and always was and that is why they are now divorced... The real them took over and the mate could not deal with that
2007-07-23 09:46:02 · answer #4 · answered by Peggy C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Skylon!
Give them time. Having suffered divorced myself and watched my parents go through it, I know from experience on both ends that divorce rips you up inside. Everyone married hoping and intending it to be forever, the reality of splitting up just messes you up mentally, spiritually, physically. It's so much harder than people realize and it changes your life. You feel rejection, brokenness and you have to figure out how to live and have a life again when the bottom falls on on the life you hoped and planned for. If it's your parents you're talking about, try to hang in there and weather the emotional storms they are both going through.... time helps some. Eventually they will each pull themselves together.
Good luck!
Spherical
2007-07-23 09:49:30 · answer #5 · answered by spherical1287 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm a divorced parent i caught my wife cheating threw her out the house a couple of weeks later tried to work out the problem but was stab in my back with a court order throwing me out of my house because she lied to the system saying she feared for her life and later was given custudy and i was ordered to pay support and she made the most money and i made the least and was left with not enough money to get a place for three to live so i have been struggling ever since and lost a lot of years that could of been spent with my kids but i had to survive so i mostly kept in touch by phone and when i could find a place on weekends we would be together
2007-07-23 10:07:04 · answer #6 · answered by benny h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After being married so long ,people get ito a comfort zone..Divorce destroys that comfort zone..that is why most people are reluctant to get one...Just think,if you were with the same person for 2 yrs and things get destroyed.. Ya kinda afraid of what is out there .. almost insecure to to say the least..
2007-07-23 09:47:30 · answer #7 · answered by Dave A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change is hard to adjust to. But without change, you can't have progress. They have a lot going on inside that they both are trying to deal with separately, differently and in their own way. Give them space to be them and support them. Sometimes you may seem the same way to others when you are dealing with issues. Don't view them as just parents, they are people first, who happened to have had kids. They have feelings to and as a parent, you don't wish to have your troubles burden your kids. You'd rather them to come to you with theirs. Just love them
2007-07-23 09:46:24 · answer #8 · answered by R W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people connect deeply to their marriage and when it needs is like the loss of a person. They feel incomplete so they rebuild themselves in a way that will not let them be hurt as much by anyone.
2007-07-23 09:49:27 · answer #9 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce is a big change. It's more than a split physically, but a split mentally. Change needs time to get used to.
2007-07-23 09:43:25 · answer #10 · answered by jquick13 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋