Would you marry someone if you had to keep it secret for a while?

Question

Come on people, the marriage is the secret. Some of the situation...We both have been married before. We went to high school years many years ago and just found each other just found each other again a few months ago. We just don't want people to say that we are moving to fast and giving us there unsoliciated opinions on how it won't last. Hence, the reason to keep a secret for a few months.

Answer 1

I'm going through that right now. I don't want my ex husband finding out right now, basically because he is phsyco and I don't want to deal with the drama right now. The only problem is he lives in the same town as my family, and they still talk, so I cant tell anyone right now. I cant even tell people I work with because my boss is also my cousin who talks to my ex. I cant wait until he falls in love with someone else and stops thinking we will get back together. He threatens to beat up any man he finds out I'm dating, but I've been married since October.

Answer 2

This is weird, because I am honestly in a very similar situation. We dated a little in high school, lived together as friends in college, and then were friends off and on for 10 years. Once the timing was right, we knew we would never forgive ourselves if we didn't give us a chance. (He had been divorced for several years, but I was just coming out of my marriage.) The result was that we were made for each other! His divorce is final, but mine is not yet. We want to get married right after mine is final. We have gone back and forth on whether that is a good idea or not. Finally, we both agreed that it doesn't really matter what others think. Everyone will have an opinion whether we marry now or ten years from now. Who cares? All that matters is that we are happy, and we know what is best for us.

Answer 3

Depends on the situation. Why do you need to keep it secret? What will happen if it's not secret?

I know my grandparents did that in the in the mid 1930's. Her family (german descent) wouldn't have allowed her to marry my grandfather (cajun descent). They were married for 3 years before they let anyone know; my grandmother even lived with her parents at that time. She told her family when he was shipped off to a military base in Texas (since he was in the army) . She went with him. They were married until the mid 70's when she died.

Answer 4

Nope. Marriage is something that you enter into with a promise to be "trusting, to honor, to give"...it seems that lying would be counter productive to these vows even if it weren't your spouse you were lying to. Honesty is the best policy, and to start a marriage based upon a lie is not something that will keep it strong. If you want to marry someone, you should be willing and capable of shouting it from the rooftops (or at least able to tell everyone you know!).

Answer 5

You are way too young to get married if you think you have to keep it a secret. There is no good reason for deception when it comes to marriage.

Answer 6

secret? what's the secret? Love is about honesty and trusting the other person. if you are keeping secrets from the start, it will never work. Sorry.

Answer 7

Why would you have to keep your marriage a secret? I can't think of one good reason why. Its obviously not meant to be so stay single

Answer 8

Unfortunately she kept a secret very well but I didn't know that till after we got married.

She hid the fact that her lard butt would erupt into this tremendous death star and threaten the entire existence of mankind....................... she never said a word......

:-)

Answer 9

I wouldn't want to keep it a secret but, if circumstances pervented me from sharing it with evryone then if he's worth it then of course I would....We would be in it together so whatever decisions we make will be done that way....

Answer 10

Depends on why I had to keep it secret.