Family & Relationships - 16 July 2007

He has been incarcerated for 7 years and his now out. We have two teenage girls. They don't mind seeing him, but I want to do what I feel is safe. Should I allow them to see him (supervised) or not at all? He also has to register as a sex offender.

2007-07-16 09:16:56 · 11 answers · asked by godskid1970 2 in Family

My brother is engaged to this really nice girl but I was surprised when I found out that her cousin is someone I have known since fourth grade. We don't like each other. But know we are going to become in-laws because my brother is marrying his cousin which will make us cousins by marriage. He and my sister-in-law are like brother and sister, What do I do. His cousin is going to be my sister-in-law and he is going to become my cousin by marriage. What do I do.

2007-07-16 09:16:46 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

I am llike the only girl that is old enough to be a flower girl cause the other girl in our family is only 2

2007-07-16 09:12:20 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

I think most of you misunderstood my original question... I meant if you were being satisfied and did not have to give in return... would that be enough to make you happy ???

2007-07-16 09:12:12 · 18 answers · asked by Sunshine's Pic Is on 360 4 in Marriage & Divorce

I have only been dating this guy for 2 months. He wont tell me what he wants because he says he doesn't want me to waste my money on him. Does anyone have any suggestions??? plz help!

2007-07-16 09:09:04 · 18 answers · asked by Amy S 2 in Singles & Dating

I'm bi-sexual and I've been on several dating sites to meet girls. However, I can never seem to find anyone that is interesting or that is close to my hometown to meet.

I live in the suburbs of Chicago, just so you know where I'm looking.

Does anyone know of any ways to meet other bi-sexual girls? I'm not 21, so I can't go to bars to meet any and I'm not into clubbing so I won't go to a club to meet them.

Any suggestions would be awesome, or if anyone has information on GSA meetings, etc. that would be helpful!

2007-07-16 09:09:00 · 6 answers · asked by xxautomatic_pistolxx 3 in Singles & Dating

When you truly mean it, is there really a limit to saying it?

2007-07-16 09:00:59 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Heres the "scoop" I am 20 and pregnant. My mom and mother in law are throwing the babyshower- my mom and stepmom never got along and never will, my mom will not invite my stepmom to the shower and she is throwing a fit and blaming it on me. She told everyone on my dad's side not to show because she's not invited, and now none of them are coming- not even my own Grandma! and to make things worse my dad won't even talk to me about it- he just says that I need to stick up to my mom- I've tried it doesn't work. Well yesterday my dad called my 2 sisters over for dinner with my grandma and nobody ever called me, I had to find out from my mom that my sisters went there! I feel like they don't even want me apart of the family anymore- what should I do? I thinks it's ridicilous and that she should just get over it! I have already told her that it's not me and that its my mom.

2007-07-16 08:57:22 · 23 answers · asked by jennifer h 2 in Family

Would you only want the full deal if you got oral stimulation on a regular basis? In other words, would you want to go through having to please your partner if you were being satisfied in this way?

2007-07-16 08:56:37 · 17 answers · asked by Sunshine's Pic Is on 360 4 in Marriage & Divorce

ok, i have been "seeing" this guy for about 3 months. i really like him. he really likes me.
...i met this OTHER guy this weekend and he ended up asking me out and simply told me he was interested in me. but i told him, "you know, i don't want to play any games and you should know that i'm actually seeing someone." i elaborated, "i've only been seeing this guy for about 3 months, and he's not 'my boyfriend', but we are dating, you know?"
he responded, "what the hell's the matter with him? ...why won't he lock it up with you? ...he's stupid, that's why..."
so. yea. that's what that OTHER guy said about the guy i'm dating, that he's stupid.
and now it's kind of bothering me! ....what IS the matter with him?? ...why DOESN'T he "lock it up" with me and just say that i'm his "girlfriend"??
(oh, i think it is relevant to say that he is 34...and that i am 21... so. yea. that might have everything to do with it... but i'm hoping not.)
thanks for your advice!!
; D

2007-07-16 08:55:03 · 17 answers · asked by Catz Ladee 7 in Singles & Dating

I just got out of a long-term (11 years) relationship. I am having a really tough time getting through this. I haven't had an easy past by any stretch of the imagination, however I am finding this to be one of the hardest things I have ever been through. Our relationship has been a very complicated thing (Including, death of hes brother, and my 5 or 6 year long struggle through addiction) I am sober now and I figured in doing so our relationship would get better, yet in reality it got worse. He became completely unwilling to getting any help for himself ( and his co-dependency with me) until we broke-up.

Well, it's been about 5 months, and I am still having one hell of a time getting past this. I realize it will probably will continue to be quite rough, seeing that there was co-dependency issues, and so many years together. However, he has already started dating. Which flabbergasts me. which I can't conceive of at this point! How can he move on so quickly?

2007-07-16 08:53:30 · 24 answers · asked by Karen S 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I wonder if there is anywhere in the US that you could live without being bothered....

2007-07-16 08:52:07 · 22 answers · asked by The Grand Inquisitor 4 in Family

If I am in a serious relationship with a divorced man who has children ages 3 and 5, is it wrong to want to meet his ex wife? I have no problems with her. I do not feel threatened by her nor do I want her to feel threatened by me. Their problems of the past can be between her and my bf and do not want it to affect her and me. Though it will be awkard, I'd like to lay some things out about her expectations and where I am able to stand with the children. I want her to know I am not trying to take her place and will respect her wishes as to what she and their father want for the children. Is this inappropriate or how should I approach this with her? I want as little drama as possible, because she is and always will be their mother, regardless. I don't know if she'll be offended by this or what else I should inlcude in talking with her. Also, should we include the man in here? What do you all think about this?

2007-07-16 08:52:01 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

As you know, from the above message, I want a boyfriend. Most people will probably say, "Why do you want a boyfriend? So you can show off at school??" Well, I'll answer that right now...No!!! I want a boyfriend so that I have someone to talk to besides my girlfriends. The thing is, I don't know where I can find one. If you have any ideas at all, they're greatly appreciated. Thank you~

2007-07-16 08:51:05 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Ok well we're not going out yet, but this boy who I really like, he told me that he feels the same about me and told me that he likes me, but yesterday, I saw a picture of him and some other girl and I got real mad and asked him why he didnt tell me he had a girlfriend and I accused of him that he has a g/f but now I know that he doesn't.. It's cuz I really like him a lot and has feelings for him. He told me that he's mad at me and told me that he's gonna hit me up after he gets out of the shower but he hasn't yet..What should I do and say to him?? Please help! I already told him that I'm sorry though..

2007-07-16 08:50:56 · 2 answers · asked by NeNe 1 in Singles & Dating

What makes a guy really hate a woman?

2007-07-16 08:50:33 · 16 answers · asked by PoshBCD 2 in Singles & Dating

I've known my fiancé for 8 years. He's the love of my life. 2 years ago I moved out of state to be with him. 2 months later I found out that he cheated on me a month before I moved to be w/him. I was devastated, so was he. Not only am I a virgin waiting for marriage, but we have a strong Christian relationship as well. It's been a year now & we worked through a lot & got engaged. I look back & realize the act was completely out of character for him & I feel that he has changed for the better. He's gone to counseling (his idea), he's read books, he is 100% honest with me about everything, & makes it completely known that he wants to be with only me forever. We have never had any other problems in our relationship with trust or honesty. We're getting married next year & I just want to know, is it really possible for people to change? I feel like there's so much out there about chronic cheaters but if it happened once, & they repented & owned up to it, is it still foolish to trust again?

2007-07-16 08:48:39 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

And if not, why? It would be fine if a man dated someone 8 years younger than them.

2007-07-16 08:46:20 · 17 answers · asked by Amber 2 in Singles & Dating

i confided in this guy that supposedly liked me about an acquintance of mine.. shes loud, promiscuous and her house is very dirty..i told this guy about her and he went behind my back and told her each and everything i had told him..she was furious and confronted me, but i denied everything: when i asked the guy why he told her he said i shouldnt care cuz we're not friends...then he hd the nerve to asky me why i didn't call him...i was wrong for confiding in him, but should i do and why would he do this? ps: he's even asked me to end it with my bf cause he likes me.. i didn't because i didn't end it cause i don't want him... i was very hurt that he told the girl every single thing i said.. i've cut him off and want nothing to do with him.. what do u guys think?

2007-07-16 08:42:05 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

i just found out that my father has a mistress and is pregnant with his child. i'm angry, confused, and could really blow now. how should i deal with this? i wish his woman and the child would die!

2007-07-16 08:40:56 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

I am so tired of being married to a bump on a log. He watches tv and sleeps and doesnt do much else. Our children are still babies, we've been married almost 7 yrs. We have no initmate relationship and were pretty much like room mates and nothing more. Is this enough for me to call it quits. He says he cant change. Which to me means he is not willing to try to change.

2007-07-16 08:40:34 · 24 answers · asked by mad mommy 1 in Marriage & Divorce

how young is to young to date some of my friends started dating when they where 9! what's the youngest you would let your daughter date?

2007-07-16 08:38:02 · 12 answers · asked by lacy 1 2 in Singles & Dating

i8 only have 18 days till my wedding i know it was short notice because of short notice i can not have a bridal showwer do guests bring gifts to the recweption instead

2007-07-16 08:37:27 · 20 answers · asked by lovealwaysamanda1 1 in Weddings

If you've been in a similar situation, please advise: When the love in finished, but you do not want to end things, can you bring it back? Or what can one do in order to bring it back?

2007-07-16 08:37:21 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

here's the deal. My husband and I are 25 and 26. we have been married for 6 months, but have known eachother for 10 years. we both have very good jobs, we are closing on our first home next week. it is a three bedroom brick home in the country. we have three cars, a big yard, and dogs. i have two step-children. one is 3 the other is 7. my husband and thier mother were never married. my husband pays child support and we have visitation. lately, the mother has gone from bad to worse. she is a known alcoholic, she takes zanax, valium, etc,. and im sure other street drugs. she curses frequently, she can't and will not keep a job, she goes from boyfriend to boyfriend, she has no car, and no morals in my opinion. she is 27. she lives with her parents who are just as bad. the children are exposed to terrible things. they come to visit and talk about beer, fighting, cursing, and prescription drugs. i love my step children and i feel as if they are being ruined! do we have a custody case?

2007-07-16 08:37:17 · 11 answers · asked by jenni 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I have a friend with benefit. We are both married. Because of a text message incident both our spouses found out about the affair. Both of our spouses forgave us. But we still want each other. Sex is fantastic, we do things to each other that our spouses can not. But the attraction is purely sexual, we have no other commonalities and attraction(except we also have great conversations). Although we do not care about the consequences of the affair, we are trying to do what is right. But the urge is absolutely difficult to resist. We work with each other, both supervisors so we have that constant contact. What (logical)advice can you give so we can maintain a platonic relationship?

Quitting our job is not an option

2007-07-16 08:36:38 · 42 answers · asked by loveanonymity 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Why is it that most guys can go on with their life without closure? I know that if something ends or doesn't work out I need to understand why or explain to the guy why. But why is it that guys just get up and go with no explanation?

2007-07-16 08:35:18 · 24 answers · asked by PoshBCD 2 in Singles & Dating

My friend (Brad) has a Girlfriend..but he likes other girls..and madeout with 2..do you think i should tell his girlfriend about this?

2007-07-16 08:34:53 · 8 answers · asked by green_fan123 1 in Friends

Ok so about a 45 minutes ago, I tried calling my friend on her cell-phone, but I got the aswering machine. Then 5 minutes later someone called and it was her cell number, so I picked it up... but instead of her it was a boy, (and I could hear a group of boys in the background), he started to say, "Were are you?!", so I just said, "Who is this," and then he just said, "Sorry wrong Number."

Then again someone called... the same number. But i didnt pick it up.

Now I cant get a hold of my friend, and that was her cell number that kept coming up. Should I be conserned about my friend?

2007-07-16 08:34:29 · 5 answers · asked by Nannook 3 in Friends

my boyfriend loves me. but how do i keep him happy? he is very quiet and doesnt express his feeling much

2007-07-16 08:31:53 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating