i confided in this guy that supposedly liked me about an acquintance of mine.. shes loud, promiscuous and her house is very dirty..i told this guy about her and he went behind my back and told her each and everything i had told him..she was furious and confronted me, but i denied everything: when i asked the guy why he told her he said i shouldnt care cuz we're not friends...then he hd the nerve to asky me why i didn't call him...i was wrong for confiding in him, but should i do and why would he do this? ps: he's even asked me to end it with my bf cause he likes me.. i didn't because i didn't end it cause i don't want him... i was very hurt that he told the girl every single thing i said.. i've cut him off and want nothing to do with him.. what do u guys think?
2007-07-16 08:42:05 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't be friends or more with assholes like that. You deserve better sweetheart
2007-07-16 08:45:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all you should not be discussing anyone in this manner no matter how bad they May seem to you. That is wrong and selfish. Everyone lives their lives certain way for reasons that only they know. so do not do that to someone OK.
Second they guy that you confided in is obviously not your friend in any sense of the word. he seems to be a two sides knife. Stay away from him and whatever you do, do not confide in him. Tell him that you do not wish to be with him and it will never happen.
Do not cut him off because of what he did. If someone had said something to him about you, wouldn't you want him to tell you too. If he was friendly with that girl then i think it would have been unfair for you to put him in that position.
Maintain a relationship with him but be cautious. keeping malice is quite childish and it never really solves anything.
Finally, be careful of what you say about people and to whom you say it to. this is surely a quick way to make enemies -this is the lesson in all this you know?
All the best
2007-07-16 08:53:11 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all have at one time or another confided in someone about someone else, as this is sometimes called gossip, we all do it especially when we feel we can trust the person we talk to, to keep the things we say in confidence. I do not blame you for not wanting to have anything further to do with him. He sounds very immature and not trustworthy. What purpose did it serve for him to tell her other than to hurt her and cause problems for you. Stay away from him and next time try refraining from gossipping. Best of luck to you.
2007-07-16 09:44:06 · answer #3 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not a friend if he will tell that girl what you said...if you dont like him then dont leave your bf for him..he is not someone u should want to be with if you already cant trust him..i think its a good idea not to talk to him anymore he sounds like trouble
2007-07-16 08:51:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a jerk. There is something called courtesy and it means that you have a little bit more delicacy when repeating conversations you had with other people. (like he shouldn't have told her what you said) Plus, is he friends with her or something? How did your conversation come up between them? Or was he just trying to spread gossip or something?
2007-07-16 08:47:31 · answer #5 · answered by Mary M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People like that ARE NOT FRIENDS.
CUT HIM OFF IMMEDIATELY don't ever speak to him again, give him the cold shoulder, the full treatment.
******* like that are just going to sour your life.
I had these 4 fem. friends and we were such good friends then they all back stabbed me good!! GRRR grrrr, rawr~!
Wells, yeah, get rid of him! *sniff* it's sooo hard to find trustable ppl, only person I trust is my gf, and that's a shame that I can only trust 1 person the entire world tsk tsk tsk...
2007-07-16 10:19:10 · answer #6 · answered by lw4h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are a gossip. You talk behind a person's back and for no good reason other that to dis them. You were both wrong.
2007-07-16 08:46:41 · answer #7 · answered by Wolfithius 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's good that you cut him off. What you need less of in your life is two faced people. Guys are becoming such girls, they gossip more then us women do so be careful.
2007-07-16 08:50:46 · answer #8 · answered by foolish4bri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cut off all communication with this loser! And if he's someone you see everyday, simply ignore him or keep the conversations short and generic. Sounds like a royal idiot!!
2007-07-16 08:46:17 · answer #9 · answered by mktobyjo 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
hmm 2pac said it best... " Keep you enemies close ***** watch ya homies " which means keep him close so you can keep an eye on him. You want to know if he's talking mess around your back. When you do have to speak to him don't say anything about anyone.
2007-07-16 09:02:40 · answer #10 · answered by Life 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think youve got it under control. Next time dont go venting to someone you dont know that well. PS if you dont want someone to hear something youve said, well then dont say it. remeber the old addage, if you havent got anything nice to say, dont say anything. just get over it and dont worry about him, hell get his.
2007-07-16 08:46:43 · answer #11 · answered by Josh W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋