I am so tired of being married to a bump on a log. He watches tv and sleeps and doesnt do much else. Our children are still babies, we've been married almost 7 yrs. We have no initmate relationship and were pretty much like room mates and nothing more. Is this enough for me to call it quits. He says he cant change. Which to me means he is not willing to try to change.
2007-07-16 08:40:34 · 24 answers · asked by mad mommy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Get counseling. Something is going on.
He probably masterbates to keep satisfied. Seriously.
2007-07-16 08:44:43 · answer #1 · answered by Wolfithius 4 · 2⤊ 4⤋
I think that your husband is stating the obvious and it is your choice to stay or leave but to stay this long with him and his lazy attitude you love him and he knows it. He is very sure that you won't leave him so why does he have to do any hard work? I mean he already got you pregnant a few times and married you so where in the hell will you go?
What you have to show him that you are not afraid of change and that if necessary you will make those changes. I bet that he would make an effort because if he is not in another relationship you would know at this time. Most of the time when a man does not want intimacy with his wife it is always a story of another man or woman in his life. I think that this is something that you should look into. If he is having an affair then I would advice that you leave him because if you can't be his everything then be his nothing. Don't be first or last in his life but his only. I would advice some marriage counsellings at this stage as well.
2007-07-16 09:09:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Whooo boy, 3 times in one year? He is seriously unhappy. I can tell you that you are not giving us the whole picture here. I do not blame you for that because online, you share what you want to share. At one point, it seemed like he liked having sex with you and now it is different. What changed? If you can't figure it out, or you don't already know what it is, then it is time for some help, for the two of you. You both are the cause of this problem and if you just get a divorce, then you will take your part of the problem to your next relationship. Good luck.
2007-07-16 08:56:12 · answer #3 · answered by cuddleyleo2003 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Do yourself and him a favor. Gete into some counseling with a licensed counselor first. Counselors can find out the cause of the 'issues ' you are encountering. Its more than SEX.
If after attending the sessions you will know if the two of you should continue to work on the marriage or seperate.
2007-07-16 08:49:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Marriage is not based on one thing. There are numerous other things it is based on including trust, sense of humor, mutual interests... is he working hard to buy the things that you and the children need to the point of exhaustion and therefore he is tired every night?
You need to dwell on his good qualities, the one's you married him for, and that is a two way street. Find a 3rd disinterested party that can counsel you, a priest, minister or rabbi is cheaper than a marriage counselor.
2007-07-16 08:53:55 · answer #5 · answered by Tapestry6 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
seems like he's making no efforts in trying to make you happy. Before you resort in divorce talk to him go to couples counseling if you have to and figure out where the problem is maybe he's "bored of you " or just tired from work etc i dont' know your whole story so it's hard for me to tell you what you can do but at least what you can do. Be patient if you love him and try talking to him.
2007-07-16 08:48:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Try counseling. Think about the harm you will cause your children if you divorce. Too bad we can't get the whole story. I have a feeling there are some things you are leaving out of your story.
2007-07-16 08:50:06 · answer #7 · answered by Max 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Marriage is not all about sex. However if he has given up on you relationship then you can't be married to yourself. How is he with the kids? Is he helping around the house? Is he working to help pay the bills?
2007-07-16 09:25:17 · answer #8 · answered by DEBBY'S BABY 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There should be more to a marriage then just sex. You need to find out his problem. I hate to say it but maybe he's not attracted to you anymore. But before you decide to look for the sex somewhere else & totally ruin the marriage you should talk to him & see if he wants to go to couseling.
good luck
2007-07-16 09:12:15 · answer #9 · answered by Big E 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have you suggested marital counseling? If he refuses, then YOU go. You can have an outlet to vent your frustrations, and if you need to, the counselor might be able to find resources for you to start your life over.
The only person who can really answer this question is YOU. If you are unhappy and are ready to find a new life, then you know where the door is....Push it open to a new day and a new life path.
2007-07-16 08:45:04 · answer #10 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
My question would be, How many times in that time period did you ask and were rejected?
If more than 4 then you have a problem with him.
If it is a function of not asking, what are you waiting for?
2007-07-16 09:10:43 · answer #11 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋