i just found out that my father has a mistress and is pregnant with his child. i'm angry, confused, and could really blow now. how should i deal with this? i wish his woman and the child would die!
2007-07-16 08:40:56 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i'm only 12. you don't understand how i feel! i'm so angry with the world. i thought my dad loved us. how could he ruin our family. i just hate him and i don't want to see him ever again!
are there anybody there who got through this?
i feel like i want to waste my life! i adored my father, he was my hero! but with what he did, i just want him to stay away from my life!
2007-07-16 08:58:20 · update #1
you should be furious with your dad, he´s the one who was unfaithful to his family. The woman may be blamed as well, assuming she knew he was married and just didn´t care, but the child is your halfbrother or halfsister and has nothing to do with how his conception came about, so try not to send ill will his way.
In any case, this is an issue your parents need to deal with. Your dad is your dad forever more, but his relationship with your mom is a whole different story.
2007-07-16 08:48:26 · answer #1 · answered by counsel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem is not yours, it's your mothers. Stay out of it! You can be as angry as you want to be. He doesn't owe you an explanation he's not sleeping with you. Whether his actions are right or wrong it's not for you to tell him anything. Oh and just so you know it's not all the other woman's fault and it certainly isn't the innocent baby's fault. Grow up! Your being an immature brat. You should be ashamed of yourself for wishing the death of an innocent baby....disgusting
2007-07-16 15:57:13 · answer #2 · answered by rcButterfly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the first answer. Don't condemn the unborn child!! Your father is the one who has a wife and a child at home and went out looking for something else, he is the one in the wrong and if you feel this strongly then you need to speak to him about the matter. BTW how does your mother feel about all this???
2007-07-16 15:48:27 · answer #3 · answered by suzyalexisandgabe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can be mad as hell at your Dad. You NEED to tell him how you feel. But regardless of how you feel about the adults here who acted like children, this child is your little brother or sister and didn't ask to be born. This baby needs someone who is levelheaded to love it unconditionally. My ex husbad had a baby with our babysitter, while we were still married. I'm an adult and my feelings were hurt but my boys are a little younger than you and have handled it well. They LOVE their little sister, as they should, she is a sweet little girl who is always happy and smiling. When she's not feeling well she won't calm down for her Mom but he face lights up when one of her big brothers walk into the room. You're young, and this is a lot to handle. You can get through it. You need to ask your dad to go through therapy with you.
2007-07-16 16:49:24 · answer #4 · answered by skylark455st2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't blame other people especially one not born yet. The blame rests squarely on your fathers shoulders. Tell him how you feel.
2007-07-16 15:46:38 · answer #5 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋