If you've been in a similar situation, please advise: When the love in finished, but you do not want to end things, can you bring it back? Or what can one do in order to bring it back?
2007-07-16 08:37:21 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
When you feel like you have lost that "loving feeling", it is usually something else that has been lost as well. You might want to think about what that is. Is it respect? Have you quite trying to have that sex appeal for the other? (i.e. tend to dress sloppier or fart too much around the other person etc.) What made you attracted to that person to begin with? What made them attracted to you?
Sometimes I find that giving more compliments to my husband makes him feel loved and more confident. And of course the more confidence you give to your partner about the way you feel about them and your relationship, the more wanted and sexier they feel, which then comes back to you. Think of ways you can add that sparkle back to your lovers eyes.
Good luck and have fun!
2007-07-16 08:53:21 · answer #1 · answered by Marie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes, yes, yes. The romance and emotional highs come and go ina long term relationship. You have to work a Little at love. Date- make an effort like when you were really dating. Lower your expectations so you are not disappointed and make a choice tro please your spouse. Give without expecting- do things she likes that you know are important. Ex. buy the flowers be verbal or if she's into actions over words- clean her closet or something that means a lot to her! Don't expect in return. Keep a pleasant mood and alter the atmosphere to be romantic- take her out- go to the park- plan ahead so she knows your making a choice to be romantic- she'll play along. You can get it back- don't expect it doesn't take work.
2007-07-16 17:42:56 · answer #2 · answered by girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answerers have it right. Daily distractions keep us away from the dating mentality that cause us to be romantic. Work, kids, taking care of a house, dealing with in-laws etc. take a heavy toll. You have to redefine love sometimes too. The kind of love that you remember during the first year of a relationship is different than the love of a mature relationship. You will find that if you can cultivate moments of the early romantic love it will act as a fertilizer for the rest of your relationship.
2007-07-16 15:52:03 · answer #3 · answered by Wolfithius 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try courting your spouse, you may find that the love isnt finished. Most of the time it is the ppl who stop doing the small things for their spouses that feel this way. Do something nice for your spouse. Doesnt have to be money, just walk up and say you look really nice today, or even just ask how the day was, and really listen.
2007-07-16 15:41:42 · answer #4 · answered by Qyllix 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you can. Both of you need to think back to when the love was new and fresh, and why you got married in the first place. Often it gets lost when you take one another for granted.
However, the best way to get it all back, is to ACT your way into the feelings. Once you try, the emotions and love come back.
2007-07-16 15:51:43 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We've been 2gether 4 18 years and its been a roller coaster of feelings all along. There have been times we've been really really close and worlds apart. You could just give up or hang in there 4 the next peak. Chances are that there is no-one that'll be there 4 u as your spouse would be in times of trouble. I'd hang in there as I have done 4 years . It's worth it!!
2007-07-17 10:13:23 · answer #6 · answered by **RUBY*** 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with everyone else, get to know each other again. Make it a point to spend one night a week, just the 2 of you, like you did before you got married. It takes time but with time as long as you both want to work it out you can. Good Luck
2007-07-16 15:56:14 · answer #7 · answered by cosmicalbitch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is a choice, not a feeling, so love isn't finished unless you choose to end it.
The feelings that go along with a relationship, however, do ebb and flow. You are probably in a dry spell. The "rainy season" (your feelings) will come again, but you have to wait for it and continue to love one another through the hard times. That is what the vows are about.....promising to love one another through all the hard times.
I commend and applaud you for wanting to stick with your marriage through the hard times. THAT is what marriage, and real love, is all about. Bravo!
2007-07-16 15:51:13 · answer #8 · answered by missmuffin 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there is a small possibility but you need a loty of effort put in to it the best thing to do is to go on a vacation and relax for a few days also start talking like friends more than just wife or husband talk. recendle your marriage by doing spontaneause things and having more fun going out and doing things you havent done ever or done in a while that both of you like. treat her like you did at thebegining at first itll be hard but if you guys try than you can do it
2007-07-16 16:19:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just need to step back and remember why you two fell in love to begin with. Make time for just each other. Quit letting life get you down and also quit letting things come between you and taking precedence over each other. Make your relationship number one like it was in the beginning.
2007-07-16 15:53:48 · answer #10 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋