Family & Relationships - 12 July 2007

I'm in a 7 year relationship and my boyfriend just opened a myspace account.
You have the obtion of choosing if your single, in a relationship, married and etc.
My boyfriend opted for single, yet we've been together for 7 years.
I feel betrayed, he is dening that he is in a relationship with me. What should I do. I'm so hurt that my tears are rolling down my face as I write this.

2007-07-12 07:30:46 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

doesn't have a car but once we boarded the Bus with his annual pass he passed some gas just to clear out the bus and then he said "Babe we got this whole Bus all to ourselves!" What a stud! where should we go?

2007-07-12 07:30:02 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I'm 21 and I'm ready to move out of my parents house. I'm financialy secure and I found a place that I want to move into. My boyfriend who is 25 has more experience than I do when it comes to living with a significant other. He lived with his ex (she was 35) for 2 years. I however dont want him to move in with me. I want to live by myself and be independent. How do I tell him I don't want him to move in with me without sounding selfish. We've been together for almost a year. And he automatically thinks he can move in ? What do I tell him?

2007-07-12 07:29:51 · 6 answers · asked by Miss CaLi GroWn 3 in Singles & Dating

My boyfriend of 2 years and I have had an extremely rocky summer. We've broken up about 5 times and a couple weeks ago, I called it off and was extremely sure about it. The night after I broke up with him, I obviously wanted to party with my girlfriends and celebrate a new chapter in my life. I ended up getting wasted, and had sex with my now ex boyfriends best friends who I knew had liked me for a while, and who I had dated before my most recent boyfriend. 2 weeks later, my ex boyfriend comes over and claims hes a mess without me, he realizes all his mistakes, and finally acknowledges that he was in the wrong. I didn't tell him initially about me and his friend, because I figured if we started dating again I would tell him. But he found out. He thinks we just made out though. He found out a week ago and things have been great ever since. Should I tell him and rock the boat? or just know that what I did was horrible and terrible and learn from my mistakes?

2007-07-12 07:28:14 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-07-12 07:27:34 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

i am 24 and have been married for 3 years to a wonderful guy. but i have fantisies about sleeping with another woman. i'm afraid that if i have a threesome that my husband will like her more than me. what to do????

2007-07-12 07:27:11 · 17 answers · asked by UofL Girl 3 in Marriage & Divorce

I was thinking yellow, hot pink and orange roses...(those are my colors) but I'm debating to do the roses or a variety of different flowers in the same colors. Which do you think would be prettiest? Which is cheaper?

2007-07-12 07:27:10 · 16 answers · asked by Poppy 2 in Weddings

I'm almost 24 and waiting until marriage for sex.

These days, everyone has sex early on. Yet deep down inside, people value virginity.

So guys, assuming that you love the woman and all.....would you prefer it if the woman you married and spent the rest of your life with, to be a virgin?
This way you can rest assured that you were the only one who has ever made love to her and that she has loved you sooooooo much, wayyyyy before you met, that she wanted to save herself for you!!! By saving yourself, your husband won't get anything, "used"...it'll be brand new! I mean, isn't that the absolute best wedding gift everrrrr?!?!

OR, do you not care and want to get laid and/or want to give the girl a test run, first?

BTW, no answers will change my mind on my decision. I know for a fact that I'm giving my husband one hell of a wedding present! :o)

2007-07-12 07:26:42 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

babe", or emails from kids who are barely legal. Are there any decent groups for singles late 30's-early 40's???

2007-07-12 07:26:32 · 2 answers · asked by liebchen2 1 in Singles & Dating

I'm 13 and have a good relationship wityh my mom But for the last few months she's been kinda weird, different. She broke several promises she had made to me and lied 3 times, about things important to me. I got devastated, if I can't trust my own mom, who will I trust? When she realized how hurt I was she apologized, desperately, cried a lot, hugged me tight, asked for forgiviness and pleaded with me to keep trusting her. Now, I'm really confused, I'm terribly hurt but also terribly sorry for her. I thinlk I'll simply forgive and forget, I'm about to consider this as one of those weakness, one of those mistakes everybody makes sometimes.

I'll never use this as a justification for me myself to lie, break promises, be mean or do bad stuff. But, now my question: if it was me the one to lie to her and break promises? Would she forgive me from the depth of her heart? Would she accept my apologies and keep trusting me?

2007-07-12 07:24:58 · 45 answers · asked by Sonia 1 in Family

My husband and I have been together for 4 years. I love this man to death. Recently things started to get real bad. His job cant' afford to pay him all though he is capable of finding new employment he chooses to stay with this job. They keep telling him tomorrow and so on so forth. I am working tow jobs to provide for my husband and his 9 year old son its really hard for me. My husband has had several job offers and chooses to stay where he is knowing from one week to the next that he may or may not get paid. Any suggestions as what I should do. He has only been at this job for 4 mths. He can't hold a good job for more than 6 so far. I feel like I am wasting my time. Should I follow through with my threats and move out and see if he can grow up then or what. He will be 31 in November. Please help. All we do is fight. I think that I am headed for a break down.

2007-07-12 07:24:54 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

it seems that now a days theyre all perves and jerks

2007-07-12 07:22:19 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I'm going to college next year and I'm very excited. I haven't exactly had the "best" time throughout all 12 years in school. I've been working A LOT of hours to try and earn money and purchase new things etc.

I am planning on getting my hair dyed a different color, getting this straighting thing done to it that I get once every year buying ALL new clothes and things for my dorm etc.

So far I have already purchased a new cell phone, gotten all my bedding and bath stuff as well as purchased a new mac. book computer for my room.

My parent's have given me $375.00 to spend on all new clothing etc. and the money I save in the next two weeks will also go towards clothing and such.

I'd really like to know though...

is it a better idea to
A. Buy things as I get the money for them
so i won't be tempted to spend it elsewhere
or
B. save the money somewhere safe and just spend all the money at once

please help!

any suggestions? I have a lot of things to buy!!

2007-07-12 07:22:10 · 4 answers · asked by Pinkie221 1 in Singles & Dating

im only 14 and my mom just told me tht they were going 2 get a divorce 2day, i was crying my eyes out!...does any1 have any tips or tell me anything tht i should noe about this new experience 4 me?

2007-07-12 07:22:09 · 11 answers · asked by mehiana41 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Hi all,

I am mainly looking for the female viewpoint on this one...but obviously anyone is welcome to give constructive answers. :-)

I had a period of time where I was pretty negative, and would get in a bad mood easily, like with traffic, stress, whatever. My wife almost left me because of my negativity and constant unhappiness. After that (and for several years now)...I am 100x better than I was, I am almost always in a good, happy, outgoing mood. I'm always helping, laughing, joking, just having fun in general...so times are good. On the other hand... if she is in a pissy mood, gripey, or just plain negative...its all of a sudden "ok"...because she is in a bad mood? What kind of double standard is that? She isnt mad AT me in general...but can be extremely short with me, and in a real wet-blanket mood. (not depression) Why is this cool? I wouldnt leave her because she is like this...but if I try to address her mood constructively, it makes things worse. Help!

2007-07-12 07:21:53 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My fiance's bestman is the most pathetic I have ever seen. He hasn't even called us to talk about the wedding or plan anything. We told him he was bestman like 6 months ago. My fiance called him 3 weeks ago and said, "The wedding is close, so we would like to do our bachelor/bachelorette parties in about 3 weeeks. That would be this weekend. He sounded all excited then, but hasn't planned anything. My MOH and mother are planning mine and I noticed that when I talk about it my fiance seems to get depressed. So I called his bestman today and he informed me that he didn't even ask off of work for it. So I decided to throw it for him and do something special for all the guys invited. I love him to death and I want him to have as much fun as I am going to have. Should I confront his bestman about how upset I am that he has no interest in his so-called bestfriend's wedding or leave it between the two of them knowing my fiance won't ever confront him?

2007-07-12 07:16:28 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

So like 2 hours ago my aunt Leesa informed me that a family was moving in across the street. By the word family, I expected a young couple with two small children. But when I looked across the street about 30 minutes later I saw a really hot guy unloading crap from the moving fan. After telling Leesa I was going to "introduce" myself to the new neighbors, I ran across the street and said hi to the dude. He told me he was gonna live in the house with his mom, sister, and stepdad. I helped him unload stuff from the van. He got that look in his eyes and took my hand. He lead me to this secluded area and just started kissing me! We made out for a while until I heard Leesa screaming my name. I whispered "Hide, I hear my aunt."We started running until we found this shed down the road. We made out some more UNTIL Leesa and hot guy's mom found us. Now Leesa has locked me in my room so she can think of a suitable punishment!!!! So how can I get out of this?

2007-07-12 07:15:13 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Lately I've been feeling like I am just wasting time. I have achieved so many goals at a young age and I have no idea what to do next. I have two university degrees, a great job, house, car, partner... Now I don't know what to do with my spare time. My friends either moved away or work strange hours so I don't see them much. What to do, what to do... (I have "chores" to do, but I want something fun to do, something to look forward to, something to get me up and excited in the morning...) What gets you excited in the morning to start your day?

2007-07-12 07:14:27 · 2 answers · asked by hello 6 in Singles & Dating

if he thought he had a chance but then u found out so he couldn't. if you thought he loved you and he said he would never cheat on u but u have evidence that he was willing to cheat Wat would u think and how would you feel? no smart *** answers please this is serious.

2007-07-12 07:13:22 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

My friend who is 15, & will be 16 in nov. has been dating this kid 4 like 7 months. I have never met him but since we have grown apart. She is leaving for vacation on saterday and last week we planned on going out before she left. So i called her and i asked her what we were doing to do, then she said "oh i have plans now" They were with her boyfriend. She out right ditched me. I didn't say anything 2 her right then besides to just call me if her plans changed but it's still bothering me. What should i tell her??

2007-07-12 07:11:06 · 6 answers · asked by anon 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

Ok I am 20 and I have never really been that close to my mom at all... just my dad. So its kind of like I dont really have a mother figure in a way because my mom lives about 600 miles away from me in a diff. state. Well I have a friend that is 31 that was my past college teacher and she is really nice and I really look up to her as an ideal and everything. Well she didn't have any kids when I met her but she was pregnant. Today she had her first baby and I feel like now that she has a baby she wont talk to me really that much as I want. I understand tho that when u have a baby it makes you incredibly busy. I kinda feel like I might be substituting her as a mother figure in a very SMALL way. We arent really good friends yet but are still getting to know each other more.. we only talk through email. But I want to see her baby and go to her house. I dont know if she would want me to tho. I just want to keep in good touch with her and be a really good friend to her.

2007-07-12 07:10:02 · 7 answers · asked by pink_flamingo1211 1 in Family

A girl and guy were speeding over 100 mph on the road on a motorcycle...
Girl: Slow down. I'm scared.
Guy: No this is fun.
Girl: No its not. Please, its too scary!
Guy: Then tell me you love me.
Girl: Fine, I love you. Slow down!


Guy: Now give me a BIG hug.
Girl hugs him
Guy: Can you take my helmet off & put it on yourself? Its bugging me.


In the paper the next day :( A motorcycle had crashed into a building because of brake failure. Two people were on it, but
only one had survived. The truth was that halfway down the road, the guy realized that
his brakes broke, but he didn't want to let the girl know. Instead, he had her say she loved him & felt her hug him one
last time, then had her wear his helmet so that she would live even though it meant that he would die.





Friends are angels who lift us to our feet when our wings have trouble remembering how to fly.


There is no beginning or end... for us in this life

Yesterday is history
Tomorrow is a mystery

Today is a gift that you should treasure in your heart so your life can be full of bliss just as God's wish

2007-07-12 07:02:19 · 42 answers · asked by % 3 in Singles & Dating

my family would never talk to me again, should i just date them but end up dating a white man????

2007-07-12 07:01:39 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

I like a friend of mine and he likes some one els. I'm really confused because at times it seems that he likes me and I'm not the only one who thinks this like even his friends ask him when he plans on asking me out, and when ever ppl ask if we're dating he doesn't say anything I'm the one that has 2 say no, so I really want him 2 4get about her and just maybe think of me in that way.Well the point is that the other day he was mad because this girl he "really" likes doesn't know if she wants 2 be with him and he tells me he feels like giving up,so i tell him to wait 4 her like an idiot. I know that he really care about what i have 2 say and he takes my advices so why can't I bring myself 2 tell him to 4get about her.

2007-07-12 07:01:33 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-07-12 06:59:02 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-07-12 06:57:25 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

I am 25 and I'm beginning to realize that my mother is a highly-irrational control freak.

After living on my own for a year, my fiancé & I moved to my parents' house to get out of a bad roommate situation. That was three months ago and we're trying like hell to get out. Everytime I tell her about a potential place, she finds a way to shoot it down. She blew off the idea of co-signing for us to get a place (because we have no credit) because she doesn't care if we ever leave or not.

I mentioned today that I would like to take over medical insurance payments someday, and that coupled with the fact that I wouldn't like living on a piece of land with my whole family around (just a pipedream anyhow) apparently = I want NOTHING to do with my family at ALL. She says that "love doesn't last", and that my fiancé & I can't live on our own without anyone else.

The most hurtful thing about her is that she is EXTREMELY against us ever having a family -- ever.

2007-07-12 06:56:49 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

My ex husband was very abusive to me and even forced me to have sex with him sometimes. Now I can't seem to let myself go enough to get close to anyone else. How do I get over this and move on?

2007-07-12 06:55:45 · 6 answers · asked by hthr_1974 4 in Singles & Dating

We are going to the Caribbean to get married, and we were going to have a welcome back party when we returned. My fiance and I decided that wasn't for us, but he and my mother are afraid that I will feel like I am missing something. I never wanted a wedding or a reception before. What would I feel that I was missing (besides my father walking me down the isle)? Also, I get to see my close friends and family on a regular basis.

2007-07-12 06:54:58 · 24 answers · asked by WorldTraveler 4 in Weddings

Okay, so i kind of have a dilema and could use some advice. My parents have been divorced since i was 2 and my mom has been with my stepdad since I was 3. Now i love my dad, don't get me wrong, he tries...sometimes...but he really hasn't been there for me throughout my life. Ie. i helped to raise his two boys, my little brothers, and at one point had to take care of him in his drunken stupor. However, my step dad has always been there fore me and is an awesome guy. I mean he's not my dad but if i need him he is there for me.
So my dilema is, can i have both of them walk me down the aisle without it being a problem? I want to honor both of them rather than just one, but i'm the only girl for my dad and my stepdad has a daughter. I want to have them both walk me down, but i don't really know how they will react to that idea. Any similar situations? Ideas on how to break it to them?

:: side note:: how to break it to our families it will be a dry wedding? no alchohol!

2007-07-12 06:51:43 · 13 answers · asked by Gonzo's Wifey 3 in Weddings