We are going to the Caribbean to get married, and we were going to have a welcome back party when we returned. My fiance and I decided that wasn't for us, but he and my mother are afraid that I will feel like I am missing something. I never wanted a wedding or a reception before. What would I feel that I was missing (besides my father walking me down the isle)? Also, I get to see my close friends and family on a regular basis.
2007-07-12 06:54:58 · 24 answers · asked by WorldTraveler 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
If you don't feel it's for you, don't do it. Not everyone needs the big wedding. If you've never wanted a wedding before, I'd say that's a telling sign that you won't miss it. You can always renew your vows down the road if you change your mind. Just send out nice announcements, maybe with a picture of you two from your wedding in the Carribbean, don't bother with a party you don't want.
2007-07-12 07:04:19 · answer #1 · answered by tnk3181979 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It may not be as much a case of what you're missing as what your family and friends are missing. They're missing the wedding, and now they're missing the reception, too. This is a big event, and they want to celebrate with you.
Of course you may decide to skip all the hoopla, and that's entirely your decision. In fact, it may well be that you never regret it one jot. Some people just plain don't enjoy having a fuss made over them, and that's perfectly okay.
But do consider that even if you aren't going to miss any of it perhaps the people who love you will. Why not throw them a nice party when you get back from your wedding? You can keep it as low-key as you like. Even inviting a dozen people over for dinner and a viewing of your wedding pictures would be something special for them.
Whichever way you decide, I wish you and your fiance many happy years together.
2007-07-12 14:50:41 · answer #2 · answered by gileswench 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a small wedding and reception in my in-law's house. I wore a peach colored 2 piece dress.
It was 14 years ago and I never gave a thought to "I wish I had a wedding gown hanging in the closet right now".
The people who were at the wedding/small party then, most of them I am no longer in touch with, and several are dead. That one day, one party, has no bearing on how I remember them, or what I think about them now.
Take it for what you will. Weddings, parties, and personal connections mean different things to different people. I also never had dreams of what my wedding would be like. And I still have no regrets about the wedding I had.
I still have the husband though, so I guess I did one thing right.
2007-07-12 14:15:00 · answer #3 · answered by danashelchan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its just one of those moments that all eyes are on you and your special person. You will never be able to have that 1st wedding again. Even with a second marriage it is not the same. Your family loves you and wants to share this special day with you. Most parents cant wait till there is a big day, like a wedding or graduation and stuff like that, to see how happy there child it.
Alot of things that we do in life is not always about us it is about how happy you can make those you love be.
So you must think if some day I have a child would you want to see your child get married or at least give them a party to celebrate? Of course.
Now, think of a way to make everyone happy.
Plus you will get gifts and money...which will help out with your new life together.
2007-07-12 14:08:05 · answer #4 · answered by supergirlsls 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the wedding reception is important. Like any major event in your life, a wedding ceremony is worth celebrating. You say you never wanted one, but I would think again. If you think you're going to miss out on something, then you probably want it more then you think. Don't regret on having one.
I think receptions are great, b/c it celebrates the new couple in a fun way. A reception is a way for people to say, " we are so happy you've decided to join your lives together, and we're dedicating our time and energy."
Also, those that are at your reception are the ones you are close with. They are supporting your decision to start your own family and are showing their support.
Have a reception, don't ever regret small things like this in life.
2007-07-12 14:03:25 · answer #5 · answered by Answer Girl 2007 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
It's the memories you get to share with your close family and friends on your wedding day that you miss out on. Weddings are mostly for show anyway. But later down the line, it's nice to hear stories from the ones that you are closest to about, "when I first saw you all made up and in your dress, it took my breath away!".
You have to remember that everyone is on the edge of their seat with just as much excitement as you have for your wedding day. So many people want to share THAT DAY with you, they fill a bit cheated to see you when a week after you get married and spend your honeymoon in the Caribbean.
2007-07-12 16:26:42 · answer #6 · answered by LSU_Tiger23 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone's different. I wanted all our friends and family at the ceremony and reception because I wanted to share that special moment with them. but that's me. also, a lot of people feel that weddings aren't just for the bride and groom, they are for the family. I know my parents would have been really sad if they didn't get to witness my wedding, and I know I would be really sad if I couldn't watch my brothers get married. I was even sad when I didn't invited to my cousin's wedding a few years ago (it was a small wedding). also, for me, there was just something so special about all our friends and family making the effort to come to our wedding - it really make me feel loved and feel like all these people supported our marriage. it was just a really nice feeling.
so, that's what you'll be missing - being able to share your job with your friends and family. you can have a reception when you get back, but I don't know if it will be the same. your guests won't feel the same because they weren't able to witness your wedding.
but, it's your wedding, you can do whatever is right for you. every family is different, so obviously what works for my family might not work for yours.
2007-07-12 14:15:50 · answer #7 · answered by not margaret 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people regret not doing things when it's too late, and I'm sure your moms just don't want you to feel that way. There is no going back once you've been married. If you don't want one, you don't want one, but if there's a part of you that does, go ahead and have a wedding, because once you're married, there are no do-overs...we're having a beach wedding, and I had no intention of wearing a wedding dress, but I did want to go to the shop and try them on. I knew I'd feel I cheated myself if I didn't get that opportunity. I went, it was wonderful, I loved it...I am wearing a wedding gown...oh well...at least I won't feel sorry I didn't do something then live to regret it.
2007-07-12 14:04:34 · answer #8 · answered by melouofs 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If it is something that you have never really wanted then you would not be missing anything... But it kind of sounds like you are having doubts about not having one now..
You could have a small party for coming back.. You dont have to call it a reception.. You could do like a luau to kind of stay in theme with your destination..and you could get like a cd burned of songs and have them played for special dances if you want..
I think it would be good to have a small party.. simply b/c everyone is gonna want to see some pictures and greet the new couple and hear all about your trip..
2007-07-12 14:12:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I had a very small private wedding and after we had finger food that mostly my family provided and i compared my experience to my brother who got married 10 months before me and he had the whole huge wedding and reception thing my mom was so stressed out and it took so much planning and money I loved my small intimate wedding and reception it was beautiful and relaxing we didn't have to visit all these tables and talk to so many people.So I would absolutely recommend having a small intimate dinner or gathering with close family and friends . CONGRATS
2007-07-12 14:04:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋