i am 24 and have been married for 3 years to a wonderful guy. but i have fantisies about sleeping with another woman. i'm afraid that if i have a threesome that my husband will like her more than me. what to do????
2007-07-12 07:27:11 · 17 answers · asked by UofL Girl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Forget the fantasy and try some more adventuresome intimacy with your husband. You have less to fear about your husband liking the third person better compared to the dangers that he will assume you are a lesbian at heart or secondly, that you are basically condoning cheating on the side if he chooses.
2007-07-12 07:31:04 · answer #1 · answered by Wolfithius 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you both love each other and have been married for so long, at least trying it would not hurt if you are both into the idea. I think things could get a little awkward and possibly cause some trouble if you do it with a friend. I would recommend doing it with someone you do not know. Go online, view others profiles, chat, and view pictures and find someone you can agree on. You will have a lot of luck at the sites I listed below!! HAVE FUN!!
2016-05-20 22:33:12 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are already afraid that he may like her more than you, don't do it. I realise there are couples who do this kind of thing and it's fine for them. I also know of a friend who did this and her husband ended up leaving her for the other woman.
Is your marriage worth ruining over a fantasy? Only you can decide what to do.
2007-07-12 07:35:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The fantasy is wonderful however, the reality would be quite different, I'd imagine.
Because of your doubts, I would suggest not having a threesome at this point. In order for this to happen, you will need to have not one single doubt in your mind.
2007-07-12 07:38:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep fantasy away from reality.
You would never feel secure in your marriage again if you actually saw your man with another woman. This scenario is better off in your head or in a blue movie.
Is this question actually about a 3some, or are you having lesbian thoughts of maybe just you and another girl?
2007-07-12 07:33:36 · answer #5 · answered by Chocolate Bunny 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well if he likes her more, remember you have no one to blame but yourself. Ultimately it's your decision, but I'd first speak to people that have had them and ask if it was worth it. If it is something you decide on make sure it's a woman you guys would never see again or else you might become jealous.
Personally I don't think it'd be worth the risk.
2007-07-12 07:32:43 · answer #6 · answered by ofsoundmind 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
if you really want to, go for it, but you are definitely entering into dangerous teritory there. He could end up wanting to do it with her, whether you are around or not, and he may also not be satisfied with you alone anymore and bug you to keep it up. Have fun, play safe! Have a nice day!
2007-07-12 07:31:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you are having that worry, there is no point in doing it. It will only end in disaster. Keep your fantasy in your head, that is the safest way to go
2007-07-12 07:40:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would not do something like that unless you were a 100% sure, confident, and comfortable with it. Maybe you can ask your husband if he is fine with just watching and not participating. If he is then find someone that you can just make a one night thing. Go to a swingers club or something. I dont know.
2007-07-12 07:30:58 · answer #9 · answered by California Kush 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You keep it a fantasy. Some fantasies are wonderful tools to spice up a sex life, but that doesn't mean you have to act out every fantasy you have. This is one of those fantasies that you don't act out.
2007-07-12 07:30:45 · answer #10 · answered by Poppet 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋