Should I tell him??

Question

My boyfriend of 2 years and I have had an extremely rocky summer. We've broken up about 5 times and a couple weeks ago, I called it off and was extremely sure about it. The night after I broke up with him, I obviously wanted to party with my girlfriends and celebrate a new chapter in my life. I ended up getting wasted, and had sex with my now ex boyfriends best friends who I knew had liked me for a while, and who I had dated before my most recent boyfriend. 2 weeks later, my ex boyfriend comes over and claims hes a mess without me, he realizes all his mistakes, and finally acknowledges that he was in the wrong. I didn't tell him initially about me and his friend, because I figured if we started dating again I would tell him. But he found out. He thinks we just made out though. He found out a week ago and things have been great ever since. Should I tell him and rock the boat? or just know that what I did was horrible and terrible and learn from my mistakes?

I noticed I wrote I had sex with his "best friendS." Only one s on that one...haha not that big of a ho. And a smallll little detail...I lost my virginity to my ex boyfriend and we both had only had each other. Until that night.... oy.

Answer 1

You were not together. Let it go.

Answer 2

First of all - getting wasted and having sex with a random guy is not a good look for a woman (women's lib will back me on that). However, something inside of your brain is not wholly committed to being in a relationship if you knowingly had sex with someone else. . .sounds to me like you need to be single for a while. It also appears that you only took back your ex because you felt sorry for him and liked the whole groveling at your feet thing. I mean things are great now but what happens when he finds out the truth . . . and trust me . . . he WILL find out. For now, until you figure it out - ride the wave of happiness and don't rock the boat but you may want to consider the possibility of just being friends.

Answer 3

Don't tell him and talk to the other guy about keeping quiet.

In this situation you will just have to ride it out.

The other side is to fess up and hope for the best. If he finds out you lied about the encounter will that be worse than putting your cards on the table.

BTW, all the guys thank all you girls out there for being so easy after a break up. Maybe you should think instead of getting wasted.

Answer 4

normally I would tell to never say a word to him, most guys have a hard time getting over that kind of stuff and they will always throw it in your face later on, but because it was one of his friends he will end up finding out the hole story, so if I were you I would come clean and be up front about it, you were broken up at the time so you didn't cheat, but that may not matter, you know how that goes! but if you want to have a chance at a real relationship you should not start out with hiding the truth!

Answer 5

You should let him know. Well, whatever you did didn't really seem like a mistake because you weren't with your bf. But then again, if you still had feelings or still have feelings for your bf, then it's wrong to go out and sleep with other people. Young people always take life for granted.

Answer 6

It is my personal opinion that if one does something that they regret and makes them feel guilty that they should live with that guilt. All this "getting it off my chest", etc is all BS...you might feel better getting it off your conscience but it will make him feel horrible, plus it will also ruin the relationship he has with his best friend, ergo you will be the one responsible for breaking someones heart, severly hurting them, and ruining a friendship thats been around since before you. My advice is to live with the guilt..it was your choice/mistake, and you need to be the one to bear the guilt.

Answer 7

I definitely think you should tell him... Even if it means that he will leave you, you can't be harboring all these secrets and except a healthy relationship. And besides, you were on a break while it was happening, he can't be too dramatic about it.
I don't think its a one or the other situation... I think you need to tell him AND learn from your mistake.
He deserves the truth.

Answer 8

You did what a lot of people do when the relationship ends. So it ended, there fore you did not cheat so the next very difficult question should you tell him about you and his best friend???? Yes, and no dout he will dump you and he´s best friend. or No and hope hes best friend stays dumb. Good luck with your choice.

Answer 9

i think u should be honest and tell him.