I'm 21 and I'm ready to move out of my parents house. I'm financialy secure and I found a place that I want to move into. My boyfriend who is 25 has more experience than I do when it comes to living with a significant other. He lived with his ex (she was 35) for 2 years. I however dont want him to move in with me. I want to live by myself and be independent. How do I tell him I don't want him to move in with me without sounding selfish. We've been together for almost a year. And he automatically thinks he can move in ? What do I tell him?
2007-07-12 07:29:51 · 6 answers · asked by Miss CaLi GroWn 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just outright tell him NO! The bible says that you shouldn't do that until your married, and I HIGHLY suggest that you follow that.
Hope I helped!
2007-07-12 07:35:55 · answer #1 · answered by Gleek12466 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him what you've just told us. That you NEED to live alone as an independent adult for now. It's a good idea. It's part of the growing up process. It isn't selfish at all. Besides, the fact that he would assume, or take for granted, that he could automatically move in with you would make me think twice about him. Maybe he has some growing up to do, too. Maybe there's a good reason that "playing house" didn't work for him the last time. Take things slowly. You seem to want to and are right to do so. Stick to your guns.
2007-07-12 14:41:41 · answer #2 · answered by Tom K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, congratulations on being so adamant about your independence. There is nothing wrong with telling him that. That is completely UNselfish. If he cannot comprehend that, then you should consider that a big red flag in your relationship. I never lived with a man until I got married. This was due to personal beliefs, but also because I valued my independence. I think that you can't expect someone to be completely comfortable around you, until you are comfortable being on your own. With that said, it sounds like he is the one that is selfish. He should respect your space and thank his lucky stars that he has a girlfriend that wants her own life!
2007-07-12 14:42:24 · answer #3 · answered by ad5000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i would say I'm sorry but moving in with each other is like getting married because we will see each other every day and you cant come in all hours of the night and it is to soon in the relationship we only new each other for a year and this is my first time getting my own place an i want to in joy it but you are more than welcomed to come over any time you want.
2007-07-12 14:45:04 · answer #4 · answered by nikki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah just say i love u and i want to be with you but i c u enough and i want 2 live by myself! it dont sound selfish! u hav a right to privacy!
2007-07-12 14:39:08 · answer #5 · answered by hotcheerchick619 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No Just say that!
2007-07-12 14:37:07 · answer #6 · answered by ttwestgard 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋