2007-07-12 06:57:25 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Quit supporting him. He has a choice whether to gamble his money away or to pay his bills. He is not a child, he is a grown man who is using you to support his gambling addiction. So quit feeling guilty for not allowing it. He wont quit until he is so down and out he has no choice but to get help and stop.
2007-07-12 07:24:54 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My neighbor, who would do anything for anyone, has one huge issue with gambling. He asked if he could borrow a few for a week and I asked him how on earth he goes through his pension that fast ...did you gamble? He told me the truth but I swear he already knew what I was going to say - "I can't get involved with helping you hurt yourself...I just can't". He is a very good person but gambling rules and ruins his life at times and I don't help him with money because he has the means available to help himself - except he doesn't have much respect for what is his. It's so sad that he puts himself thru that....
2007-07-12 07:46:46 · answer #2 · answered by GoodQuestion 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi hon.
guilt is not uncommon when you are having a relationship with a person like your father.
perhaps you have a codependent relationship.. he gambles, you enable him to USE YOU because he's broke... it's a vicious cycle. one that will never end, until you put your foot down.
i would suggest looking up Gambler's Anonymous website for help and advice.
believe it or not, gambling is an illness, an addiction, and you' aren't helping by "taking care of" your father.
he needs to stop!!!
hugs
2007-07-12 07:57:02 · answer #3 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find out what "codependancy" means.
They may have a support group for gamblers anonymous families.
At any rate your father...if you really look at the situation...he is taking advantage of you.
He needs to wake up and get help and you need to preserve your sanity and get out of his life until he gets it together.
Do not ever feel you need to be responsible for an adult parent.
He needs to grow up on his own.
2007-07-12 07:23:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to him about this, he is a grown man, tel lhim how your feeling, maybe he doesnt' realize what he's doing, or maybe he's just doing it because your letting him and not saying anything about it so have a talk with him and tell him about the situation and i'm sure you can both come up with a solution.
2007-07-12 07:24:32 · answer #5 · answered by Nita and Michael 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop. As long as you take care of him then he has no reason to recognize he has a problem and therefore he won't change. Do not feel guilty. He has to recognize he has a problem that he, and not you, has to solve.
2007-07-12 07:18:20 · answer #6 · answered by JB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that u should seek help for him and see if he can beat his addiction,it will help both of you out.
2007-07-12 07:33:44 · answer #7 · answered by mrsking022 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop giving him money.actually i cant get ur question. i need more details.send a email to me. sreedamarla@yahoo.com.
2007-07-12 07:16:48 · answer #8 · answered by **.Melody.** 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋