Family & Relationships - 11 July 2007

Two weeks ago I found out that my brother was brutally killed. The motive for his murder is skitchy, and his death I believe was a slow and painful one. I have also thought that if I had to die I want die doing something I enjoy and believe in. Secondly, I want it to be quick. My brother on the under had a slow and painful death from what I have been told.

Now the thing that has been bothering me since his death is the fact that i never met him or know what he looks like. We are of different father, and he is ten years my senior. I probably seen him on the streets and dont even recognize him. Before his passing I had no desire to know him, because I felt so distant, and didnt know what we would talk about. Now it's even worst for I have no desire to see him for the first time in his deceased state. I have been trying to put his death behind me, but all I can think of is "what if, what if I had reached out to him?" or "Why he never contacted me?" Will I be ok? Is Burial is Sat ....

2007-07-11 05:19:02 · 4 answers · asked by jamaicanchulo69 1 in Family

We are getting married June 28th of 2008. We have been planning the wedding the past three months. We have already paid deposits on the church, caterer and the reception hall. He is the only child to his parents. His mom treats him as a mama's boy. I do not have my ring yet but will be getting it within the few weeks. He states he doesn't want to tell his family and friends until it is official with me having the engagement ring. Don't you think he would be excited to tell his family especially his mom? I even asked him during a conversation the other day is it because he mom would not approve of me ( i have only met her once at this past xmas) and he said that his mom has never quite approved of his past relationships. Does this kinda bring up a red flag that his mom dicates a lot in his life and could be hard to please and get along with? Plus I have asked him if his mom wants to look at dresses with me and etc.....He said she that she wouldn't be interested. :(

2007-07-11 05:18:56 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

my boyfrind and i am in a disagreement about my weight. i say I'm fine, but he says I need to loose 20 lbs. as a guy, what would you want a girl is is 5'4'' to weigh???

2007-07-11 05:11:26 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

So a couple months ago I met someone on one of those free dating sites (plentyoffish.com). I had planned on moving back to my home town so I was checking out the area to try and meet some new faces. So I emailed this girl on the site and she responded. Within a week or so we're already talking on the phone. We are planning on meeting in a week when i get in to town. She's a beautiful woman that I feel is within my league, but you could call her a knockout. She's divorced, has a two year old daughter and takes care of a five bedroom home while working full time as a Nurse Practitioner and is currently getting her Master's Degree. She's very independant and for whatever reason, she's very much into me, so it seems. We don't talk all the time because she has a very productive life. I call often and get her voicemail but I usually get a call back. There isn't one particular thing that stands out but I have this feeling it's too good to be true...

2007-07-11 05:08:49 · 27 answers · asked by imagineus2night 1 in Singles & Dating

I love him, but have no trust and respect for him. Its been 9 months and I thought it would get better, but I still have days where I resent him, and everyday is filled with ZERO trust and respect. I fear that I cannot go on like this. I thought it would work, but I am second guessing my choice to stay married to him. I'm tired of "babysitting" my phone bill, and bank statements, I'm tired of wondering what he's 'really' doing, or where he's "really" at, when for all I know, he is true to his word, but in my head, I doubt it.

For the most part, he has been wonderful since. There are alot of days when life is good and it seems like we are newly weds. But all of what I said earlier haunts the back of my mind and I am sick and tired of being sick and tired.

Am I giving it enough time? Especially when he has tried so hard? I'm really confused and I just dont think love is enough anymore. Should I wait a little longer to see if it comes back, or walk away now?

2007-07-11 04:59:09 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Me and my husband are having a disagreement I always use foilwrap on my windows to keep the heat out in the summer and I think it works but my husband thinks not. Is there anybody out there who has tried this and finds that it works?

2007-07-11 04:58:21 · 9 answers · asked by jayiron00 1 in Marriage & Divorce

This baord is filled with baby mommas that got knocked up by some scum bag that doesn't want to marry them and complaining that they need more money and support? How can they afford computers on welfare?

2007-07-11 04:57:19 · 25 answers · asked by Just_the_facts 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-07-11 04:51:27 · 8 answers · asked by Nicole 1 in Singles & Dating

Last night my boyfriend and i were driving in the car to a friends house/movie and we were exchanging crazy secrets of ours, and he said something about when he's on his medicine he gets weird and serious - and quote, "if we're still together, which we probably will be, but if we're not.... then you'll see a weird side of me" and that really made me feel weird and kinda upset - and at the movies he went to get food and stuff with a friend and came back and I was just resting my head in my hand staring at the screen and he asked me if something was wrong and I told him no, which lol then he said he didn't believe me - but dropped the subject. One of my biggest fear is loosing him as my boyfriend, I don't know if he knows that or not, or if what he said hurt a bit - doubt it. But should I tell him? Or keep it to myself?

2007-07-11 04:48:12 · 13 answers · asked by S20x07E 1 in Singles & Dating

kiss
had sex
got married
had a kid
had your first piercing

2007-07-11 04:48:05 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Is college just like school? or is it like the things you see on tv drunk partys ect, i'm sooooo excited and nervous at the same time i just wanna know all the things you college students get up too :D

2007-07-11 04:47:26 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Everytime I go out with this girl she never dress up (except for one time). She always wear plain shirt, sports pants, flip flop and no makeup. On the other hand I always dress up with nice pants and shirt. Should I tell her to dress up next time? Or should I just let it go. She's cool and everything, and I could care less, but the disparity in our dressing may look a little odd plus I probably should stick to cheap restaurants that don't require dress code.

2007-07-11 04:46:50 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-07-11 04:43:52 · 4 answers · asked by I'mclothed 1 in Singles & Dating

before moving in together? Do you think it should be a certain time period or just when it feels right to do so? It is my home that I am talking about ,anymore advice about this? Thanks.

2007-07-11 04:43:27 · 15 answers · asked by starchild4485 2 in Singles & Dating

I lied a lot to my b/f T in the beginning of our 18 mth. relationship but I have never cheated on him. Around our 6th mth, an incident occured with me lying and he has called me horrible names, hurt me, etc. ever since. I neglected to tell him I let a boy lay his head on my leg and stroke my leg that night (it was a very awkward situation, I did NOT enjoy it) until the 11th month. I have not lied since the 11th month. Nothing has changed. My b/f is still horrible to me, I am retaliating in the same horrible manner, screaming at him, etc. because it hurts so bad. My ex A was my friend in the beginning of my relationship with T but I realized this was a pipedream because of T's behavior, so I never talked to A again. A called me yesterday, back from basic training, and he is leaving the country for almost 4 years. I may never see him again. Me and T basically broke up over this. Should I have tried longer to make amends with T and see if he was ever going to change? Or was I right?

2007-07-11 04:42:27 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-07-11 04:42:06 · 4 answers · asked by Spotlight 5 in Singles & Dating

Why did he delete me?
I was talking to a guy and I told him that I saw his ex on myspace through his freinds' page. I told him that I thought he had lousy taste in women, because she cheated and his sister in law is still talking to her. So, he got upset and deleted me.

Why was he so mad, was he insulted? Or did he think it was weird that I saw it on myspace? He looked at my profile often, also, according to my tracker.

2007-07-11 04:41:59 · 4 answers · asked by googlegirly 1 in Singles & Dating

I'm 31 and I live in a small city. It seems most folks lock themselves up at home on the weekends. Internet dating sucks. I'm agnostic, so church is not an option. I don't like drinking, so bars are out. Coffee shops are full of 18 and 19 year olds... so I don't think that is viable. Where else is there to meet women for dating?

2007-07-11 04:41:10 · 2 answers · asked by Zloar 4 in Singles & Dating

My life is so boring. I work, go to school and sleep. i have no friends. when I do hang out(alone) nobody talks to me. Can people smell the 'loser with no life' in me? i'm NOT going to just go up and talk to people, i have nothing to say and that's not my style. What to do?

2007-07-11 04:40:05 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

I like this girl a lot. When I hear people call her name or talk about her I feel my stomach turn and my heart beat speeds up.
I really like her. But she is way to young for me. She is 17 I am much older, I'm 33. I'm not after her for the sex, I don't care about that. I really like her company and wouldn't mind waiting for sex until she reaches 18 or 19 or whatever.

What can I do to forget her. Part of me says that I should continue trying to see if love works between us but the other part says to forget her. But I can't forget her.

2007-07-11 04:39:06 · 11 answers · asked by johnduo0007 1 in Singles & Dating

okai so my boyfriend and i have the same best friend her name is samantha! and me and samantha got into a fight cuz i threw something at her! anyways i was texting her to apolgize and say sorry and to plzz forgive me and she kept saying that she didnt wanna be my frined no more and telling me off and it sounded nothing like her! maybe becuz it wasnt her it was my boyfriend he had her phone! and he made me sound soooo stupid i felt so humiliated and embarresed! omg! what do i do...or how do i play it offf???

2007-07-11 04:38:14 · 27 answers · asked by NATALiiE ANN♥ 2 in Singles & Dating

I'm lonley right now

2007-07-11 04:38:10 · 12 answers · asked by Brittani L 1 in Friends

My husband got married at his folks historic home back in December. We had a beautiful, intimate, ceremony with a dinner following there at the estate. We only invited around 40 of our closest family and friends because we wanted a small, private, meaningful night. Everything went perfectly (cept for the preacher forgetting our names) and everyone was wonderful. However, over the next week as we started opening our gifts, we noticed most had no name tags. I blamed his mom and brothers for not being careful and getting things messed up. I was heartbroken because I had my thank you cards ready to go. But, then we realized that all the gifts without names were actually from his parents. It is no exaggeration to say that 70% of the people who attended our wedding showed up without a gift of any kind, and one couple, whose daughter was one of my flower girls, and I paid $350+ for her dress and accessories, only gave us a greeting card. Running out of room, so I'll continue below.

2007-07-11 04:38:08 · 27 answers · asked by Emmy F 3 in Weddings

There are three girls in my class (I go to a small school, 30 per class) who the guys are always crushing on. They may dress like hos, but they're practically lobotomized. What's up with that??? Why don't they like personality?

2007-07-11 04:37:41 · 10 answers · asked by xxinhershoesatlastxx 2 in Singles & Dating

Hi! Before starting i'd should say that i'm french so excuse me for my bad english. So here I go: 3 years ago I was just that stupid teenager who couldn't get a girlfriend and who hoped every night in bed before sleeping that he would find someone to love him soon. And then I met my girlfriend. She became the most important person of my life, I could do anything just to be able to spend 2 mins with her. I made her mine and I became her's. 2 yrs passed by. Love was not what I thought it was... We suffered a lot, both of us and I learned a lot. Now 1 yr ago, I began to look at girls on the street. I tried to stop but I guess I just didn't want to. I just didn't want to be the person she wanted me to be anymore. Yesterday for the 1st time in 3 yrs I took another girl's number... I don't want to hurt her...then again I guess im already doing so. Im not a bad person, i just don't know what to think... What's happening? Have I stopped loving her? Or im I just another jerk?

2007-07-11 04:37:07 · 18 answers · asked by Bysdntcry 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

Recently all i can think about is guys and i really want a boyfriend! I know it sounds really desperate but i cant help it, and i just get like random urges to kiss hot guys who i see in the street! I don't have a boyfriend and i need some tips on how to get one..? I think i have a good personality and i'm quite pretty (sorry if that sounded arrogant) however i do have really small boobs, do you think this is turning guys off? Why don't I have a boyfriend?! And why am I going through such a guy-crazy phase? please help!

2007-07-11 04:36:28 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

9 times out of 10, it's because the man cannot deal with the woman. These women usually act like bitches. Some woman use the child as leverage towards the man. ("if you don't get back with me, you cant see your child"). Some women put conditions as to how the man can see the child and the man doesnt want to deal with it. I know a woman that would not let the dad see the child unless she was there to supervise. This was for no reason. Just to be spiteful. Although there are some men that don't want to have anything to do with their child for no reason at all, there are also dads that do want to be a part of their childs life but the mom makes it difficult.

2007-07-11 04:34:51 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-07-11 04:34:37 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I'm from NY moved to Atl. One of my coworker (22) did everything from going on a radio show (to win a ring) to planned her own a romantic trip just so her bf can propose. Her bf every told her why would he propose when she was the one who planned the trip and something he loves her and sometime he can't stand her. She hads tantrums when one of her friends are engaged. Went on sites where you can dress your wedding party, picks out dresses & ring. Hangs pics of herself holding a friends baby while sitting next to her BF in her cube and on mysapce. She always saying all her friends are married. Her bf finnnnnally proposed this pass Sat 7/07& the wedding date is (get this) oct/07. Girl has every plan out already. The older women are encouraging this.
She's just one example of this behavior I've encountered living down here so I just wondered if thats is how some are conditioned to be. I know every little girl dreams of their wedding but this is a little much.

2007-07-11 04:33:38 · 15 answers · asked by Akasha 3 in Marriage & Divorce

My mom's birthday is today. Me and my 3 sisters had talked about getting her a lawn appliance, so my one sister said she would check into how much they are and get back to us. Well she never got back to us, so I went and bought my mom a gift ($30), then my other sister calls and asks if I will pick up a cake ($20) and now my other sister shows up with the lawn appliance ($35 each sister)! I feel $85 is way too much to spend on a birthday. I don't know what to do, I only wanted to spend $50 tops. Are they taking advantage or should I just forget it?

2007-07-11 04:32:27 · 4 answers · asked by casey308 2 in Family