Last night my boyfriend and i were driving in the car to a friends house/movie and we were exchanging crazy secrets of ours, and he said something about when he's on his medicine he gets weird and serious - and quote, "if we're still together, which we probably will be, but if we're not.... then you'll see a weird side of me" and that really made me feel weird and kinda upset - and at the movies he went to get food and stuff with a friend and came back and I was just resting my head in my hand staring at the screen and he asked me if something was wrong and I told him no, which lol then he said he didn't believe me - but dropped the subject. One of my biggest fear is loosing him as my boyfriend, I don't know if he knows that or not, or if what he said hurt a bit - doubt it. But should I tell him? Or keep it to myself?
2007-07-11 04:48:12 · 13 answers · asked by S20x07E 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'd talk to him about it. Communication is important. Don't accuse him of anything, or get all emotional about it, but just ask him to explain what he meant about getting "weird" a little bit more.
Chances are he just said something that came out awkward, (guys do that), and he didn't mean anything by it.
2007-07-11 04:57:26 · answer #1 · answered by righteousjohnson 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The secret to a great relationship is communication, if you are scared of loosing him tell himand more importantly if he's upset you get him told. He's not a mind reader sweetie and you can sit there and be quiet for hours on end it will get you nowhere believe me
2007-07-11 04:54:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, my husband told me he had a dark side before we got married. I just said, "So what is it? Are you a serial killer or something? Don't just say I have a dark side because I will think the worst of you and then I don't know if I want to date you anymore." Then he laughed and told me his dark side which was nothing more than just some stupid guy stuff. so don't worry. Next time, just ask him exactly what he means....
2007-07-11 05:05:06 · answer #3 · answered by Annie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People know themselves. People tell about themselves in little ways. If I was you I'd been unnerved too. That was a slightly disturbing statement.
Some time, over french fries or something, just be like, "What did you mean when you said ..." and let him talk. Pry a little but not too much. Beware. I had the nicest bf once who tried to kill me when I dumped him.
2007-07-11 04:54:40 · answer #4 · answered by Ade 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you can't even open up to him over something this small, things might not work out. the best way to keep a strong relationship is to keep the trust and communication lines open. let him know what was bothering you and why you didn't want to tell him. if anything, it might bring you guys closer together.
2007-07-11 04:56:20 · answer #5 · answered by Juan M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you feel.
It will make him feel better that you can be open w/ him.
I tell my boyfriend how I feel all the time.
I have the fear of loosing my bf and what I'd do w/o him
But, it doesn't bother me to much because I know he loves me with all his heart.
And I love him SOO much too.
Goodluck, hun
2007-07-11 04:52:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ur over reacting. He didn't mean anything by it he was just talking. If u need to say something bc it bothers u that much then do it but its not that big of a deal.
2007-07-11 04:51:59 · answer #7 · answered by Abby Jo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course you should tell him that it upset you and u were a little hurt about what he said.. dont keep things inside bc it will just get worse..if you really want to keep him then dont keep things from him let him know how you feel all the time.. i think its better to let your bf know how you feel.. i tell my bf when he upsets me or hurts my feelings bc i think its better to get it out then keep it in..bc later on you will bring it up bc it bothered you and it will be a big mess..good luck
2007-07-11 04:54:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him it hurt your feelings my Bf does stuff like that all the time so I let him know so we can talk about it.
2007-07-11 04:52:48 · answer #9 · answered by BURT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow girl, chill out.
You are thinking WAY too much about something he was just remarking on. He didnt tell you he wasnt going to be with you, he was talking hypothetically.
Relax. Dont tell him it upset you, because technically it didnt. You are just paranoid. Stop thinking. Enjoy him and dont be afraid to lose him or you will.
2007-07-11 04:52:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋