Why do women complain when the man doesn't want to be a part of their child's lives?

Question

9 times out of 10, it's because the man cannot deal with the woman. These women usually act like bitches. Some woman use the child as leverage towards the man. ("if you don't get back with me, you cant see your child"). Some women put conditions as to how the man can see the child and the man doesnt want to deal with it. I know a woman that would not let the dad see the child unless she was there to supervise. This was for no reason. Just to be spiteful. Although there are some men that don't want to have anything to do with their child for no reason at all, there are also dads that do want to be a part of their childs life but the mom makes it difficult.

Answer 1

You are correct in your thinking. But there are also women like myself, who would like the biological father to have something to do the kids, but he is the one who chooses not to. He has made it very clear that he did not want them. But as for what you have said about women acting like bitches just because, I agree. It pisses me off as well. My boyfriend of 3 years just in the past 6 months has been able to get his two boys from the mom on weekends. But she won't let him have them on holidays and when we plan on taking a little family vacation. I don't know her and have never talked bad about her because I don't know her whole reason for doing so. But it would seem that it is likely to be that of some kind of power play on the woman's part?

Answer 2

Your question is not a simple answer. It's certainly true that some women are vindictive and use their child as a tool when any type of conflict occurs. However, it's also true that a lot of women don't. Your question stereotypes women based on experiences you've perceived, when you should know better than to stereotype.

To put conditions on seeing a child may be due to a variety of reasons, such as how the father may be. Women have a natural maternal instinct to protect their young. If they don't trust the father of the child, most of the time it's because they're protective and have mostly seen the father in a bad light, which they don't want to expose their child to. If the father feels fed up with the women, and decides he doesn't want to go through all of that just to be with the child then it shows that the man doesn't care enough to be with his child. If a man loves his children he would go through whatever lengths to be with them. To simply walk away because of conflicts with the mother is not only stupid, but cowardly.

Answer 3

Sounds like you are having some issues with the mother of your child. You shouldn't, however, take the liberty to apply your situation others'.

In most cases these single mothers do have the right to be bitches and complain, since most of these fathers you're talking about (possibly including yourself) use any excuse in the book not to be involved with their child and ESPECIALLY to not pay child support. If a father really wants to be a part of the child's life, he'll stop being selfish and worrying about how the mother is acting towards him. If this truly is the case with the mother's behaviour, then he'd take her to court for custody.

What you listed above are all just excuses to not be a responsible father. If you support these wimpy-a@* excuses, then you should've never become a father in the first place.
You're simply NOT a man. Sorry to lay the truth on you.

Good luck.

Answer 4

♥ Some woman may be like this but NOT all woman. This is a horrible stereotype for mothers, or mothers to be.... There are many reasons that woman complain that a man doesnt want to be a part of their childs life. Alot of men just make babies, then dont want to take part in raising them or helping to support them. It makes the woman angry, because its hard to be a single mom and plus why wouldnt a man want to be in his childs life???


♥ No matter how horrible the woman makes it, if that man loves their child then they should go to any lengths to see their child.

Answer 5

Women complain because it is not up to us to decide when and where you can see your child!! It is up to the judges in the court house that is what their job is!! What is aggravating is that men wont step up to the plate to learn or even act on their rights as far as their children are concerned!! In situations like this so what if the woman tells a man he cant see his child!! The men in these situations need to realize they have rights and they can go to court and the judge will exercise his right to let the child visit with their father!! So many men just give up after the woman tells them this line of bull crap because they dont want to be hassled or be bothered with the time and effort and cash that it takes to go through court proceedings but you will never get a decent woman to respect you if you dont stick up for your right to be with your child!! So what if it is a hassle!!! Is your child not worth the fight or the aggravation? These are questions your child will want to know when they are older and they will not settle for excuses about how difficult their mom was being at the time!! So men need to wake up and think about their kids and to hell with these women who try to make it difficult...that just means they havent let go of that man it has nothing to do with the child!! Parents need to put their kids feelings FIRST!!!! Good luck!!

Answer 6

I think your stats are way off. But from my experience it usually has to do with the fact that some of these men want to be fathers when it is convenient for them. When they do not want to be fathers they leave the child raising to the moms - who do not have a choice but be a full time parent. In addition, some of these men refuse to support their children financially. And once again, the mom has to cover the costs. There are women who use their kids and I do not agree with that. Kids need to come first. These men you talk about need to find ways to deal with the mother of their children. Otherwise - 9 out of 10 kids will grow up not knowing their fathers and that is just sad.

Answer 7

We have a situation of this sort. My husband had a child. Him and the mother could not work things out so they broke up, they never married. She said he could see the child but only w/ her present, and I believe he lost a girlfriend or 2 because of this, because she did not want the new lady around. I met him when the child was, oh, 2 or 3? Anyway, he then moved to my state. We are now married, and have a child of our own. Anyway, she wants him to see his child w/ her only w/ her present, but, not w/ me around. Anyway, we still live out of state, so it's not easy to see the child on a regular basis. We can't afford a lawyer, so things will stay as they are. He should not have to fight to see his daughter. He pays his child support, he should not have to pay a lawyer for the right. She basically wants him back, lol. That is what I think. That is why she wants to be alone w/ him and the girl. She used to dump him then want him back again. Too late lady! He's married.

Answer 8

Some women do act that way..... but the ex bf was the one to do that to me. I tried making arrangement so he can see his daughter and it never worked. He wouldn't see the baby unless I was there, and 12 orders of protections (for me not the child) later he just disappeared. I do wish he had a relationship with her even if I couldn't stand him. So I guess it depends on the person, but not all moms makes it difficult. Some dads are crazy too.

Answer 9

Every child has a right to have have his or her father's time and attention.
I find it absolutely incredible that a man would say that the child's mother won't let him see the child. If my husband and I had divorced, and he got custody of our children, ten guys with machine guns couldn't have kept me from seeing them. They are my children. I can't comprehend a person not seeing his children because the mom makes it "difficult".
The custodial parent has no right to unilaterally put conditions on the noncustodial parent's visitation. If that happens, the noncustodial parent should try to negotiate a change, and if he is unsuccessful, he should take the mom to court.

Answer 10

So true. I have a close friend in the same situation who is so sick of his ex's bullshit he wants to terminate his parental rights. Which became worse when his daughter began acting just like her. Even though he is a awesome father. His ex has pulled so much crap, which has worsened since she was dumped by her newer husband by her high school English teacher. I know she hates seeing him happy. She has gave it away to whoever will take it. He is with the same woman since he filed for a divorce. She can't even manage her money to keep her own place. If it was not for her mother, she would be homeless. So, yeah, I know what your talking about. And yes, it is a damn shame women use the children like that when they do things that make them the unfit parents.