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Two weeks ago I found out that my brother was brutally killed. The motive for his murder is skitchy, and his death I believe was a slow and painful one. I have also thought that if I had to die I want die doing something I enjoy and believe in. Secondly, I want it to be quick. My brother on the under had a slow and painful death from what I have been told.

Now the thing that has been bothering me since his death is the fact that i never met him or know what he looks like. We are of different father, and he is ten years my senior. I probably seen him on the streets and dont even recognize him. Before his passing I had no desire to know him, because I felt so distant, and didnt know what we would talk about. Now it's even worst for I have no desire to see him for the first time in his deceased state. I have been trying to put his death behind me, but all I can think of is "what if, what if I had reached out to him?" or "Why he never contacted me?" Will I be ok? Is Burial is Sat ....

2007-07-11 05:19:02 · 4 answers · asked by jamaicanchulo69 1 in Family & Relationships Family

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It's hard I know to deal with something like that. I suggest getting to know as much as you can about him. Go to his funeral/burial, and talk to those who knew him better. Despite the fact that you never knew him you were still closely connected to him. You're experiencing a loss--allow yourself to grieve.

2007-07-11 05:29:40 · answer #1 · answered by GLSigma3 6 · 0 0

howdy purely a real little bit of suggestion. think of roughly this. This individual do not understand you from Adam. who's she to tell you which you have a brother you by no skill knew. If she is this form of psychic, you ought to have asked her for his selection and his call and date of delivery. Sorry to be so sarcastic yet I purely % to tell you that the advice they're supplying you with there is not authentic. in spite of if that's bothering you that a lot, purely ask your mother and father lady. I purely pray which you do not' bypass back there and waste your funds or time by making use of listening to those lies they communicate on your from the devil. that's there interest and that they are going to inform you something to make you come back back.

2016-12-14 05:44:21 · answer #2 · answered by adamek 4 · 0 0

wow. i'm real sorry for your loss. he died 2 weeks ago and is just now being buried? thats a little odd. anyway, you can "what if" yourself until you're purple. we all do it when someone dies. i know your situation is different but your guilt isn't. no reason to put his death behind you. it's not possible. it's staring you right in the face.you're not facing your feelings. the more you try to forget, the worse it could become. maybe you feel as though it would be hypocritical to go to the buriel. it's not. it's the right thing to do. go. make peace with yourself and your bro. it'll help you. god bless.

2007-07-11 05:46:32 · answer #3 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0 0

dont be stuck on the "whys" and "ifs"... it'll only annoy you in the future... i know its tough now, but eventually you have got to let this go... otherwise youll be talking to yourself... saying "why?" and "if" questions... you couldve had the oppertunity to meet him when he was alive but you didnt you felt distant..as you stated... well thats just the choice you made and youre goin to have to accept it now... so i advise you to eventually get over it and move on with your life... the bright side is that you didnt know him at all... you just knew he was your brother... so i dont see any feelings of love for him... i dont mean to sound messed up.

2007-07-11 05:44:49 · answer #4 · answered by SuperMan 2 · 0 0

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