Not dressing up in a date?

Question

Everytime I go out with this girl she never dress up (except for one time). She always wear plain shirt, sports pants, flip flop and no makeup. On the other hand I always dress up with nice pants and shirt. Should I tell her to dress up next time? Or should I just let it go. She's cool and everything, and I could care less, but the disparity in our dressing may look a little odd plus I probably should stick to cheap restaurants that don't require dress code.

Answer 1

Here's an idea"COMMUNICATION"!

Answer 2

First, You & her has were raise by different family. You probably were taught to dress up on the other hand She probably was taught dress however you feel like. She may not have the $$$ to do this. She probaby never learn how proper ethic and you might be the one like to dress up all the times. I I would talk to her before you meet with again to know more about her childhood upbringing.What kind of ethics, values,etc she and her family has . I would also would want to see how her family & some of her friends dress. would not let her go because how she dress if she a nice & respect person that easy to change. I would not go places that would make you & her look odd. I understand that. It would make you & her look bad esp you. People might think he look nice why his girl don't look good. Sorry people do judge. Please dont be a people pleaser. I would talk to her see what the problem something has to be wrong if she see you dress up & she don't. As a woman,she take some clues to dress up to make both of you look good (even a man should pick up the clues also). Either she dress up or you have to dress down so you could dress causal. If she not willing to change or you can;t do this maybe you should leave her. The one time she dress up that probably when both of you meet. She probably go to feeling you like her & he would accept me the way I am. The choice is yours. I would talk to her to see what the problems. It could be what I mention above and you have to go from there. As far as flip flop this is summer time. Where are tjhe places both of you going on a date. At the park, I probably would wear flip flops, sandals, tennis shoes. Going out a nice fancy restaurant. I would dress up.I think it a woman choice is she want to make up or not. It a whole lot of women look good including me look good without it. The man in my life accept without. If you a woman to wear makeup. You have to pick women that wear makeup this is your only judgemental fault I see in your questions. Remember if you or her or any women going to have a serious relationship she not going to wear makuo all the times. For exp. she might be sick, don't have time, don't feel like it, or maybe just in labor just have your baby. Good luck.

Answer 3

Why do you say that you could care less, when you obviously care enough to post the question here and seek answers?
I think you need to be honest with her and encourage her to go somewhere dressy with you, and see what happens. A lot of girls don't dress up because they don't like the whole thing of achieving a certain "look." They are more reality-based and not into appearances! OTH if it's fun to dress up and go out together . . . tell her that and see what happens.

Answer 4

Warn her about the place you are going to take her. If it's a place that you need to dress up, just say, 'It's a place that's a little upscale and so dress up a little' She'll be curious - no one wants to wear inappropriate clothing when they go out.
I think what you're missing here is that it is just as inappropriate to be overdressed. Unless you tell her about where you are taking her and what the 'informal' dress code is (there usually isn't a 'formal' dress code), how is she to know what to wear anyway?
Make up is strictly optional in all situations.

Answer 5

Maybe you could just ask her in a really nice way before you step it down, plus is this girl a tom-boy maybe this dressing up thing isn't something she is accustomed to. Just talk to her and see her reaction. Sleezy restaurants don't help the situation because you'll want to take her out somewhere nice eventually! So make it you honest duty to complement her when she does "dress up" okay :D.

Answer 6

Let her dress the way she wants. However, if you want to get all dressed up to go to a special, fancy place. Tell her first so she can have the chance to dress up, but if even with notice like that she she still dresses causal, then it's time to talk to her.

Answer 7

if you really want her to dress up and put on make up then...
make reservations at a FANCY resturant, and tell her a month in advance so she knows its big and she might want to dress up on her own... but just in case say something like...
hey ? i have some reservations at ? and tell her that you love her ( if you do) and then wait about a week and take her to the mall, walk by a fancy store and say " lets go in and look around" or something like that, if she loves you she will, and then pick out a few cute things that she will love and you will too!!! then after you found it then you should buy it for her! then after that she will relize that it REALLY FANCY and maby put on some make up for you

Answer 8

It's just the dress and.. don't tell her to dress up in a nicer way. It's her choice and that's her attitude. And, does it really matter for you? It should not be. And, me.. I'm more comfortable wearing clothes like that 'cause I feel.. lighter! And.. what kind of clothes do you want her to wear? It's her choice, my dear..

Answer 9

I think it's not rude to ask a girl to dress up... but when you're telling her about your plans to go out with her, just casually say "Oh, and wear something dressy tonight. We're going somewhere special" or something like that.

Answer 10

Next time try telling her what you're going to do for your date. Like, "I'm going to take you to a really nice dinner." If she STILL dresses down, then you might need to say something to her!

Answer 11

Tell her to dress up. You don't want to be seen with a slob, and laugh after that so she won't be able to tell if you're being mean or not..... Tell her wear you're taking her, and there's a dress code.