Family & Relationships - 19 June 2007

I was married to a sociopath who worked on and off for over a decade. There was not one vow or 10 commandment that he did not violate at least once. My family, his family and our friends encouraged me to divorce him. I tried to save the marriage but paid a great deal to him financially and emotionally. My self esteem and self love was at its lowest. He cheated, lied, stole money and use drugs. I finally had enough and divorced him. I am in counseling and determined to move on with my life. When I have to speak to my ex I usually catch him lying and trying to confuse me. Although he rarely contacts our children, he makes promises to them that he does not keep. He is going to marry another woman in the next month. I want to stop being angry at him and move on. To contact him would only cause another fight. How can I get closure without talking to or contacting him?

2007-06-19 12:15:57 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Obviously no one wins from having an alcoholic in the home, but who do you believe are the victims most often? Why do you believe their suffering is the more pronounced? Thx.

2007-06-19 12:15:03 · 17 answers · asked by waldguy 4 in Marriage & Divorce

DO PEOPLE ALWAYS FALL IN LOVE WITH THEIR FIRST OR AT LEAST SPRUNG? AND WHY?

2007-06-19 12:12:58 · 9 answers · asked by store_sexy 2 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-06-19 12:11:17 · 9 answers · asked by naughty lady 2 in Marriage & Divorce

So....
I was wasted one night and told my friends husband that i loved him and wanted him to be next to me everymorning when i wake up and not my husband. I told him he is in my dreams and i wish he was with me and not my dreams... Somehting along those lines.
I did not mean to say that... I hardley rememeber saying it. She now does not want to speak to me and she hates me very much. I told her i was drunk and didnt mean it but she dosent care... Any advise as to what i can say to her to make her 4give me???

2007-06-19 12:09:33 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

Today is my parents' 35th anniversary. Their marriage survived 18 years of infidelity, two illegitimate children (from that 18 year affair), and emotional abuse. They are now one of the healthiest and happiest couples I know.

Granting a few exceptions, I ask, if they can make it work, why can't many others?

I'm very proud of them, and I'm using them as my example of what to do and what not to do when I get married. But because of them, I truly believe marriage is a permanent commitment. They rock.

2007-06-19 12:09:22 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

love life in detail, i thought she loved me but after marraige it was a punishment to live with her as she was always taunting me of my previous love life which was very painful for me as i wanted to move ahead but she pulled me back into past.She behaved immaturely and created unneccesary problems for me i got disturbed and finally quited from army where i was a captain .She use to take some medicines of pshycatary which she never told me one day i found out her medicines ,once i asked her purpose of them ,she said sleeping pills which was a lie.She has strange type of fits in which she makes scary voices.I try to give her all the happiness i can but she doesnt even let me have sex . I,m having 3 kids but i find it difficult to live with her should i divorce her as it seems very difficult to live like a miserable person with no love as she says she hates me.

2007-06-19 12:08:55 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Okay guys..
Would you rather have a fat girl with a pretty face or a skinny girl with an ugly face?
Would you rather have a womoan who is super sexy or super smart?
And would you rather have a lady or a tramp?
You can only pick one or the other on all 3 questions..

2007-06-19 12:07:29 · 8 answers · asked by savagegrace 4 in Singles & Dating

I don’t know what to get him?? We want to go some where but not on our anniversary. I don’t know what to get him I have until Aug 11 but I would like to get something that’s not so short notice help please thanks :)

2007-06-19 12:06:38 · 13 answers · asked by nikie_atkinson 4 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-06-19 12:05:24 · 48 answers · asked by naughty lady 2 in Marriage & Divorce

esp after a small fight about him/her being insecure about the person who's trying to hit on you. if he/she told you about his/her feelings for u does this make you feel better?? AND start to trust him/her??

2007-06-19 12:04:40 · 2 answers · asked by tyrha69 1 in Singles & Dating

i have a couple of questions for guys
1) if a girl is beautiful/hot, why would a guy try to make her question herself, and make her feel like she's not? (an example would be my next question)

2) whats the point of a guy trying to make a girl jealous with another girl anyway?

3) my sister-in laws b/f has a photos album of him and his ex girlfriend. she knows about it but he wont throw it out. he says he loves my sister inlaw and despises his ex. what wrong with him?

2007-06-19 12:04:40 · 3 answers · asked by Zoe1 2 in Singles & Dating

Well I been deppressed for a long time and I dont have fun any more everyone at my school shms always makes fun of me and I just get really mad about it One time I tried to kill myself & I got put in to a mental hospital 3 times in 6 weeks but now I am all better so I dont know am I not worth it is that why my dad left me? Am I not worth anything. Do I not have a reason to live?

2007-06-19 12:04:13 · 20 answers · asked by howtosavealifecm 3 in Friends

I have been engaged for more than a year, and now the wedding date is coming up, It is really scary, I am not sure this is the RIGHT time for me to get married, or is he the RIGHT person for me? Is this normal?

2007-06-19 12:03:52 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I'm in college, and my best friend from high school asked me to be her Maid of Honor, but we grew up in New Mexico, she lives in Arizona now, and I'm in Colorado. She got engaged in February, but just this week she told me that she wants to have an engagment party and I'm supposed to throw it. She's getting married in October, and I'm working in Colorado all summer, "our" friends are mostly in New Mexico, and she and "her" friends are in Arizona. I've been trying to get a list of who she wants, and contact information, but she hasn't been very helpful. I'm not even sure who the other Brides Maids are! I can't even get a hold of her mom!

What should I do!?!?

My mom didn't have an engagment party, so she doesn't have any advice either.

HELP!

2007-06-19 12:03:06 · 12 answers · asked by Nets 1 in Weddings

I know this isn't the norm for this topic, but I'm the cheating girlfriend. Before you all shame me, let me explain myself. I have a wonderful boyfriend whom I adore & love w/ all my heart & would never want to jeopardize our relationship, but I have a cheating problem. Now some may say that I'm just trifling and know what I'm doing. And although this may be true, I honestly have a problem. I can't stop cheating. I don't like or love the men I cheat with, but I keep going back. And it's not because sex w/ my boyfriend is bad, it's great. No matter how many times I tell myself not to, no matter how much I beat up on myself & try to stop, I can't. I want to stop, I do, but cheating for me is like a drug. I got one hit, and now I need to get a fix ever so often. Me and my boyfriend have been together for about a year now, but my cheating streak has been going for 5 years. I want to stop, I love the man I'm with & I don't want to hurt him. But I honestly can't. What do I do? Please help!

2007-06-19 12:02:06 · 13 answers · asked by Sweetpeach 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-06-19 12:01:49 · 5 answers · asked by jairae11 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-06-19 11:58:44 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

i've been with my husband for almost 9 years, married for 3, and lately all i can think about is leaving him. it's strange that years ago i was crazy head-over-heels in love with him, but now i can barely stand to be in the same room. i just don't feel happy with him. we have a 2 year old son together and i don't know if it's fair to him if i leave his father for my own happiness. we have almost split many times on my account, but he always asks me to come back and i always end up staying. he's not a terrible person, he's just angry and stressed out ALL the time, and it's hard to live in a house where i constantly have to walk on eggshells to keep him happy. he isn't violent, he just yells and places alot of blame on other people. my son is also starting to notice when i'm sad and asks me "mommy, what happened"? i wonder if i't possible to fall out of love, and what that feels like? any advice?

2007-06-19 11:57:09 · 27 answers · asked by lucy 1 in Marriage & Divorce

My man has this deep feeling to want a threesome with two women ( a good friend) and I don't want to I feel sick and scared and I feel like he will be giving pleasure to some one else or getting pleasure when it should be just him and I and no matter how much I tell I feel uncomfortable he still wants to find out a way to have the excitement and or at least convince me to do it . I need reasonable ideas because I can't seem to find any to still give him excitement without it being a threesome? help if you can

2007-06-19 11:56:48 · 28 answers · asked by bahbah 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-06-19 11:55:52 · 11 answers · asked by C lR Y § T /A\ lL 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I always feel uncomfortable being naked with a new partner for the first time. I can't help but wonder how I "measure up" to previous men she's been with. I'd say I fall within the average category. What can I do to relax?

2007-06-19 11:55:11 · 10 answers · asked by curious 2 in Marriage & Divorce

My fiance and I met on yahoo personals. I fell hard for him and we moved in together after a year of dating. I lost a baby and went alittle clingy. Three months ago I considered leaving because I found that he had a bogus (non-searchable) personals page on yahoo. He told me he had no intention of ever cheating or even flirting, just wanted to look out of bordum and habit. So ever since then I have been ultra sensitive about his net activities. I found the porn site groups and all. I asked him to stop and he said he would if I quite smoking. He said if he fell off the wagon and looked he would tell me....I am so confused I want to belive that this is all just a guy thing and he really does love me. Is it going to go away? Will he be honest? He treats me good, we don't fight, he acts in every other aspect like I am #1...Don't tell me to watch it with him though because he hates to talk about sex and feels uncomfortable that I even know about him watching porn (??)

2007-06-19 11:54:54 · 17 answers · asked by melbe710 2 in Marriage & Divorce

If i say yes- she would not believe me!
if i say no- she would give me the sort of look that kills!

All answers appreciated, both from women and men.
Thanks

2007-06-19 11:52:29 · 102 answers · asked by toietmoi 6 in Singles & Dating

My friend married a US citizen (shes illegal) and she's waiting for the response on her green card (its been pending for 5 yrs). Her husband is now divorcing her because they have grown apart, but what she's wondering will the fact that she didn't take her soon to be ex-husband's last name and stuck with her maiden name, will that affect the process of her green card?

2007-06-19 11:51:33 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

there's this guy co worker who keeps flattering me like he says i'm cute and pretty, could he like me?

2007-06-19 11:50:05 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

i like this girl which im pretty good friends with..i'm afraid that if i make a move it will ruin our relationship..what should i do?

2007-06-19 11:49:58 · 10 answers · asked by B0SS 1 in Singles & Dating

If you could pull an Anna Nicole Smith would you?

2007-06-19 11:48:50 · 17 answers · asked by Brian 5 in Singles & Dating

2007-06-19 11:48:37 · 6 answers · asked by romanticboy 1 in Singles & Dating

so we never visit each other

2007-06-19 11:47:24 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating