So....
I was wasted one night and told my friends husband that i loved him and wanted him to be next to me everymorning when i wake up and not my husband. I told him he is in my dreams and i wish he was with me and not my dreams... Somehting along those lines.
I did not mean to say that... I hardley rememeber saying it. She now does not want to speak to me and she hates me very much. I told her i was drunk and didnt mean it but she dosent care... Any advise as to what i can say to her to make her 4give me???
2007-06-19 12:09:33 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I DID NOT TRY TO GET HER HUSBAND IN BED IT WAS A STUPID TEXT! HER HUSBAND AND I WERE BEST FRIENDS B4 I EVEN BECAME FRIENDS WITH HER!!!! HE IS LIKE MY FAMILY AND I MEANT NOTHING BY IT! IF YOU HAVE A RUDE COMMENT THEN PLEASE DO NOT WRITE. IM ASKING FOR ADVICE NOT YOUR CRITISISM!
2007-06-22 04:24:24 · update #1
If this is a true friend she will forgive you. But you was wrong to tell that to her husband. Go to her and tell her you are sorry and you was drunk again. Tell her that you have no feelings for her husband and you wish she would be your friend.
2007-06-19 12:55:24 · answer #1 · answered by Myeisha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you didnt really feel some attraction to him why would you say that to begin with? and to the extent where you said you wanted to leave your husband for him and be with him everyday? you should realize what you did was very wrong(drunk isnt that great of an excuse), and realize she probably wont ever forgive you, and if she does it will take a lot of time, and even then your friendship will never be same.
stop trying to convince her it was not you, but "drunken" you. and own up to your actions, and tell her how sorry you are and how much she means to you. thats about all you can do, because that isnt going to heal itself over night. honestly, look from her perspective, what if she did that to your husband?(considering you really love your husband)
2007-06-19 12:16:39 · answer #2 · answered by lana62727 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know what? Its been my experience that when somebody does something this stupid when drunk, its usually been thought of before. Count your blessings that she hasnt placed an unwanted lump on your head and let it alone! If I were her, I probably wouldnt want anything to do with you anymore either. Time to wake up baby and hope that your hubby doesnt find out what youve been up to. I mean really, what would you expect to happen? Her completely forget that you tried to get her husband in bed and stay your best friend in life?
2007-06-19 12:21:03 · answer #3 · answered by pappysgotitgoinon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think I could forgive you and I know I would never trust you to be near my husband again. She probably knows that drunk just means lowered inhabitions not totally out of control. Hopefully she won't tell your husband what happened.
2007-06-19 12:15:31 · answer #4 · answered by punxy_girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say, sorry I was such a witch and I know now that I am an alcoholic and I'm not really your friend. Sometimes people say things in a drunken state because they subconsciously mean it. Of course she should be angry with you. Do her a favor and stay away from her and her man. Do yourself a favor and clean up your act.
2007-06-19 12:15:05 · answer #5 · answered by bombastic 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow!!!! Are you nuts, she is never gonna forgive you and no one can blame her. What were you thinking. How does your Husband feel about all of this. I'm surprised he is still with you. Best you can hope for is for her to let it go and just be socialble. But If I were her I wouldn't even do that!!
Sorry I couldn't help!!
2007-06-25 06:03:09 · answer #6 · answered by Funeeegurl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
being drunk is not an excuse. 9 times out of 10 its only brings out your true emotions.
and even if she did forgive you..you would do it again. and this would alsways be in the back of her mind.
but if youre determined to still be friends the only thing will help is time
2007-06-19 12:19:04 · answer #7 · answered by LADYM96 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No way dude, your friendship has ended. Give it up and learn your lesson. "I was drunk" is not a good excuse. You're married? You're lucky if your marriage doesn't suffer because of this. I'm not saying this to be mean, I speak from experience. Sorry.
2007-06-19 12:19:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's probably not going to get over it. You need to find a new friend. You crossed a line that shouldn't have been crossed. I guess if you decide to go for treatment & stay straight, maybe she'll forgive you then. Sorry.
2007-06-19 12:16:22 · answer #9 · answered by abbyn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
whoa. that's not exactly picking ON him that's more like trying to pick him up. maybe it was all a joke but, many think the truth comes out with the help of a little alcohol. i think all you can do at this point is write her a little note apologizing profusely. if she still doesn't come around, you may have to write this one up to experience.
2007-06-19 12:15:12 · answer #10 · answered by racer 51 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋