My man has this deep feeling to want a threesome with two women ( a good friend) and I don't want to I feel sick and scared and I feel like he will be giving pleasure to some one else or getting pleasure when it should be just him and I and no matter how much I tell I feel uncomfortable he still wants to find out a way to have the excitement and or at least convince me to do it . I need reasonable ideas because I can't seem to find any to still give him excitement without it being a threesome? help if you can
2007-06-19 11:56:48 · 28 answers · asked by bahbah 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Break up with him. That's the best way, I think. Good night!
2007-06-19 12:00:53 · answer #1 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say get some threesome porn and watch it together.
Having a threesome with your man and a good friend could screw up a LOT of things between the three of you. And I would sit and talk to your man and explain that you value your friends friendship and him too much to risk losing it all for sexual gratification.
If this is something you feel that strongly about, trust your gut instincts and do not do it - he should pressure you to do something like that if you don't want to.
Maybe if you are comfortable with the idea of it or talking about it, but not doing it, you and your man can talk about doing it while you're having sex and keep it as a fantasy.
2007-06-19 19:01:45 · answer #2 · answered by Kayleigh♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it makes you feel uncomfortable, it's not right no matter what he says. So, don't do it. If you give in now, he'll always ask you to do things you aren't comfortable with. Personally, I don't believe in threesoms if you're in a committed relationship. If your single, and just hookin up, go for it. But, if you are in a committed relationship it will always cause problems after the fact.
2007-06-19 19:09:09 · answer #3 · answered by luv2help 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you gotta dig deep to find out why you don't want one. You might try counseling because NOT wanting a threesome isn't normal.
You're single and you should be a freaky freak! Get down and dirty and enjoy being single. Nobody will look down on you for it.
In fact, most women recommend sleeping around and doing all kinds of wild stuff before any commitments or marriage.
Good luck
2007-06-19 19:01:10 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
He needs to watch the movie, The Sex Monster (no, it's not porn)... it may give him something else to think about.
If you don't want to do it, don't. If he can't deal with it then you either need to 1. find a therapist for the both of you and work it out or 2. find another guy who's happy with you as you are.
Some may disagree but my two cents worth.
2007-06-19 19:03:32 · answer #5 · answered by DSatt57 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't ever do something sexually that you really don't want to do - you will wind up resenting your husband, and in this case, your friend.
If you need more excitement, try magazines, videos. toys, strip clubs - anything like that can let you both enjoy new things or looking at other people, but all the physical intimacy remains between the two of you.
2007-06-19 19:00:58 · answer #6 · answered by DSL 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask him if you can have a threesome with another man, see how he likes it, a normal man i think would feel unconformable do this maybe he'll stop pushing, don't do something you do want to do, if he can't take your feeling into consideration move on.
2007-06-19 19:02:50 · answer #7 · answered by Beautiful Bee 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well..give him the excitement like a threesome...act like you have 2 different personality's...be a sexy excited little naughty girl..then for a little bit become a shy innocent little angel..and make him feel like it was the best thing that night...im pretty sure it should work..and if it doesnt.tell him that if he wants a threesome so badly he can use 2 hands...
2007-06-19 19:02:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You tell him. Obviously he is not ready to settle down. He still wants to play the feild and he wants to see if you will play with him. I suggest not doing that at all. With all the STD's out there and pregnancy (I got preg with my son while on birth control and using two condoms)
Be careful and always be honest in your relationship.
Only honesty builds a relationship
2007-06-19 19:01:46 · answer #9 · answered by angel4nature 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
apparently its a common male fantasy.
Just say your uncomfortable and that you wont do it. Don't let him push you- or ask him if he would like a threesome with 2 men and you.
and before he says it, ask "why is that different"?
2007-06-19 19:01:44 · answer #10 · answered by Randathamane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋