I know this isn't the norm for this topic, but I'm the cheating girlfriend. Before you all shame me, let me explain myself. I have a wonderful boyfriend whom I adore & love w/ all my heart & would never want to jeopardize our relationship, but I have a cheating problem. Now some may say that I'm just trifling and know what I'm doing. And although this may be true, I honestly have a problem. I can't stop cheating. I don't like or love the men I cheat with, but I keep going back. And it's not because sex w/ my boyfriend is bad, it's great. No matter how many times I tell myself not to, no matter how much I beat up on myself & try to stop, I can't. I want to stop, I do, but cheating for me is like a drug. I got one hit, and now I need to get a fix ever so often. Me and my boyfriend have been together for about a year now, but my cheating streak has been going for 5 years. I want to stop, I love the man I'm with & I don't want to hurt him. But I honestly can't. What do I do? Please help!
2007-06-19 12:02:06 · 13 answers · asked by Sweetpeach 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'll lay off all the "cheating is wrong" bullsh*t as you clearly are asking me to do so...
What you need is a boyfriend who understands your high sex drive - and is comfortable enough to "share" you with others.
I don't know if your current b/f will be able to help you in this situation - so you might have a tough decision on your hands... Give up a great guy who you love, or find someone new who won't get hurt once your "affairs" come to light...
As I suggested above - you need a guy who is sexually open to the idea of swinging. This only covers one side of cheating though - the sexual fulfillment by another man/men. Unfortunately, this doesn't deal with the "infidelity" and breaking of trust side of things.
If you're really lucky, you might find yourself a Cuckold - a man who is MORE than happy that his wife or g/f sleeps around (they quite often get off KNOWING that you have just been with another man)
2007-06-19 12:15:05 · answer #1 · answered by kr_toronto 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're not going to get any answers here. I can't believe you aren't capable of stopping this. I have had a history of experimenting with drugs, so your analogy... a bit offensive. However if you want to stick to it then quit it to kick it. Find out why it is you are taking your "drug" and analyze it. What is going through your head during the act? What numbs you at that moment to break down and take action without thinking. Because if you are lucid in your thoughts you would be able to recognize your behavior at the instant it takes place. When you are familiar with these triggers you then attempt to redirect your feelings to a positive idea. Say no to sex with strange men and yes to the fact that you overcame a big obstacle for you. And it is an obstacle, because you will never have a rewarding relationship with that kind of rep. Its hard for me to not come down on you, and many others will. You might want to consider therapy.
2007-06-19 12:17:13 · answer #2 · answered by heion 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well after the baby is born, you should definitely check to see if it's yours, I think right now you should go and find yourself, just have sometime for yourself, if it turns out that the baby isn't yours, then you and you only know that your not obligated to stay with her and help raised her child, if you want to then that's you, but you don't have to help her raise a child that you didn't help bring into this world. Another thing is that you can't predict if this child is yours or not, being that she slept around while still sleeping with you, "that's gross" but anyways, just because you pull out doesn't mean that she wont get pregnant either, but if she didn't use protection with the other dudes, then you should go get tested too, I don't have to tell you this, but I think you deserve just a little but or more then anything someone better. Hope that this helps. xoxo
2016-04-01 06:13:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds as if you like the thrill of the act and the thought of getting caught,rather than the act itself....Do you really know what love is? You state that you don't want to jeopardize your relationship, guess what too late....You don't mention whether it's the sex your after.... Or whether it's the same person you keep going back too ? How many partners?..........only other thing I can say is what's your Number?
2007-06-19 12:13:27 · answer #4 · answered by thebaked 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW. I was not expecting this. Yes you do need help. I think you should talk to someone...like a therapist, parent or counseler...this is very dangerous...and it is not right to the guy you are with. I am sorry to hear this but I think you should pray about this issue and establish some help immediatley...talk to someone...pray and have a personal relationship with the Lord. You may not like what I am saying but this will help and I think you need it fast. Sleeping with ppl like that is not safe and healthy for your mind set. God Bless
2007-06-19 12:10:19 · answer #5 · answered by old 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get professional help. if you really believe you can't control yourself (by the way, you 100% can), then you need to talk to a professional, but tell your poor boyfriend. you definitely shouldn't be with anyone right now or until you can control yourself. you're very selfish.
2014-01-27 10:16:50 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get help. That isn't fair to the guy that you truly love. How would you like it. Sooner or later he will find out and you will loose the guy you truly do love. GET HELP NOW! Trust me...
best of wishes :)
2007-06-19 12:06:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like you're a nympho-manic. meaning that you love SEX
get help before you wind up pregnet, or worst yet, catch some std..
2007-06-19 12:23:08 · answer #8 · answered by nexteltom17 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off IF you trully loved this man you would not be cheating, so no I don't believe you actually love him...hopefully you will get caught in the act by another mans girl and she beats your ***..then she goes and sleeps with your man...women like you are trash end of story...you are a sex addict...
2007-06-19 12:06:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Dam girl i dont know what to tell you. You should get some therapy or counseling.
2007-06-19 12:06:47 · answer #10 · answered by California Kush 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋