I dont know my dad & I cant stop feeling sad about it . He left when i was little does that mean he hates me?

Question

Well I been deppressed for a long time and I dont have fun any more everyone at my school shms always makes fun of me and I just get really mad about it One time I tried to kill myself & I got put in to a mental hospital 3 times in 6 weeks but now I am all better so I dont know am I not worth it is that why my dad left me? Am I not worth anything. Do I not have a reason to live?

Answer 1

You sound like you're worth a lot. Remember every human has a purpose. You should talk to the school shrink or a therapist. Here's a poem that is sad but well make you be happy you're not this girl. It's about her parents.

Her dad was a drunk
Her mom was an addict
They left her alone
Locked in an attic

Her only friend was a little toy bear
It was worn out and old
And had patches of hair
But she didn't care
For he was her only friend

She sat in a corner quiet but thinking "Oh, God, why is my life always sinking?"

Her parents would beat her for anything she'd do
She grabs her toy bear and quietly sobs
Why would she live such a terrible life?

She loves her parents
But they want her to die

Then one night her mom
Came home high
She beat the small child
As hours went by

Then suddenly her mom reached for a blade
It was sharp and pointy
One that she made
She thrust the blade in the little girl's chest
And said in vain "You deserve to die
you worthless piece of sh*t!"

The mom walked out of the attic
Leaving the girl slowly dying
The girl grabs her bear and stays
Their ever so still
For what else could she do?

The police came and burst through the door
And surprised to see everything
Quiet as a mouse

They opened the attic to see the little girl
Dead in the floor
It must have been bad to go to such harm
But at least she died
With her best friend in her arms

Answer 2

I'm assuming you are a teenager. As a teen, we all have one problem or another.

If you are sad about your father having left, you need to know that this is something many kids feel. Whether it's a mother or a father.

In fact, there's a lot of reasons behind why a person chooses to leave a relationship and leave behind a child. But the child always seem to think it is because of them. This is simply untrue.

It could be that your parents just didn't get along. People who don't get along are better off without one another. They really do bring out the worst in each other. When they can't be mature about their situation, it's best that they are not around to rub the other person the wrong way.

Please never blame something on yourself that is completely out of your hands. Killing yourself is not the solution. It will just sadden the people who love you. It will even sadden people who know you and think that you're just a cool person to be around.

How do you know that you're not meant to be someone great in this life-time, someone who will change the world one day?

Happiness if what you make of it. Life is what you make of it. Look at it in a more positive view and things will look up.

Learn to find things worth living for. The biggest reason is to live for yourself.

I know how it's like when you think life is not worth anything. But it truly is. You just don't realize it yet at this age.

Think about all the beautiful things you will miss if you are not here: tastes, feelings, beauty.

The taste of a caramel sunday from McDonald's, the texture of a rose pedal, the smell of a barbecue at the beach.

There is so much we all take for granted.

Please don't take your life for granted. You can be someone with or without your father. Because who is to say that he would've been a great father if he is there with you.

Be strong and know that a person can stand up on his or her own will and live for themselves.

Answer 3

Okay let me see if i can help. First of all good for you leaving an emotionally abusive man. Second, if he cried when you left it either means he didn't want you to leave or he thought you might tell the authorities about him being abusive. Third, you shouldn't worry about this new woman, it could be his family member, old friend, or something like that. Also, if he cried he would try to fix things instead of getting a new girl unless his friends told him to bounce back or the set him up on a blind date without him knowing. The new girl wouldn't have made it to "home plate" with him if he had sobbed when you left, so they probably just talked about his problems. Also please try to remember you left him so he is out of your life don't worry about him. Finally if you are going to see a counselor please stay away from any and all forms of medication because they will just make your life worse. Hope this helps : )

Answer 4

How old are you??? Anyways you do still have problems... you say your depressed and you think that it is your fault that your dad is gone... How can that possibly be your fault? You were a child when he left... thats his bad, not yours. Did you spit up on him to much?? come on give your self a break! As far as everyone talking about you, when you are anxious and uptight it feels like that, because of anxety and depression you are unable to have rational thoughts if you could than you would know that "everyone" is not talking about you... Sorry friend but, your not that important. Get help talk with someone, you do need some help with your thoughts and feelings. If you have no one to turn to call the local crisis hotline number or dial 911. Don't ever think that this life isnot worth living... your worth it, I'm sure I would be your friend if I knew you. By the way i'm 46 and the last time i saw my father was 24 years ago... He doesn't know my children or my grandchildren. Is that my fault? No that was his choice. Am I unworthy of love? I think not i have friends and family that love me, one person does not have that much control over me. And your dad shouldn't have that much control over you. Your family and friends I'm sure love you... reach out to them

Answer 5

Sigh. Unfortunately we don't get to pick our parents. And some people just shouldn't BE parents. No, it doesn't mean he hates you; it probably means he is not emotionally healthy himself and just unable to cope with loving and/or taking care of another important human (YOU).
Remember that you are YOU a unique individual human being - nobody else in the world is just exactly like you - and there is something special about you that NOBODY else has but that the world needs. Maybe it's just one special person in the world that needs you to stick around to someday be there for them (you may not even know them yet); maybe it's some larger group that someday will benefit from something you do or something you are. You dont' know it - you may not even know it after you've done it - but if you aren't here to be that person and make the choices you might make, the world will be a less perfect place. So please... no more trying to kill yourself. You are needed!

Answer 6

OK. First, he did NOT leave YOU. He left your mother. She kept you. You are definitely worth something, why else do people take the time to make sure you're safe? Your mom loves you, and your dad probably does too, but maybe doesn't want to be around your mom. You're probably better off -- would you rather have him around and them fighting all the time? That's not much fun, either. I can speak to that from experience. Also, some guys don't feel up to taking responsibility for their kids, so they sheer off. It's not personal to the kid (that's you!) it's just the way they are.

Answer 7

First, your dad did not leave you, he left your mom and then he became embarrassed and ashamed that he could not send money to support you so he went away and lost contact. This had nothing to do with you either. Your mom and Dad had problems in their relationship with each other but not in their relationships with you. Talk to your mom and your counselor about your dad and learn a little more about him and who he was when your mom knew him. I know you would like to find him and ask him some things so write him a letter saying everything you want and then take the letter to your counselor and the two of you read and discuss it together. This is a way to help you understand. If you do not have a counselor, call your doctor and tell him you need one and will he and your mother discuss that. Please please please take some action and go get help - be demanding if you need a counselor.

Answer 8

I think that you need to realize that there are alot of people who do not know their fathers or their mothers and they find ways to getting over it. I dont know who my dad is but I just feel that he is the one missing out because I am a really special person and he doesnt know me... sucks for him. But good for me I dont need him in my life if he is that selfish. move on and stop using this as a crutch for sympathy. and also kids are cruel, the only reason they make fun of you is because it makes you mad they love to see people get all fired up!!! if you would just ignore them they would find someone else to pick on. And everyone is worth alot. God made you. you are preciouse to him.
But if you still want to kill yourself you may nned some proffesional help. Try a antidepressant.

Answer 9

It's not that your dad hates you. The reason he left is because he's a pathetic excuse of a man. His leaving had nothing to do with you, except for you having to pick up the pieces. Do you have a counselor at the school or otherwise? Tell them what you told us. There are probably other kids in your school in the same boat, so maybe you could hook up with them.

Answer 10

He left you when you were little. You are not the same person any more, and moreover, how could he possibly have hated you when you were just a child? No, he was obviously troubled and lost himself, nothing to do with you. Try and find something in your current life that you love doing and then live for that, not for some guy who just happens to be your biological father.