Family & Relationships - 16 June 2007

My girlfriend and I think we're ready to be married after 7 years of dating each other but our parents don't agree to it. We're looking for jobs out of state so it'll be easier just to move out but both of us can't find any jobs. We're both working on our Master's and have an year to go. Anyone know how we should do it so that we don't end up in financial trouble in the future and when we do move out should we tell our parents we're married? I don't think it'll be a good idea until years later.

2007-06-16 18:47:15 · 14 answers · asked by RGK 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I know most people are going to tell me that if I'm asking this question, then he's not "the one" But, hear me out.

I'm very unsure of what makes a happy marriage. My parents were married for 22 years, but did not get along. They screamed, they yelled and my father (a good person just w/ a bad problem) drank a lot. Growing up, my parents never hugged and kissed, and they never sat around telling each other how much they loved each other. I don't even know the story of how my parents got engaged or anything. I know how they met, but that's it. They never divorced, because they could not afford it. Both my parents worked, but they still needed dual incomes.

Finally, 2 years ago, they divorced. It was a nightmare and not the least bit amicable.

Now, I'm 23 years old and in a serious relationship. I do love him and would love to get married, but I'm scared. What if he's all wrong for me. I do not want to be like my parents.

2007-06-16 18:44:50 · 6 answers · asked by Answer Girl 2007 5 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-06-16 18:40:53 · 17 answers · asked by waterchick 2 in Singles & Dating

well im confused about it. i just had it today. i dont know if i liked it or idk. he wanted to and i wanted to but i wasnt ready. but we did. i dont even know if i did it right. i think im regretting it.okay so here how it was he was trying to teach me how to throw a football and he was placing my hand on the football and all that and my freind said romantic moment. and finally he said he really wanted to kiss me. so then i wanted to do it alone and then im like i dont know and then hes like come on and then we did. then we just hugged and smiled and went back from where we were. and hes like that wasnt that bad was it. im like no. i was kindof unconfortable too. just help me. it was both our first kisses to. and he was nerous too. just help me get through this crisis please.

2007-06-16 18:39:27 · 15 answers · asked by H@nn@h -- - <3 1 in Singles & Dating

we were separted for 7 moths we got back toegther a month go.he was see a another girl but things did not work out between him that girl.because her family did not approved him he came and visted me after 7 months passed when every thing went wrong in their relationship I feel like am his second choice how would you feel? he wants me to marry him but hes not willing to relocate I do not understand why hes not willing to relocate if he love me as much as person getting ready to tie the knot.after all he the one who restarted a new relationship so why I bau down relocate for him where I do not wanna live? I feel used what do you people think?

2007-06-16 18:35:57 · 4 answers · asked by Carebear22 4 in Singles & Dating

just a fig why does a person actually cheat.
doesnt matter if your a guy or a girl..

any ideas as to why it triggers?
and how it can be prevented.

2007-06-16 18:35:10 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

ok, here goes we are fostering a three month old, mother does not want her, now there is an alleged father trying to be involved, he is a 50+ year old alcoholic, works 12 hour days, doesn't drive, has no criminal history however....what kind of stuff will he have to go thru in order to get the baby if the paternity test comes back as positive? no one knows if he is actually the father as the mother is a prostitute......he continually calls the social worker, sometimes intoxicated, however he has not done any of the paper work she has sent him and has not gone to get a paternity test....the county is unwilling to pay for one at this oint, they feel if he truly believes he is the dad he should pay for it....he has never seen the baby or sent her anything....so what are things he will have to go thru what is the likely hood that he will get her? Also she is our niece and we very much want to adopt her....what kind of a future are we looking at her?

2007-06-16 18:34:25 · 7 answers · asked by KrIs 4 in Marriage & Divorce

ok here is the situation, im pre-engaged. meaning i havent asked but we talked about it and thats what we wanted. anyways things are not going as well as planned 2 months ago. I love her with all my heart and wish that we could me together. the thing is, is that she lives in new hampshire and is going the be a senior next year, im graduated (2005) and in the air force now. i just turned 20 and she is still 17 going on 18 in a few months. i know that we are young and this is primarily the reason why im asking for help. her mom doesnt want us to get married right off the bat. she wants her daughter to be independent for aleast a year and a half. but how are we suppost to figure this all out if she cant even come visit me for the summer. all i ask is at most 2 weeks but her mom wont allow it. she thinks that things will go on and prob thinks ill marry her now at this time. but its not like that, i want her to come out so she can see what its going to be like when she comes to live with me

2007-06-16 18:34:00 · 11 answers · asked by quikblue11 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I've looked everywhere, but I sill haven't even seen the girl that I'm looking for. I've about given up, and I'm just going to live single....

I am a Christan, who don't cuss, loves to do outdoor things, will get along with people, and I hate it when people act fake. I love to do anything, as long as it's with that one person. I don't cause trouble, and try to stay out of it when I can.

So far, no one has even came close, or is already taken. Everyone keeps telling me to just wait, but I don't know if there's even someone out there who is for me.

Any help would be nice. And trust me, with my luck, no one like me will be within 100 miles of me, so don't even think I'm out to hook up with someone.

2007-06-16 18:31:23 · 11 answers · asked by fighterworldwarplanes 2 in Singles & Dating

i am sixteen and i started having sex at the end of november with my boyfriend of four months only because I was eager to explore into the unknown and permitting him to explore it with me for the first time because I loved him more than oxygen at the time.
But after he broke my heart, I wanted to play the field. I've never been anything but a goody two shoes really. Suddenly I want to do everything I've been missing out on that kids my age do. Even if they're not supposed to be doing them. Its not that I want to be like them, I just want to experience different things. So, I ended up racking up my number of sex partners to four. IN a Few months, though!! I feel so incredibly different now. but not in a good way. I just want a way to feel how I used to and for boys to look at me as not a candidate for a one night stand. But how?

2007-06-16 18:30:05 · 19 answers · asked by hunydipped 1 in Singles & Dating

well okay my friend recently found out that her cousin was doing drugs. and her family is soo close. and they are close to age. well i know that to some ppl drugs are just drugs or w.e but its really importanat to her and the family. the cousin totally changed. they never talk anymore. the cousins family recenty lost a lot of money. my friend thinks thats when it starts. my friend is afraid that there is no way of stoping her cousin. cuz she knows he will not listen is there any other way?
thanks

2007-06-16 18:27:45 · 10 answers · asked by luvinlife 2 in Friends

I know their full name and the month and the day they were born and the city and state they are in... Can I find their E-mail address, find them on myspace?
10 point just for you...

2007-06-16 18:27:38 · 7 answers · asked by dancinintherain 6 in Family

2007-06-16 18:27:18 · 12 answers · asked by hey 2 in Marriage & Divorce

there's this guy named aaron.he lives down the street from my sister.he's not rushing anything between us but i suddenly want him to.i told my friends before school was over that i'd no longer be a virgin when i move to california.and even though i want me and aaron to do more,i dont think i can handle it.what do you guys think.guys and girls...i need ur help

2007-06-16 18:27:15 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

There's this girl at school who looks at me from across the room a lot with pretty wide eyes. She's made multiple excuses to get close to me. Does she like me or not? I sure can't tell

2007-06-16 18:27:15 · 12 answers · asked by Albert 3 in Singles & Dating

So here's the deal. I know she likes me. She doesn't know I know. Anyway. We've both only been in one relationship. Now, before I ask her out, should I ask her if she's ever been in love? I found a question of hers on Y!A by accident and it said she think she's in love with me, even though she thinks she's too young to be. She's 15. And that she saw me glancing at her table during lunch multiple times, stuff like that. Anyway, e-mail me if you have any questions. Thanks! =]

2007-06-16 18:26:56 · 10 answers · asked by ×ithurtsogoodØ 1 in Singles & Dating

my wife of almost 10 years left me,its been almost a month now, Ive begged ive pleeded ive told her how much i love her and still nothing.she says maybe and then she says noway,Weve had our ups and downs and arguments and name calling(both of us) but all of this I felt could be fixed, but she said she doesnt love me anymore how can this be, ive romanced her wrote her poems massage her whole body and give her baths tell her how much i love her and how beautiful she is all the time.we have 4 children together and I want whats best for them(i really do)!!!Anyway I got fed up with begging and pursing to be turned away every time so I stopped all together,and this really pissed her off WHY?If she didnt want to be with me why is was she so upset ?I love her and always put her before myself so after she broke my heart why is she still being mean to me?

2007-06-16 18:24:36 · 12 answers · asked by ELITE 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I am working for a project manager in a professional job. She is my boss. There came a point in our conversation about exchanging personal info on our lives. She talked about her children and felt like she was getting old then referred to her eyes as though there were wrinkles. I looked at her and said, "No. Not at all" and really meant it. I even said it twice. However, I didn't want to carry it too far by saying, "I do not see any wrinkles. I think you are beautiful."

Was this the best thing to say on a professional level by not telling her she is beautiful? Did I do the right thing even though I think she is extremely beautiful? What was going through her mind?

2007-06-16 18:23:35 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

We are almost 50.Not kids any more.Our taste is very different. All my life I have loved to decorate & my friends think that I have a pretty good eye for things of beauty.Though I can't afford a lot, I enjoy high quality, soficicated decor that includes some color. This is what gives me joy & is a part of who I am. Last year we separated for 3 months. When I came back, he had removed the living room furniture & replaced it with something a friend sold him. since that time he has'nt quit. He's getting rid of pictures, flowers, etc. His style (not trying to be mean) he likes cheap looking & quality decor. He does'nt use any color. He only uses white, I can't put down any rugs or hang any curtains. He thinks these things don't look "cool".We have a 15 yr. daughter, we're a family. Why do I now have to live in his "bachlor's pad"?. Why is this so important to him when it means so much to me? When we are'nt fighting on this we enjoy each other. He says he loves me, but there's no me here

2007-06-16 18:21:54 · 12 answers · asked by Faithful 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I've been pretty shy all my life. But its been getting better over the years. I'm going to be a senior in high school and i hang out with this huge group of friends. The girls are all my age and the boys are all going to be freshmen in college, so we wanna make the most of this summer. The whole time ive been in this group of friends (im really close with the girls), I have been really shy. When the girls are alone, since i know them well, i get along really easily. but when its the whole group, i suddenly get really shy and dont talk very much. its not very fun. theyre all pretty hyper, hilarious, crazy kids and i love them, but i just feel like i could be alot happier and have more fun if i wasnt shy. this isnt like "oh be yourself". its so so hard to get past my shyness. i guess i just get really self conscious or something. please give me good advice cuz this summers really important

2007-06-16 18:21:00 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

we went for a walk and he asked me to say something sexy i couldnt think of anything but he thought of something very sexy or dirty which ever so does anyone know anything sexy that i could say to him

2007-06-16 18:19:20 · 10 answers · asked by Ak 1 in Singles & Dating

Hello. Please tell me what u think. ive never had a girl tell me if im cute or not, so i would like to know. pls only serious answers, this is not something im used to. im on the left:

http://i24.photobucket.com/albums/c6/ambientrance88/DSC01136.jpg

thx

2007-06-16 18:18:47 · 17 answers · asked by beery 1 in Singles & Dating

I like a girl who is in 8th standard but taller than me and Iamin 9th. what should I do to attract her.I am good looking but short in hight.I aman exelent student.and spors person also.what should I do toattract her?

2007-06-16 18:16:28 · 10 answers · asked by dhruvesh patel n 1 in Singles & Dating

I need help. I have had sex pleanty of times but the guy is always on top. What am I suppose to do if i'm on top? I want to give it a try but I dont' want it to be a bad and so.

2007-06-16 18:13:14 · 9 answers · asked by always_love_4_you_454 1 in Singles & Dating

I am a 18 year old white male who finds black women a whole lot more attractive than white women. It's not that I do not like white women but I prefer black women. Is this weird that I find black women a lot more attractive than white women and I am white

2007-06-16 18:11:55 · 7 answers · asked by thered1345 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-06-16 18:11:16 · 7 answers · asked by Karahjane 1 in Singles & Dating

My step-mother drives me crazy. She is rude, nasty and flat out lies. Don't get me wrong she has a really nice side, but she has these moments where she is just nasty. She once claimed my mother couldn't call me anymore, and ripped the phone off the wall. She once yelled at me because I drank soda from a can instead of a bottle (both were unopen). She claims my sister failed the 8th grade (not true). And once caused a huge scene in a resturant because I got into a car accident. She butts in on my personal life. I no longer live at home and am about to get married. She had gotten better since I moved out, but recently caused a scene in a resturant, because I got frozen bread and asked for new bread (apparently that's wrong?). I had to leave the resturant with my fiance in toe, because I was so mad. How do I deal with this person? I can't stand her, and she makes me feel awful about myself. I can't cut her out of my life, because I would hurt my father. Any advice?

2007-06-16 18:10:48 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

acnoledges you, tries to make you laugh, asks for your oppinion, waves good- bye and makes sure you saw him leave, & always looks directly at you when speaking even if not to you?

2007-06-16 18:07:55 · 10 answers · asked by rhealey 2 in Singles & Dating

my bf went to a far country and he will be there for 7yrs. he told me that i am the last girl that he will love and he'll be back after those years to find me. but it's a doubt that the two of us NEVER met each other but we are sincere for what we feel for each other. [i really miss him guys]

2007-06-16 18:06:56 · 14 answers · asked by khenne 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

She plainly likes me, but won't admit it directly, I like her, should I go for it? How?

2007-06-16 18:03:41 · 6 answers · asked by The Fuzz 1 in Singles & Dating