Ladies: What should I have said in this situation?

Question

I am working for a project manager in a professional job. She is my boss. There came a point in our conversation about exchanging personal info on our lives. She talked about her children and felt like she was getting old then referred to her eyes as though there were wrinkles. I looked at her and said, "No. Not at all" and really meant it. I even said it twice. However, I didn't want to carry it too far by saying, "I do not see any wrinkles. I think you are beautiful."

Was this the best thing to say on a professional level by not telling her she is beautiful? Did I do the right thing even though I think she is extremely beautiful? What was going through her mind?

Answer 1

Sounds like you have the hots for your boss. Advice, admire her from a distance and yes you said the right thing.

Answer 2

She might have felt flattered which may have worked to your advantage but I don't think it was professional. She may wonder if you have a crush on her but on the other hand, as a woman, I may not necessarily think that if a guy I work with tells me I am beautiful. Its a compliment, which is fine and nice every once in a while if done in a respectful way.

In case it felt a bit weird though, I would suggest some humour if you are ever in a similar situation again. I would say something like "oh I don't think age has anything to do with those, I get them on Thursdays and Sunday myself".. or something like that.

Answer 3

It was the right thing to say since she is your boss and is showing respect.

Answer 4

Business and pleasure should be seperate. You totally did the right thing.

Answer 5

tell her she is hot and that any guy would love to be with her then when the next promotion comes along there you go

Answer 6

no no no no.