Family & Relationships - 21 May 2007

my partner is very much attached to his mother and judges me via her words. from the beg. i was nt able to fit the tag of a perfect homemaker , which irrits them, especially my mil. all small issues would be blowed up and told to him as a result, never was there as intimacy bet us. due to better job he went out of stat, but i was prevented frm joining him. still i managed to go and stay with him for a mth, which irritated my inlaws and when he came to chennai during weekends, told things against me to him .he is a type of personality who tells his mother even intimate things bet a hus&wife. one such thing what he told made my mil anger and she in turn told things against me to my husband and he in turn asked me to stay in my parents place only. for the past 11 mths we are seperate. he is not calling me nor replying to my emails/sms. now suddenly, with his co sister help , he is approaching for mutual seperation saying "mind is ntmatching"-pls advise me..i am still eager to continue .

2007-05-21 23:46:51 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I knew my husband since we were kids & we had an on off relationship,then i moved anyway & didnt see him for years,i was involved in a accident & received money,the next time i met him after about 4 years we clicked,he then moved away with me,he had no work & i started dipping into my money we spent about £25000 as the rest was in a fixed account that i couldnt get thank god!now we are married with 2 kids & building a house with the help of my dad,my husband seems to think that i should take money out of bank again,the house is gonna cost us about £20000 to build & my dad wants us to just pay him bit by bit when we have it but my husband refuses to save,he earns £580 a week gives me money for grocery shopping & he keeps the rest,i dont work as have 2 kids 8 months & 2.he has even told me on a few occasions that he has no money & i went through his pockets & found money,is he just using me

2007-05-21 23:37:51 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My fiance and I broke up reciently. She left me. I want to ask those of you who have been dumped what you did to constructivly deal with the anger and pain of having someone dump you. I work out every night with free weights, ride my bicycle for 7-10 miles here on the Blue Ridge Parkway and I write a journal to collect my thoughts. I begin school at the end of this week which will help to bring me out of this funk, but what are some of the things you have done to get your mind out of anger?

2007-05-21 23:29:52 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

We had lived together for almost 9 years that wasn't planned but was obliged to stay together
because of the kids.

We frequently fight for different reasons and even more my wife has attempted to leaved from the
house a few times but returned home because the kids wants us together.

There are some instances that my wife becomes so violent that she would grab anything she could throw
to me even punch me several times in front of the kids. She didn't even care that the kids was watching and
shaking in fear because of what she did. Now that I wasn't sleeping with her (I chose to sleep downstairs
at the sofa to avoid her), she even accused me of having an affair with another girl. But what will I do? I don't
want to sleep with someone I don't want to be with.

2007-05-21 23:19:24 · 8 answers · asked by makataong_allan 1 in Marriage & Divorce

When you are kind, supportive, respectful, understanding, . Don't you expect the same from your spouse?

Life is full of up and downs. Some unexpected events might prevent you from doing what you promised like illness or death of a relative which you are to attend the funeral.

I was so supportive to my wife when one of her close relatives died. And I literally nurse her and do all the house work when she is ill.

When my cousin died two weeks ago she was far some supportive. I was really shocked and angry when my cousin died at a car accident that wasn't his fault. She was crying about my voice tone when I talk and she was calling me names because of that, and it was after the funeral.

The other day I was ill. Her sister wanted a piece of equipment to fix her A/C which was with me. She wanted me to drive 70 miles in a highway while my temperature read 104. I told her it is dangerous and she says that I am irresponsible and undependable.

So what do you think?

2007-05-21 23:03:01 · 8 answers · asked by Heavy B 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Ok here's whats up..I recently met this guy on a website & originally wasn't too keen about wanting to get to know him because i normally prefer dating people around my own age..This guy is 9 years older than me..Guys around my age aren't all that great though..so we (the separated guy and I) ended up chatting and found out we have very many things in common, similar likes, thoughts,opinions about various things regardless of age difference. He's 36 separated 2 years but not yet divorced , has a 7 year old son part time, and im 27 year old college senior. We've known each other for about a a week + now online & have talked on the phone for several hours. He and his now X wife hardly talk..but he sees his son every day. We've been talking about wanting to meet for coffee perhaps or dinner. I asked him if his son is ok about him possibly dating again after 2 years of not seeing anyone...he said his son said "dad I would like u to be happy". what to do ?

2007-05-21 22:58:08 · 15 answers · asked by cnn360coffeebubbles 5 in Marriage & Divorce

im in love with an old friend and i cant stop tinking about her. we havnt seen each other for about a year but i ran into her the other month and we swapped numbers and she said she would call me the next day but she didnt and i havnt heard anything since. i txt her and heard nothing but this is really getting me down as i cant stop thinking about her.

2007-05-21 22:39:19 · 15 answers · asked by addicted to this 4 in Singles & Dating

Girls that I really never talked to tell me that i look and act like an arragont bastard. And I am just so completely baffled. I do nothing to them yet they can pre judge me like that. All I do is mind my business and show my down right respect for every single person and yet I get insulted by getting call arragont. I m so hurt. Why do women say this about moi.

2007-05-21 21:57:47 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

we were out & about with some friends and I was messing with his cell phone trying to take a pic of our frens and after I took the pic it redirected me to the gallery on his cell where I noticed a pic of a "big" bra hanging on what looks to be a antanne of a car.
should this be something to worry about?
should I ask him about it or leave it be?
suggestions?

2007-05-21 21:49:24 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-05-21 21:42:25 · 16 answers · asked by dodgers10 3 in Singles & Dating

My fiance and I are registering for our wedding, but we are not sure whether it is "proper" to register for furniture. We haven't seen it listed on any registry checklists, but it is the main thing we need. Of course, we registered for other items, so there will be plenty of options for everyones price range. The furniture is rather inexpensive for furniture but still expensive for a wedding gift (ranging from $50 to $350). According to the stores registry completion discount, my fiance and I will recieve a 20% discount on any unpurchased items for a year after the wedding. I do not expect anyone to purchase these items by themselves, but I know that sometimes people buy group gifts. We would like to take advantage of that discount, considering that we want the furniture regardless of the registry. I'm just worried that some catty family members (from both sides) will see $250 or $350 items and make a fuss over it. Is registering for furniture proper? What should I do???

2007-05-21 21:38:22 · 9 answers · asked by lilmissmiss 3 in Weddings

Never meaning....."never" had any physical contact with another person in a romantic/sexual way other than your gf/bf wife/husband etc.. Yes, this includes sticking your tongue down someone elses throat. Or guys, your d_ck in a chicks mouth.

2007-05-21 20:35:35 · 22 answers · asked by ? 5 in Singles & Dating

Most of my friends have children (babies to around 5 years old) and as our reception is really informal and being held at home we want our friends to feel they can bring the kids if they want to rather than having to fork out for a babysitter. What can we provide to help keep the kids happy? I've thought of things like colouring books and pens, any suggestions from people with kids would be great!!!!

2007-05-21 20:22:22 · 16 answers · asked by sparkleythings_4you 7 in Weddings

2007-05-21 20:13:49 · 10 answers · asked by chiss200 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Are you guys more shy to ask out a beautiful woman ?
Scenerio ; A gorgeous woman was at a bar with her friend, would you ever go up to her, even if her friend isnt' as good looking ?
Or are you intimidated by her looks ??

Honest answers please! Feel free to add anything relevent

2007-05-21 20:12:00 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-05-21 20:10:05 · 1 answers · asked by janice t 1 in Singles & Dating

I am in love with a guy from eight years.I am a catholic and he is a Hindu. So there are complications regarding our marriage .So I don't know what to do . I am worried about my future because my parents won't agree for our marriage because of our caste.So we both want to get married but we have problems .So what am I suppose to do .

2007-05-21 20:06:00 · 16 answers · asked by Its_LoveLine 1 in Singles & Dating

I am greatly troubled.I love someone & i am loved back.The person is a wonderful person & i am sure that i will be happy for the rest of my life coz not only does he love me he respects and care for me alot.I love my Mom very much also.Now the problem is that this boy is from another religion. My family r dead against Love marriages & if they know that he is from a different religion they would rather have me dead. My mom would want what i want ie is my happiness even if it means that she has to face critisims from everyone. Everyone in my family say that i am selfish.The boy himself knows what i am going thru & he dosent want me to come with him after breaking everyones heart. He says that it is my decision.If i chose him he will forever be with me & take care of me. If i choose my family by marrying someone else He then too will support me in my decision and he will remain my friend for life.I love him and i love my mom too. I just cant choose from them.What do i do....

2007-05-21 20:04:07 · 8 answers · asked by Lucy 1 in Family

2007-05-21 19:45:58 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

she came home last night and jumped straight into the shower after being out late last night. She seems to be detaching herself from me as of late. I noticed she was talking and texting her friend edward who she happens to think is hot. She is beautiful and she's all i got since my great dane rosco ran away. Please yall i need advice

2007-05-21 19:41:49 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

What do you do in a relationship where it feels like you do all the giving and work?

I'm naturally a giver and nuturer and I don't need it to be equal at all, I just need to feel a little cared for. My bf gives me expensive things, but I want HIM, not what he can buy me.

We've talked about it - we communicate great. I praise him when I can but, how can I ask him for what I need without making him feel bad?

2007-05-21 19:39:05 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I love my boyfriend and I know that he loves me, but the problem is that he doesn't show his emotions well. He always tells me that it's not that he is holding up a barrier but that it's just the way he is. I mean I wanna act all lovey dovey with him but I'm afraid that he will react in a cold way like he has in the past so I act like a tom boy around him. He is making me close myself up emotionally 2 because I know that he isn't emotional or affectionate so Y should I b? What do I do,,,,,should I just keep on letting him treat me like "1 of the guys" or should I just tell him that it's really bothering me and ask him if he could try 2 work on being more affectionate and emotional with me?

2007-05-21 19:37:58 · 17 answers · asked by Noodles 2 in Singles & Dating

If you sense that your girlfriend is cheating on you, but you have no proof, and she denies it, should you just accept what she says; or, are instincts usually correct?

2007-05-21 19:34:38 · 10 answers · asked by maybehow 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

because she just doesn't want to bring her to daycare, what would you do. You say don't worry about the money but now she is asking for your schedule every week. I have a 5 yr old girl and this is her last year with me before goingt o kindergarten, and a 19 mo old really is time consuming. Sometimes so that i feel like i am not giving her the attention I want to. She is finding every excuse not to bring her daughter to daycare, and then asking her friends to watch her child. How would you feel and what would you say to her without hurting her feelings. ???? Help.

2007-05-21 19:28:10 · 12 answers · asked by cruisingalong 4 in Friends

my bf of 1 and 1/2 yrs, he is really upset and hurt bc there have been? several times where my 6 yr old daughter has walked past him and didn't speak.and even though I've gotten on to her about it, a few weeks later she'll do it again,she says she likes him, but my bf says I force her to adknowlege him. & hes a outsider. & I make excuses for her. he's made out to b the bad guy. he feels he goes 2 up 1 back as far as our future, he put a lot of time in us, and is not getting the same back. He feel he confronts her most of the time alone, I said I'd talk with him to her and 1 on1 with her . I told him I care about is feelings and will be unbais with my child, I apologized, I said I would do anything I can for him to feel better. What else can I do for him?

2007-05-21 19:26:37 · 9 answers · asked by single mami 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I am a catholic girl (Roman Catholic) .I am in love with a catholic guy,and we want to get married .Our family members know that we are in love and we want to get married .

My guy 's parents have already agreed for our marriage .But starting my guy 's mom was against me and his relationship .But for his happiness his mom agreed for our marriage.

But my mom is against me and my guy getting married .When ever I talk about him , she makes a big issue our of it.
I love my guy more than my life and I want to get married to him .I have convenced him to get married to me in court thats a register marriage. And I dont want my parents to know about our court marriage .I want to stay in my house for 3 years because he wants to stand on his own feet .I can't wait for a long time .I want to get married to him as soon as possible . I know that legally that the man can get married at the age of 21 and the girl can get married at 18 years .I can also get 2 witness from my side (My friends)

2007-05-21 19:24:29 · 8 answers · asked by Hope Summer 6 in Marriage & Divorce

Been married 6years, last week sex life maybe 1 or 2 x's a month. will he cheat? also I meet someone what should I do? Do I stop talking to the other man or do I just wait and see what happens?

2007-05-21 19:21:20 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Been married 6years, last week sex life maybe 1 or 2 x's a month. will he cheat? also I meet someone what should I do? Do I stop talking to the other man or do I just wait and see what happens?

2007-05-21 19:19:02 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-05-21 19:16:16 · 28 answers · asked by san 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

im serious.. how can i make my own world where in.. i'm gonna be a very good friend to everyone.. and never to have an enemy?.. how can i make others feel their best?.. how can i held a great hand to those who need help?.. do you think.. at my age of 15, i'm gonna find someone to be considered as a true friend?

note:
i'm fully depressed right now for i haven't found such good friends at these times..

2007-05-21 19:15:35 · 19 answers · asked by ô,ô 2 in Friends