I am greatly troubled.I love someone & i am loved back.The person is a wonderful person & i am sure that i will be happy for the rest of my life coz not only does he love me he respects and care for me alot.I love my Mom very much also.Now the problem is that this boy is from another religion. My family r dead against Love marriages & if they know that he is from a different religion they would rather have me dead. My mom would want what i want ie is my happiness even if it means that she has to face critisims from everyone. Everyone in my family say that i am selfish.The boy himself knows what i am going thru & he dosent want me to come with him after breaking everyones heart. He says that it is my decision.If i chose him he will forever be with me & take care of me. If i choose my family by marrying someone else He then too will support me in my decision and he will remain my friend for life.I love him and i love my mom too. I just cant choose from them.What do i do....
2007-05-21 20:04:07 · 8 answers · asked by Lucy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I understand religion.. but sometimes when you are in love... you have to make sacrafices.. yes, family is important, but they would also respect you decision in life...
2007-05-21 20:08:05 · answer #1 · answered by tuffchevy86 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant let another person rule your life. Do what is best for you, what will make you happy in life. Dont sacrafice your happiness for your family if they are unwilling to accept who you are. Yes you do care deeply for your family but they need to understand that you deserve more out of life than an arranged marriage. Life is about making decisions make the one that is right for you, even if it is hard. You deserve the most out of life, make it a happy one.
2007-05-21 20:14:26 · answer #2 · answered by Julia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd prioritize love. To find somebody you love and who respects you and can keep you happy is a rare find and I personally wouldn't let the guy get away from me.
From the sound of it, you wouldn't disappoint your mother, cause after what you describe, it sounds like she supports you, but it's rather outsiders/other people who have something against it.
2007-05-21 21:48:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in a tuf decision. Your family should respect you that you've found someone your happy to live your life with. but don't shut your family out completely in case things don't work out between you and your lover. just tell your family that you love him lots and he is the only thing that makes you happy and if they loved you they have to respect your feelings and let you make your own decision.
2007-05-21 21:53:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self seeking,it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.
1 Corinthians 13: 4-8,13
2007-05-22 12:04:21 · answer #5 · answered by setfree 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is your religion important to you?,have you asked your patner if he would consider to changing his religion? if you are very religiouse then your family would be your choice, think of the future if you do marry the one you love what about your children don't you want them to know there grandparents and the rest of your family ? if it was meant to be then you'll find away :)
goodluck
2007-05-21 23:13:12 · answer #6 · answered by zee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
both of you need to talk to your priest,rabbi,preacher.or whoever.this isn't the stone age and you said your mom would want what u want.she could bring the rest around maybe and if not,then that's their loss.
do what your head and heart tell you to do.be happy.
2007-05-21 20:18:15 · answer #7 · answered by susan e 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love is important than anything!if u chose finally u maybe does not find the one u really love
2007-05-21 22:51:24 · answer #8 · answered by cutiegirlask 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋