because she just doesn't want to bring her to daycare, what would you do. You say don't worry about the money but now she is asking for your schedule every week. I have a 5 yr old girl and this is her last year with me before goingt o kindergarten, and a 19 mo old really is time consuming. Sometimes so that i feel like i am not giving her the attention I want to. She is finding every excuse not to bring her daughter to daycare, and then asking her friends to watch her child. How would you feel and what would you say to her without hurting her feelings. ???? Help.
2007-05-21 19:28:10 · 12 answers · asked by cruisingalong 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
this is not a light subject and the fact that your friend is not relying on outside daycare gives away all the signs. Its ok as a friend to offer assistance on certain occassions it is not ok for the other friend to abuse that in return. you are contributing alot of time and unless your friend is paying you this is not ok. Shew must take in consideration that this is not your child but heres, and you have a life and if she is so truly satisfified with your company in her childs presence then she must now shelll out for your services. I am speaking from many years of experience in which I had the same situation. i hope things work out.
2007-05-21 19:38:42 · answer #1 · answered by Gatanegra 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When she asks for your schedule, tell her that you don't mind helping her out if there is an emergency but that you cannot really schedule babysitting for over ten hours a day. Tell her that her baby is darling but you have too much to do with your own daughter to give her child the time he / she needs.
I offered to watch my neighbors daughter in the morning before school and after school. This was right after the neighbors husband left her and she did not have any other arrangements. I did it for three months and she did not make any attempt to make any other arrangements. People will take advantage of you the first chance they get.
2007-05-21 20:31:09 · answer #2 · answered by Patti C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you would like for her to pay you then just say so. If it is not about the money then when she calls for your schedule just say that it doesn't look like you will have time to babysit this week. If she asks for specifics as to why just say that your schedule will not allow it. If she knows that you have a specific day off and she asks about it say that you are scheduling a day for just you and your daughter. If she still insists then you are just gonna have to be polite and say i'm sorry I can't watch the baby you are gonna have to take her to daycare from now on.
You don't have to explain why you don't want to watch the baby anymore to her. Her baby is her responsibility not yours.
2007-05-21 19:49:21 · answer #3 · answered by hotelmajor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I definitely understand why she doesn't want to put her child in daycare. There are a lot of corrupt people out there passing their daycare business off as if it is something good. I would tell her that you have a daughter of your own that you want to spend time with before she goes off to school but you don't mind babysitting (it you don't mind sometimes) only for certain time periods and certain days. You set these times and days - after all, you are the one who is helping her out.
2007-05-21 19:35:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her that more things have come up and you only have time to keep an eye out for your child then reccomendt a local daycare, like oh sorry i dont have any more free time, but that new daycare is really cheap!
2007-05-21 19:33:15 · answer #5 · answered by Ferg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Id say NO. Unless you have no life then say ok. A baby that age is going to consume your entire day. You have other responsibilities and you need to use that for your own family. If I was married to you I would tell you no way, sugarlump.
This lady is using people horribly and putting them on the spot and she doesnt care so do not worry about her feelings being hurt. She certainly isnt worried about putting you on the spot.
Just say no. If you need to explain (which you dont have to), say your time is full and you dont have time for a baby. Dont let her pressure you. Use your backbone and stick to it. Your OWN child needs you, she is your priority not someone elses baby.
2007-05-21 20:04:44 · answer #6 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell her that she is taking away from you and your child. Also, is she paying you?! I hope so, it takes time and effort to raise someone elses' child. Let her know that once your daughter is in school you will NOT be watching her child. Don't be mean but set some boundaries. She is taking advantage of you. Don't let her. Stand up for yourself and your baby! Hopefully she will understand as your friend.
2007-05-21 19:37:48 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs. Moran 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Simply talk to her, tell her you have other plans.
Or maybe work out a time that you could help watch over her child.
Does she ever look after your child??
If she is a true friend she would not take offense..
best wishes for you
2007-05-21 20:29:55 · answer #8 · answered by unity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had a friend like that and i love my kids so much that i would make every excuse why i couldn't until she got the hint.don't feel bad because you want that precious time with your daughter.ooh i remember that last year with my 2 older kids i was like where did all the time go.im on your side.if she is a true friend she will understand the truth.let her know it wouldn't be fair to her child (just to make her feel better)
2007-05-21 19:51:09 · answer #9 · answered by STALKER BLOCK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well since it is becoming an issue, and she is asking for your time to babysit her kid..... might as well start charging her day care prices, or a little less.... Maybe that will wake her up.. You can't do everything for free...and wow...10 hours is a LONG time! n
2007-05-21 19:34:55 · answer #10 · answered by Nikki 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋