I am in love with a guy from eight years.I am a catholic and he is a Hindu. So there are complications regarding our marriage .So I don't know what to do . I am worried about my future because my parents won't agree for our marriage because of our caste.So we both want to get married but we have problems .So what am I suppose to do .
2007-05-21 20:06:00 · 16 answers · asked by Its_LoveLine 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Legally you can marry him only by this form of civil marriage. Court marriage as you call it is solemnized under the Special Marriage Act, 1954 all such marriages can take place between any two Indian citizens as well one Indian citizen with a foreigner irrespective of their religion, caste or creed, and you can say this is the secular form of marriage available in our country. Such a marriage is solemnized before the marriage officer/registrar usually D.C. deputy commissioner of the area (Sub registrar/SDM is the marriage officer/registrar only in case the already solemnized marriage under any other Act has to be registered) where both or any of the parties to such a marriage reside permanently or for at least one month. Cost of such a marriage is merely Rs90/- or as the rate prevalent in your area. Now how you proceed? Both the parties to the marriage file a joint application before the marriage officer along with individual affidavit attested by notary public specifying the age(boy 21yrs &girl 18yrs), place of residence, marital status(unmarried or divorcee as the case maybe), mental status(not idiot or not with unfit mind), not related to each other. Along with this you have to give proof of age( School certificate, Passport,) , proof of residence(Passport, ration card, voters id card, PAN card, rent agreement) , & the application of such a marriage should be witnessed by 3 independent adult persons, affix one photograph of each of the parties & all the 3 witnesses. You have made such an application/notice to the marriage officer in person along with all the 3 witnesses. On receiving such an application the marriage officer issues a month notice regarding the intended marriage & get such a notice affixed on the notice board out side his office, a copy of such notice is sent to the marriage officer under whose jurisdiction the other party lives, also a copy is to the individual parties address. After expiry of the period of notice a date is fixed on which all the persons parties to the marriage & 3 witnesses appear again before the marriage officer who declare them married & issue a certificate to this regard. Incase of any objections raised the marriage officer will settle these objections. Now what can be objections that can be raised? These can ONLY BE REGARDING THE CONDITIONS NECESSARY FOR SUCH MARIAGE & NOTHING ELSE. What are the conditions? As I stated above i.e. Age, martial status, mental status, prohibited relationship (related to each other by blood). This is the brief procedure I have told you here, incase you want any clarification you can ask.
2007-05-22 01:31:24 · answer #1 · answered by vijay m Indian Lawyer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would imagine that after 8 years together the two of you have talked about your religious beliefs and how youwould teach those beliefes to your children, how you will worship, separately or together,etc. These to me would be the main issues if you get married and have a family. Other than that I don't think anyone else should decide who you can or can't marry. You 2 have a long term relationship that is obviously leading you toward wanting to apend the rest of your lives together. If you have talked out all of the important things, then go away and get married, just the two of you. Ultimately this is your life and the 2 of you have to do what will make you happy not your families. I wish you both the best of luck and lots of happiness.
2007-05-21 22:24:59 · answer #2 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My advice to you is this: If you truly love each other and you want to marry, if you think your parents will be hostile or even volatile about the news, you must both get away if this is possible, somewhere together where you can begin your life together, if you feel your parents will accept it in time, tell them, but if not, your only option may be to leave.
If you and your fiancee love eachother and you are looking forward to a life together, these difficulties regarding what other people think will only serve to make you stronger. But you must get away, together, and face life together as a couple and not allow your families to interfere. They are looking at the world from very old standards and it does not make you a bad person for disagreeing, you are a person of your time and must live accordingly in order to be happy. You want to be together, do it.
2007-05-21 20:34:38 · answer #3 · answered by Marilyn's Sister 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you two really love each other (and it appears that you do with 8 years) then just say "screw it" you can't do everything your parents tell you do, just because they are your parents and older doesn't mean they know what is best for you. You love him he loves you then there is no problem, get married, don't listen to your parents, and if your parent really love you then they will understand and see that it is the right thing for you...but life is too short to let people get inbetween you, your lover, and your life...so just got married already
2007-05-29 16:12:01 · answer #4 · answered by PEACE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest. Neither of you believe your own religion because if you did it would have stopped you from having any relationship with someone who didn't worship your god or goddess or godling. You can start your own religion or pick one out of a hat and both of you convert to that religion. If you were raised catholic you don't have any 'caste' and he will become impure by marrying you. Neither of your religions will accept the others so just deal with it. Good luck.
2007-05-29 18:07:17 · answer #5 · answered by thesongfairy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you've got taken the step of getting to correctly known his call. pondering he has a female pal, and as you assert with low morals, you may take issues common, yet on a similar time tell him the way you sense ( be keen). look ahead to his answer, which you may desire to be keen to hearken to for- you by no ability comprehend, he could be somewhat in love along with his female pal. If he ain't, count quantity your self fortunate, yet do no longer rush into issues.
2016-11-26 00:20:34 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're allowing other people's beliefs control your life, what life are you truly living? My e-mail address is eckm0032@umn.edu. Contact me if you want to talk about it. You just need to see things in a different way. Maybe then you'll better understand your situation and what to do about it.
Heath
2007-05-21 20:14:21 · answer #7 · answered by heath e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You love him and dont throw that away, tell your family what you feel and maybe theyll surprise you. If not then marry him anyway and your family may be angry but sooner or later theyll get over it because they wont want to loose you.
2007-05-29 18:28:29 · answer #8 · answered by lil_mis_all_my_t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont dare run away and get married,,,,i too had gone thru this and eventually my parents agreed to our love and am happy now,seen many getting married without parents permission and are not so happy in life!!
ask the guy to convince his parents,,,i am sure they will agree to this.
all the best!!!
2007-05-21 22:19:02 · answer #9 · answered by amit s 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
love has no boundries, your the person that has to live your life your way !!!!! What I would do is talk to a relative that you can trust 100%, talk to them about it ,as they would be the ones to give you a perspective of what the family would think !!! or if your close to your mother talk to her because she will know what is right or wrong as she would only want whats best for you !!!!!
2007-05-21 23:22:27 · answer #10 · answered by Spanky the monkey !!! 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋