Family & Relationships - 4 April 2007

How long do you date someone before you start getting them involved with your kids? My boys are little (31/2 & 1 1/2) and my boyfriend is a bachelor who has very little exposure to small kids. How do I bring them together? And at what point do I start to get annoyed that he hasn't made the effort to get to know them? There dad is a part of their lives, sees them every weekend and one weekday and my boyfriend and I have been together for 3 months now.

2007-04-04 05:01:26 · 15 answers · asked by passionatemilf 2 in Singles & Dating

my man has kids with three different broads, they all are nuts

2007-04-04 04:59:26 · 27 answers · asked by kellycan 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Three weeks ago, my husband told me he didn't love me, never has and only married me 13 years ago because he was afraid I'd hurt myself if he didn't. Two weeks ago, he went to a concert with a "friend" and didn't come home unitl 6:30 AM. He told me he spent the night at her house, and was in love with her. Then he told me that they planned to move into her house together, but wanted a week to be sure it would work. I went to visit family for a week. When I returned, he wasn't home. We have a business together. He wants me to continue to run the business. I am so heart sick, and have been considering filing an alienation of affection suit against his girlfriend. Would you?
She has been a client of the business for 5 years. I am 9 years older than my husband, the girlfriend is 9 years younger....making her 18 years younger than I am. I don't want this situation to change me into someone that I'm not. Right now, I am just sad and looking for advice. Can anyone help?

2007-04-04 04:59:23 · 22 answers · asked by Mary F 2 in Marriage & Divorce

For a million dollars would you sleep with a guy for one night ?

My boyfriend said that he would ......Your answers will determine if I am over reacting.

Thanks.....Sahara

2007-04-04 04:57:48 · 21 answers · asked by ™ ♥♥♥ 3 in Singles & Dating

2007-04-04 04:56:10 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

He did not cheat on me physically, but just a month ago...(we've been together 6 months)..he wrote a few girls on this website called facebattle...he told them they were sooo beautiful multiple times, he wrote them poems..the whole bit. He even lied to them about having a gf..he never told me about the profile..in it it said he was single and looking...and he did not include any pictures of me what so ever. He has apologized many times saying im the only one he loves and that he didnt mean any of this to the other girls but I dont know whether or not to believe him or forgive him...help??lol

2007-04-04 04:55:12 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

If she starts 3 to 6 months later after graduation do I have to keep paying child support. She will be 18 just after graduating high school in NC.

2007-04-04 04:52:26 · 9 answers · asked by atvrider2522 1 in Family

guys, how does it make you feel when your girl contantly puts herself down and says negative things about her body-mad, sad, irritated...or something else?

2007-04-04 04:45:18 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-04-04 04:45:05 · 10 answers · asked by Ari's Mom 1 in Singles & Dating

My brother got a asama attack and he's in the hospital I haven't talked to him for about 6mnths now . He stopped talking to me becasue he's wife doesn't like me . Should I go vist him in the hospitol how about if his wife is there??? My parents are makeing me to go and I do but at the same time I don't I don't know what to do ! ! ! !

2007-04-04 04:45:04 · 6 answers · asked by What Happen 1 in Family

Have been married 6 yrs getting a divorce not a good relationship hubby cheated and got his ex. wife pregnant our first year of marriage along with another affair. I had a long standing on and off affair with an ex.bf that resulted in my 3 yr old son(hubby new this) and to my suprise i just found out my ex.bf fathered my 5 yr old daughter(i had no clue).The divorce has the potential to get very nasty.To avoid this i am considering hubbys deal to liquidate all marital assets 50/50?I would be walking away with nothing but a check and personals but i would also have to drop hubbys name from kids b-certificate or else he will sue me?He said he would be willing to give alimony for 6 months but wants nothing to do with my kids. Take the deal or not?

2007-04-04 04:41:39 · 34 answers · asked by Bella C 1 in Marriage & Divorce

When my husband and I married 2 years ago, it disgusted me when he looked at porn although he didn't view it all that much. Now it doesn't bother me so much, some, but not as much. Some friends say it doesn't bother them at all if their DH's look but to some it's just not tolerated. I want to know how most of you ladies feel about the subject.

2007-04-04 04:36:56 · 16 answers · asked by Gayle M 2 in Marriage & Divorce

My BF had to work double shifts Monday & Tuesday, so he asked me if I could drop by his place and let his dog out and walk him. Which of course that involved loaning me a key, (AND he is super paranoid about people in his house without him being there) So yesterday, when He got home and I was getting ready to leave for the night, I left the key & keychain on the table, and said "Don't lose my keychain!" He replied with "Well, why don't you take it." So I went to take the key off the keychain, when he stopped me and said "NO, just hold onto it, ya know in case I need you to help me out again or something."

With our relationship, we've been great friends for almost 5 years, been through a lot, and off and on lovers throughout those years. We've been in a serious relationship almost 4 months now, we love each other, and I already practically live there on the weekends. I don't want to get attached to the idea of "having a key" so it's not on MY keychain yet, but HOW SHOULD I READ THIS?

2007-04-04 04:32:56 · 20 answers · asked by UNeverKnow 1 in Singles & Dating

Thanks!

2007-04-04 04:32:32 · 7 answers · asked by ladies love 2 in Weddings

So, my very good (and under 21) friend has decided to run off and elope next weekend. Being as this is short notice, we don't really have the funds to do anything extravagent.

I am not sure if the boys are doing something for her future husband, and if not I am needing some ideas of some cheap things to do for them to celebrate their upcoming wedding.

2007-04-04 04:31:29 · 11 answers · asked by Jess 2 in Weddings

Okay so basically to make a long story short,
I just got out of a 3 year relationship with my ex.
The reason I decided to break up with him is because,
he really didn't show that much affection toward me.
He always put me down and my self-esteem was really bad.
So now its been about 4 or 5 months that I've been single.
But just recently I got into another very serious relationship,
with my current boyfriend. And he treats me like a godess!
Everything is absoutely wonderful. He's constantly reminding
me of how beautiful I am, and how glad he is that we met.
But the problem I am having is that I feel awkward of him
always buying me nice things and spending money on me.
Just because I wasn't used to being treated that way
in my previous relationship. Please give me some advice,
of how I can stop feeling so awkward
and feel more comfortable around him
as far as things such as that goes.
Thanks a lot guys, I really appreciate it. (:

2007-04-04 04:18:55 · 11 answers · asked by Amanda 1 in Singles & Dating

Ok so what am I really supposed to do when Im inlove with someone who isnt inlove with me. What if I feel like this is the right person for me. What if the reason we broke up was a misunderstanding. How do you get through to a person who is so stubborn?

2007-04-04 04:18:38 · 9 answers · asked by ImOuThEreUdigg!! 3 in Singles & Dating

if someone is REALLY shy, what is the best way to get over it?

2007-04-04 04:17:28 · 12 answers · asked by Annie 1 in Friends

I have been with my partner for 2 years, he has 2 children from previous marriage unfortunatley x-wife a real *itch and uses kids against him (they are his world) I really would love to have his child as he is terffic father, he says can't have one even if wanted to as all the grief he has been through with ex and also doesn't think his 14 year old daughter would talk to him. Please help not sure what to do as love this man to bits and all I have in the world

2007-04-04 04:16:39 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

so you just say politely...."no thanks'...and the guy says...."why not?"...and you are SHOCKED THAT HE WOULD ASK WHY?...so you say".Well, ..i just like you as a friend".....so you have told him...(basically there is nothing there)...DON'T MOST GUYS GET IT???? If i was a guy, i would...and leave her alone...or are they that thick headed???

2007-04-04 04:13:43 · 7 answers · asked by sweet 4 in Singles & Dating

I cannot stop thinking about him and I want to work things out with him even though he cheated on me. He was my first and only boyfriend, first kiss , and my first sex partner. Every time I think I'm over him he calls or write me and I start getting those deep feelings for him again, I dream about him alot, I want to be with him again but I don't want to get hurt again. He apologized for his mistakes and informed me that he is still in love with me . He tells me he does not have a girlfriend , should I trust him again or should I move on...why do I still have these strong feelings for him even though he did me so wrong. He cheated on me 3 times and I just kept forgiving him,and he also left me heart-broken for a year.... my family and friends tell me I am very attractive and get a lot of attention from guys, and that i should move on. I need advice because I am 21 years old and I don't have much experience in dating

2007-04-04 04:12:36 · 34 answers · asked by tasty 2 in Singles & Dating

It wasn't his character to do that. He witheld the information and I found out about it on an A.T.M. reciept. He said he used the money to loan his coworkers for them to get a lapdance. Him and his friends are all in their fifties. Prior to this incident we discused him staying out of those places. I am hurt over this . We always seemed to have the best relationship, and a great sex life.The girls in the stripclub are young , and beautiful. how can a woman my age compete with that. I work out at the gym, but I'm older. the women at the stripclub are younger than my daughters., and we have grandaughters.What does this say to me? We are in a second marriage. He said that his coworkers forced him to go. We did get some counseling over it, but it still has made me look at him differenly. I feel cheated on.....because he wasn't honest, it makes me wonder if he has done other things behind my back..... I was out of town when he went. I am so suspicious now. how do other older women feel?

2007-04-04 04:09:57 · 17 answers · asked by Lindsey 4 in Marriage & Divorce

I hate them for real

2007-04-04 04:08:33 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

Ok I met a guy who is 10 yrs older than me. We don't have all that much in common but he is a nice guy. Here's the thing...I wasn't born w/a silver spoon in my mouth but I like nice things & come from nice things (only child here). I have a nice home & nice things. He on the other hand lives in the hood (Washington DC...I live out in VA about a 20min commute to him)...he has a very small apt & eats out of cool whip bowls and like nothing matches. I mean is that being cheap or a bachelor?? He has his on business cleaning carpets & detailing cars but it's not legit yah know....he has no benefits.

I have a 6 year old boy & he has 2 boys one 10 & the other 17...they live w/their mother (2 different baby mothers). He was married bf to the yougnest son's mother tho.

I'm thinking a man at 37 should be more put together & established...b/c he's still young but not all that young. He told me he wanted to build something with me & I feel that but I dunno if I can do it!!

2007-04-04 04:05:47 · 5 answers · asked by Lovely Cappy Girl 2 in Singles & Dating

My roommate and I are both professionals in our twenties. She has trouble in the guy department and gets jealous of me whenever guys pay more attention to me. I have recently started dating a great guy, and we all have mutual friends. My roommate has started, as she always does, trying to make me jealous by saying she sees him at the gym flirting with everyone, including her, that he came in to see her at work (she manages a golf course and he golfs), etc. And when he comes over, she tries to subtly put me down by telling embarrassing stories about me, or by saying, "Chole gets SO MAD if I leave my dishes in the sink," things like that that aren't even true. If I call her out on it she'll just laugh. I am hesitant to talk to her about it, since I know she'll turn it around and maybe even tell my boyfriend and our friends that I'm jealous. I'm optimistic about this relaitonship and think it has potential to go somewhere, and I don't want her to sabotage it. How should I handle her?

2007-04-04 03:59:25 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

I told him that I would never leave him if he gained weight and his response to me was it just wouldn't be right to be walking next to you if you fat.

2007-04-04 03:59:23 · 49 answers · asked by mysteryousmtz 6 in Marriage & Divorce

ok i have 2 really good friends will call them F1 and F2. well F2 is dating this really lazy selfish guy. F1 and i are worried that shes falling to fast for the wrong guy. everyday he takes her money, she has a job and he doesnt. he cant even buy his own lunh, he made her pay for prom, even though he worked all spring break and had cash he didnt want to spend it on that! F1 and i have been around him without her there and all he does is talk **** about her, about how shes too whiney and how shes gets on his nerves. but now recently theyve started to have sex and F2 thinks shes in lvoe with this loser, hes just in it for the sex! we dont know how to tell her. ses quiting her job soon for cheerleading(were all on the varsity squad together) and F1 and i are afraid that when she quits hell leave her and we dont know how to help her.....HELP.....any suggestions.

2007-04-04 03:57:19 · 3 answers · asked by rckstar88 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-04-04 03:56:30 · 20 answers · asked by mysteryousmtz 6 in Marriage & Divorce

I just asked my girlfriend to move in with me. She is still in college and having a hard time supporting herself. What kind of financial responsibility do I have for her? Before we were just dating. Now she is living with me. I feel that changes the financial picture. Am I right?

2007-04-04 03:53:53 · 13 answers · asked by chnx 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-04-04 03:52:43 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce