Ok I met a guy who is 10 yrs older than me. We don't have all that much in common but he is a nice guy. Here's the thing...I wasn't born w/a silver spoon in my mouth but I like nice things & come from nice things (only child here). I have a nice home & nice things. He on the other hand lives in the hood (Washington DC...I live out in VA about a 20min commute to him)...he has a very small apt & eats out of cool whip bowls and like nothing matches. I mean is that being cheap or a bachelor?? He has his on business cleaning carpets & detailing cars but it's not legit yah know....he has no benefits.
I have a 6 year old boy & he has 2 boys one 10 & the other 17...they live w/their mother (2 different baby mothers). He was married bf to the yougnest son's mother tho.
I'm thinking a man at 37 should be more put together & established...b/c he's still young but not all that young. He told me he wanted to build something with me & I feel that but I dunno if I can do it!!
2007-04-04 04:05:47 · 5 answers · asked by Lovely Cappy Girl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I mean don't get me wrong I can work wit a brother...but I just saw on the news were there was shooting in his neighborhood!! I know they say opposites attract but I dunno I don't wanna waste his time or mine! Any suggestions would be helpful...thanks!!
2007-04-04 04:08:09 · update #1
No, Bootsy, No and No and No. Look, you have higher aspirations and values than this guy. You have a 6 year old who will acquire those same fine values and hopes for a better life. What will happen if you subject him daily to a man who is content with a very slipshod life and no pride whatsoever in his living conditions. You know you have nothing in common with this man; don't try to create something that is not there. It would only be devastating for you and your son. A 37 year old man should have far more to offer a woman than what he presently has. You would only wind up being the caretaker .
2007-04-04 04:26:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes he is living the bachelor life. It's a plus that he has his own business. He might not care if anything matches he has noone to impress. I would discuss his living arrangements and see if he and you want the same things. I just left a man b/c he did want as nice of things as I did or he did but couldn't make it happen. hmm I feel in the wrong b/c he was a good man but It's your life and you have to know what you can settle for.
2007-04-04 11:13:58 · answer #2 · answered by :o) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't have much in common and he is 10 years older then you ..... what will keep you together. Relationships have enough pulling you apart and if you are not heading in the same direction it will not last. I tried similar relationships and they didn't last.
2007-04-04 11:14:52 · answer #3 · answered by wanabe30 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right, by age 37 he should have more going for him. I wouldn't get serious, tell him you want to keep options open.
2007-04-04 11:12:49 · answer #4 · answered by Maria b 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont bother. dude cant even get any real plates.
yes, he should be more put together.
2007-04-04 11:11:42 · answer #5 · answered by RATM_17 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋