I told him that I would never leave him if he gained weight and his response to me was it just wouldn't be right to be walking next to you if you fat.
2007-04-04 03:59:23 · 49 answers · asked by mysteryousmtz 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I feel so bad sometimes that when I eat I feel guilty and then I look at my stomach and I think about what he said and I run to the restroom and vomit. I've done that a couple of times already.
2007-04-04 04:29:47 · update #1
Well because if he wanted to be married to a larger woman he would have married one.
I dont care what anyoene says physical attraction is part of any relationship and if he isnt attracted to larger women then he sure isnt going to attracted to ANY larger woman
On a side note, when I am involved, I like to look the best for him, I like to feel sexy and like him to desire me.
2007-04-04 04:06:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 2⤋
I get so sick of people getting mad when a spouse complains of weight gain. I'm sorry, but it is not because he is shallow. Why do people think that it's ok to gain weight and get fat just because they are married. I believe that both spouses should do their best to stay fit once they are married. Neither the man or woman has a right to get fat just because they are married. It'd be like going and buying a Mercedes-Benz and then when you get home, the emblem falls off and you realize you actually bought a KIA.
2007-04-04 04:37:50 · answer #2 · answered by Back in the game... 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He's a little extreme, but guys care about their wife's looks.
Just don't gain weight.
I think he really is offended by all the fat people everywhere, and he figures if he scares you enough, you won't get fat. Sorry that he has to resort to such tactics. Can't he talk to you? Are you showing signs of being lazy and slipping up in the appearance department?
Just make the effort to keep in shape and forget about it. Men care about appearance. Period.
And read the Proper Care and Feeding of Marriage. Also the Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands. Your husband must be great in other ways or you wouldn't be married to him, right? So read these books so you can stay married to this great guy.
2007-04-04 04:16:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
He's a jerk and doesn't deserve to be with you, is what it sounds like to me. I don't want to tell you to leave him, because if he's your husband that's not a simple thing to do, and you married him, so you probably love him for a lot of reasons. I would ask him about this. Tell him how it made you felt when he said that to you, he may have been kidding, or serious, you never know, but it's an issue you're going to need to work out together.
2007-04-04 04:09:57 · answer #4 · answered by IndiHippi 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
He married you because he loves you. So he should love you regardless of how much weight you may gain, but at the same time, you also should want to stay in shape for your man. Don't just let yourslef go, because you are married now. That happens a lot. Women start to gain weight once they are married because they feel like they dont have to impress their guy anymore, but they should want to stay in shape, so they can be sexy and attractive for their man still.
I dont think your hubby should have said it quite like he did, but I understand where he is coming from.
2007-04-04 04:08:51 · answer #5 · answered by Amerz 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Can you spell D-I-V-O-R-C-E If he married you for your body, get out now. My husband loves me and yes I did gain some weight after birthing two kids, but he feels that its a sort of badge of honor (like my stretch marks) My body shows that I loved him so much I was willing to be miserable for nine months and blow up to have our beautiful kids with him.
Your husband should love you no matter what. If I were you, I'd put on a few pounds just to test him, see what happens. If he really does feel this way, you are better off without him!!
2007-04-04 04:05:04 · answer #6 · answered by nic h 3 · 2⤊ 3⤋
because he is like most of the guys out there that they want it all the perfect wife so they can tell their friends "look what i got" or what i like to say who has the bigger balls!
one bad thing about your husband is that someone put that in his head saying that you wife has to has to look good for you 24/7.
I am glad that my Ex-husband wasn't like that but he had his sh*t too. that's why he is my ex.
I am sorry for what he is telling you but i don't think that is right at all if he fell in love with you he shouldn't say anything like that to you no matter how you look. Fat or skinny.
2007-04-04 08:01:10 · answer #7 · answered by prettygothgirl69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of all he needs to look at the women he married and fell in love with . he needs to also hope that you don't have any health problems that you cant help but gain weight because of ... and last but not least it should not matter what you look like to him but if he truly loves you as much as you love him,,,, also remember im not telling you this to bring conflict to the situation but there are men in this world that like a little curves and something to hold on to ... good luck
2007-04-04 04:08:29 · answer #8 · answered by beachbabytweety 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He may be saying that as an incentive for you not to gain, he likes you the way you are. The reality is that he would accept it if he really loves you. I've seen this before, men have said and are now living with their pleasantly plump wives, happily!
2007-04-04 04:04:29 · answer #9 · answered by ♥SummerRain♥ 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
bcuz he has issues with him self,screw him if he wants to lose u cuz u gain a few lbs, then tell him hey if u wanna leave me cuz of a few pounds , then thats ur choice,i can live with me,if u cant ,then get to steppin,there is the door.
u shouldnt have that over ur head ,screw him .if the show was on the other foot do u think he would feel that way if he gained weight..no...so he must not b all that and all he says about love for u if he says $hit like that.
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2007-04-04 04:07:38 · answer #10 · answered by My Dixie Wrecked 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
it sounds as though he doesn't truly love you, but maybe he is just trying to motivate you to take care of your body.. my wife put on weight and I still love her and I would never divorce her because of her weight.. but I have to admit that I would love it if she lost the weight she put on since we've been together..
I can identify with how your husband feels.. I feel self conscious going for walks with my wife sometimes.. I'm not really physically attracted to her either.. I know I'll get slammed with lots of thumbs-down for answering honestly, but I'm just telling it like it is.. generally speaking, men greatly prefer physically fit women..
2007-04-04 04:07:18 · answer #11 · answered by Byakuya 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋