My BF had to work double shifts Monday & Tuesday, so he asked me if I could drop by his place and let his dog out and walk him. Which of course that involved loaning me a key, (AND he is super paranoid about people in his house without him being there) So yesterday, when He got home and I was getting ready to leave for the night, I left the key & keychain on the table, and said "Don't lose my keychain!" He replied with "Well, why don't you take it." So I went to take the key off the keychain, when he stopped me and said "NO, just hold onto it, ya know in case I need you to help me out again or something."
With our relationship, we've been great friends for almost 5 years, been through a lot, and off and on lovers throughout those years. We've been in a serious relationship almost 4 months now, we love each other, and I already practically live there on the weekends. I don't want to get attached to the idea of "having a key" so it's not on MY keychain yet, but HOW SHOULD I READ THIS?
2007-04-04 04:32:56 · 20 answers · asked by UNeverKnow 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
that he trusts you, and feels comfortable enough for you to have a key,,,,,,,, just make sure to only use it, when he knows about it,,,,,,
2007-04-04 04:37:34 · answer #1 · answered by dlin333 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think everyone has given you great advice... more or less. my best advice is, ask him is the key just for when you need my help or can i use it any time? I think you all ready know what answer and are hoping for a different one... tell him what you said here, in different words. that we have been good friends for a long time and that you totally trust him with your heart. also give him something important to you, like a key or something spacial to you, that he knows means a lot to you. tell him you are in this for the long haul, and you are here for him for what ever he needs or wants. just talk and don't get mad at him if he does not say what you want to hear or think he should say. but most important don't be afraid people can sense fear. or be afraid and know if he treats that fear with kindness he the one!
2007-04-04 04:55:47 · answer #2 · answered by Billy Kapp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats a tough one Im not quite sure how I would take this. I think he is basically giving you the key for helping out like this again or maybe he is hinting at something. Sounds to me like he may want you there on more than just the weekends!!
Best Wishes
2007-04-04 04:45:27 · answer #3 · answered by cbella06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
personally, I think you are reading a little too much into it. You are over-analyizing a simple situation. He just wants you to have a key and that's it. If he asks for it back, then it's a pretty good indicator that he's done with asking you for help. Hold onto the key as long as you can.
2007-04-04 04:38:36 · answer #4 · answered by booooo 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's ready to take the relationship to the next level. Think of this as a blessing, many men do not do this often! I say if you love him as you say you do it shouldn't be a big deal. Unless your scared to move on to the next level in the relationship. It's a little step but it can be a scary one. Good luck
2007-04-04 04:37:35 · answer #5 · answered by ash 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congrats! Sounds like you just hit another trust milestone. Although he is not ready for you to move in, there is a lot of trust in leaving your most precious of spaces open to, with all due respect, an outsider. I wish you and your man luck.
2007-04-04 04:40:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be glad that he trusts you enough and thinks your responsible enough to keep a key to his house. If you don't want his key, then go to a key shop and get a duplicate... that way, you guys won't have to share keys (just in case one of you doesn't have it and gets locked out of the house)
2007-04-04 04:36:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Merely as a convenience for him. It has little to do with the "serious relationship".
You did not ask but, practically living there on weekends does not mean that he is ready to commit to anything with you.
2007-04-04 04:36:34 · answer #8 · answered by Thomas K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he wants to let you in and take it to that next step but he is nervous. When a guy. or girl for that matter, get used to living alone...letting someone in is a huge deal. It is obvious he trusts you...maybe give it some time or talk to him about what you are feeling.
good luck!
2007-04-04 04:39:38 · answer #9 · answered by Bea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
uhh hello don't read too much into. He trusts you and wants you to know. Put it on your keychain, and don't worry about it. Things will take its course.
2007-04-04 04:37:32 · answer #10 · answered by shorte716 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a very good sign of trust between you guys BUT remember.... you aint no housekeeper or maid ok. Feel free to refuse doing jobs he can simply do himself. If you dont, then he may start taking you for granted.
2007-04-04 04:37:27 · answer #11 · answered by tomy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋