Okay so basically to make a long story short,
I just got out of a 3 year relationship with my ex.
The reason I decided to break up with him is because,
he really didn't show that much affection toward me.
He always put me down and my self-esteem was really bad.
So now its been about 4 or 5 months that I've been single.
But just recently I got into another very serious relationship,
with my current boyfriend. And he treats me like a godess!
Everything is absoutely wonderful. He's constantly reminding
me of how beautiful I am, and how glad he is that we met.
But the problem I am having is that I feel awkward of him
always buying me nice things and spending money on me.
Just because I wasn't used to being treated that way
in my previous relationship. Please give me some advice,
of how I can stop feeling so awkward
and feel more comfortable around him
as far as things such as that goes.
Thanks a lot guys, I really appreciate it. (:
2007-04-04 04:18:55 · 11 answers · asked by Amanda 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you don't feel comfortable, tell him. Maybe he could spend that money on outings for the both of you. Maybe special dates and everything. That way he still gets the pleasure of making you happy and you don't have to feel so uncomfortable about him spending a lot of money on just you. Just talk to him about it, I'm sure if he loves you that much he'll understand. And good for you that you found someone who treats you that way! Best of luck!
2007-04-04 04:26:52 · answer #1 · answered by IndiHippi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel, I was in the same situation with my ex that I broke up with after 3 years. Then I started dating someone who kept taking care of me, I almost broke up with him because I wasn't used to being taken care of. The most you can do is accept that your obviously worth being treated this way. You deserve it, you put 3 years into a relationship that made you feel awful and this is someone totally different that is going to treat you the way you should be treated in a relationship. You could let him know that it makes you feel a little awkward when he buys you maybe too much but I can guarantee he'll tell you that your worth it and that's why he does it. I hope this helps. Good Luck!
2007-04-04 04:25:07 · answer #2 · answered by ash 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel bad, GIRL. I think u should ask him to stop buying u things and that you not the kind of girl who want material thing from him and that all u want is his love and attention. Any way, don't feel bad it not bad to receive gifts from ur bf. he should appreciate the gifts right now because it always change in the relationship within one year. One way, that u can't feel bad is to buy him thing also or plan special date. COOK him a dinner or help him with his problems.
2007-04-04 04:31:35 · answer #3 · answered by who cares 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may need to seek personal counseling if you continue to feel overwhelmed at the positive attention you new friend is giving you. That is a sign of low self-esteem. You should try to relax and accept the fact that you are a deserving person who is entitled to good treatment from someone who sincerely cares for you and show him your appreciation by accepting his compliments graciously. Congratulations and forget your ex.
2007-04-04 04:30:05 · answer #4 · answered by Jess4rsake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it takes time for that esteem to build back up. just make sure that you tell him how much you appreciate him b/c guys like that are few and far between. i think with your ex, you will come out stronger, your not a spoiled brat that takes advantage of what your new boyfriend is doing for you. just go with the flow, and let him buy things for you, he wants to! it makes him feel good to do things for you! you be aight, it just takes time to get that confidence back!
2007-04-04 04:23:46 · answer #5 · answered by ♪♪Holly♪♪ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a hard situation to be in, but you have to tell yourself, this is how you were meant to be treated and just let him do those things for you now. You deserve it! Enjoy your new relationship.
2007-04-04 04:23:35 · answer #6 · answered by Mr Ice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
on no account permit a guy recognize how lots you like him..he will take great thing approximately that and loose pastime, dont permit a guy cope with you like crap, verify he respects you, care approximately you and listens to you. determine you're the two equivalent and that your not too submissive, dont be too based and determine you not have intercourse till you're arranged. :)
2016-10-02 04:09:01 · answer #7 · answered by philibert 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is not a lot we can say to change how you feel --- its all up to you it will take a while to change your habit and become more accepting rather than giving but it will happen --- just let him know you appreciate the effort he is making ----- best wishes
2007-04-04 04:31:48 · answer #8 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you got a REAL MAN enjoy it and love him back as he loves you. Do something special for him.
2007-04-04 04:23:31 · answer #9 · answered by Granny 1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow....why don't you just try to appreciate what you have instead of complaining about it....you had a guy who treated you bad and I can understand complaining somewhat but you stayed 3 years and you are still bringing it up...now you have a great guy that treats you like a "goddess" and you are still complaining...grow up
2007-04-04 04:24:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋