When my husband and I married 2 years ago, it disgusted me when he looked at porn although he didn't view it all that much. Now it doesn't bother me so much, some, but not as much. Some friends say it doesn't bother them at all if their DH's look but to some it's just not tolerated. I want to know how most of you ladies feel about the subject.
2007-04-04 04:36:56 · 16 answers · asked by Gayle M 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I used to get very upset even if he had a magazine. The only way for me to solve the problem was to agree to occasionally watch with him. So, he doesn't watch without me. I don't really like it but it turns him on, and you need to keep the sex interesting to keep your man. 11 years now, and he doesn't cheat. I guess its working!
2007-04-04 04:47:50 · answer #1 · answered by ♥SummerRain♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't like it or the ideas behind it but i married an army man who is away from me for a year or more at a time. When he leaves i don't care as long as it's not with other women (more for himself type thing) and when he's home, he has me so it's not done. If i catch him with it on his computer when he's home he has some explaining to do. Does he particulary like magiznes and pictures, maybe y'all could find a photographer that would do u both some risky shots. Then yeah it's porn, but it's each other, it's your porn. We tend to go have an updated photoshoot (or usually just do one ourselfs) each time before he leaves. I don't really like the whole idea of porn but it's pretty much an accepted thing in the army, so i've sorta come around to the idea of it. Especially if it keeps my hubby from cheating on me.
2007-04-04 12:11:26 · answer #2 · answered by bonnieblue716 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I enjoy porn. I usually like a different kind than that which is marketed towards men, but I still like erotica and porn on a regular, frequent basis.
That said, it simply doesn't bother me for my man or woman to look at porn. So long as they aren't addicted and it's legal porn, I actually applaud it- to me, it signifies a good deal of sexual health, open-mindedness, and usually, a sense of sexual adventure. It's fun to watch together, and I like to be in relationships where I'm secure enough to not be jealous of porn- to realize it has a secondary place in my partner's heart.
So I'm very pro-porn, and I highly encourage other women to be open and honest with their boyfriends/husbands- to have real discussions about porn, rather than simply dismiss it or make edicts and rules about it. They don't have to change their minds- hey, porn isn't for everyone, and most of it ain't woman-friendly- but listen to your boyfriends with an open mind, and then make judgements. Porn is a huge industry; there's a reason why it's so popular, and negative attitudes towards it only drive men to hide it more away in secrecy.
2007-04-06 04:52:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It bothers me....I caught my husband doing that behind my back and admitted he masturbated a few times too behind my back. I lost some trust in him because i didnt think that he would hide. Now I dont know what to think of him. Looking at it and getting excited over people abusing of sex is for the insecure and men who are cowardly. I told my husband I dont think he would like it much if his own daughter were doing that stuff then he would feel sick to watch it. I just think that its not good. It makes a relationship seem very cheap.
2007-04-04 12:50:29 · answer #4 · answered by Sweetheart 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is an adult, and sex is an adult activity. If your husband likes porn, and he is watching it in the privacy of the home, either alone or together with you, then it's nobody's business. I don't have an issue with porn, so long as it's kept in perspective. If it starts to interfere with his ability to lead a responsible, mature life, your relationship, or your sex life, then that's another thing.
2007-04-07 09:27:44 · answer #5 · answered by Tweety 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex was obsessed. I didn't know any better when we got together, because I was a 'rookie'.
He wanted to imitate everything he saw; it was fun for a couple of years, but then it got old.
The problem is that the obesession kills your intimacy, closeness, and eventually your relationship. No, you do not have to practice circus tricks and movie stunts all the time, every time. Dress up is cute here and there, but it gets old.
My husband doesn't care for it, and we have a nice relationship. Big difference.
2007-04-04 12:08:51 · answer #6 · answered by Icewomanblockstheshot 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think porn destroys the sexual relationship and the relationship itself. I have no tolerance for it as it is not realistic and damages one's mind. It depicts women as objects, not people. I am a sexual creature but I don't want to be looked at that way or thought of that way by anyone other than my husband. To everyone else, I am a person with lots to share in a non-sexual way.
2007-04-04 11:44:12 · answer #7 · answered by Stefka 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Your husband has higher regard for those porn actresses more than you. Why the hell are you still sticking around ? You probably have very low self esteem.
2007-04-05 03:38:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I dont mind my husband looking at porn as long as he doesnt try to hide it...I dont find it at all disgusting.
2007-04-04 11:56:01 · answer #9 · answered by I Like Grapes 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mine doesnt do it anymore but when he did it didnt bother me at all. If looking at porn excited him it was all to my benefit.
2007-04-04 11:44:08 · answer #10 · answered by mnwomen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋