Family & Relationships - 3 April 2007

My father and i has never really got along every since I was 7 when he spat in my face from taking up for my mother. Right now he is in jail and my mother wanted me to write a letter for him to make parole and i told her no for the simple fact everytime i see him it brings hate and anger all over me again of everything he has ever done to our family. Ex: having no christmas presents on X-mas morning cause he stole the car my moms credit cards, jewelry and made her go bankrupt. Also never being their when all 6 of us were born. Always on the street doing drugs and in crack houses. He also told my mother and my sisters to lie so he couldn't be sent back to jail, when he choked me and when i was running for dear life when i thought he was gonna kill me. I got sent away when i was 17. I'm now 20 and living on my own. He tries so hard by writing me letters but I don't respond. I just don't like being around him for what he's done and what he's capable of doing. What should I do?

2007-04-03 08:17:00 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

2007-04-03 08:13:23 · 27 answers · asked by izaiza 1 in Friends

I have a friend that constantly talks about how she doesn't think her and her boyfriend are going to last. I really hope that it works out for them for their baby (he's 1) sake, but I am so tired of listening to her talk back about the guy. He puts in 70 hours a week and she complains he works too much. Then he finds another job and she talks about how he is home too much. Should I say something to her or just keeping listening to her. (She gets defensive and is very sensitive person) What should I do because I don't want to make her mad because my husband and her boyfriend are best friends and she is a great friend she just threatens about leaving him all time and it's old.

2007-04-03 08:10:02 · 7 answers · asked by MommyofTwo 3 in Friends

but if you are nice to them then they walk all over you and you basically have lost the war, but like I said act uninterested or like you couldn't care less or even mean and they can get enough, why can't both sides just show equal love and admiration instead of the head games? Men can you tell me why, and women do you agree or not?

2007-04-03 08:09:54 · 21 answers · asked by kakylale 3 in Singles & Dating

i am indian muslim one side divorce woman now i want to married belgium man but they not excepting my indian divorce in belgium pls help me.

2007-04-03 08:06:55 · 3 answers · asked by saira 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I am here in an other country, yes but I try my very best to see him .I visit him every other week and communicate with him every day. Yes his father is in his life more than I am.The thing is that I know my son is very special meaning, that he is
very intelligent and yes i could have taken him but the enviroment that i am living in is not the best and for his best interest i decided to keep him with his grandparents. I am trying to save as much money so by the time he is ready to stat pre-school, i can afford to send him to the best school in the country.Im I still making the wrong decision?

2007-04-03 08:06:55 · 14 answers · asked by Alicia S 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Ok so my hubby and i have been having alot of problems for a while now, and recently he asked me to sleep with someone else, so of course thinking it would make him happy, I did it. i even took pics of it like he wanted. now before all of this, he and i had an arguement and he informed me that he was not in love with me anymore, and then a week later he said he was, and then a couple days later he wasnt and now he says he is. My hubby has never been one to understand me very well, and let me be me. I do love him, but since meeting this other guy and talking to him, even before we slept together, i felt a verystrong connection with him. and he also feels the same way. so my question is what do i do? should i stay with my husband and continue to wonder if he really loves me or should i go for it with this other guy and truly be happy.

2007-04-03 08:06:02 · 17 answers · asked by cmgrpgdjg0406 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Wow! Seems like the Yahoo program didn't find any similar question.

So, who is it for you? Tell us the story.

I have a thought, but I might save it for later.

Thanks.

2007-04-03 08:05:24 · 24 answers · asked by American citizen and taxpayer 7 in Other - Family & Relationships

No, I'm not asking for real. But some variation of this MUST be the most-asked question on this site!

So, can you give a GENERAL idea of what common behavior indicates attraction, and what does not? I want to keep this general, for the broadest applicability.

Thanks!

2007-04-03 08:03:21 · 5 answers · asked by American citizen and taxpayer 7 in Singles & Dating

2007-04-03 07:56:20 · 12 answers · asked by sweethyedreamer213 3 in Singles & Dating

my daughter is getting married & she is doing a slide show with pictures and music. she does not have a lot and i was going to give her a gift in money. how much do i need to give her? i know she will not want to take it but i will insist on her to do this.

2007-04-03 07:55:03 · 12 answers · asked by mimi27962 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Will I ever get a bf?

I am not completely prepared for the many negative things people will probably say, 'cos I take a lot of things to heart..but I would appreciate some nicer people saying things to help lol.


Anyways I'm 16, and ugly, as I have been told very many times. I'm also very tall. I've never had a bf before and no one looks twice at me in public. However some people tell me I am really pretty and there are rare people that stare at me lol, but for the right reasons! But people say "Hey sexy" but they are just taking the piss. I really want to be loved and have a bf just to hold me and talk to...but the thing is I'm really shy and at school people already have a fixed opinion of me. I hate being so lanky..and I guess people dislike the fact that I'm into heavier music, dark clothing, black eyeliner, anime etc! I just wanna be, wanna be loved! :'(

2007-04-03 07:54:23 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

After a night of drinking and partying we went to bed, fell asleep and In the middle of the night woke up and had the most amazing $ex that i've had in years! And I was half asleep during the whole thing, which made it all the more intense. When finished, I turned over and kissed him, and said "That was amazing _ (name of ex husband here)_!" then I said it again, "Oh __" I woke up half way through the name and nearly fainted, neither of us said anything, just went to bed. The next morning he didn't say anything about it, and I could vaguely remember it happening, until he asked me what was wrong, and I told him I thought I had a really bad nightmare! He smirked, I then knew that it had happened. He was totally calm about it, he only asked me one question "Who do you really want to be with" I answered "YOU" of course, because I do love Him, and My ex and I broke up 2 years ago, and I haven't talked to him in months.

I feel so embarassed. Any advise?

2007-04-03 07:54:17 · 21 answers · asked by UNeverKnow 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Should i sponsor him?
my male friend asked me if i could sponsor him on something that is very important in his life... i said i was willing to help but then he told me to sponsor him would mean to give up over $10,000... i am a single mother and im not sure if i should give him that. i only know him for one year...although we are very close i am probably taking that money away from important things in my life too. should i help out a dear friend?

2007-04-03 07:52:53 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

why do women come up with a million excuses when they are caught with their pants down ?
I find it hard to just forgive and act like nothing happened .
I think i am ready to move on and call it a day on her a$$ .

2007-04-03 07:52:14 · 13 answers · asked by jeffadelic 5 in Singles & Dating

I was raised from birth in a pretty repressive funamentalist Christian religion. They had endless rules...one of which was no sex before marriage. Well I obeyed all the leaderships rules all my life - including no sex - until I finally discovered that they were lying to their members and were actually full of bull. So now I find myself out of that religion, unmarried (thank God I didn't marry within it!), still a virgin.............and in my early thirties!! I'm not bad looking, I'm a nice guy, but I'm concerned that women wont want to have anything to do with me if they know I'm still a virgin at this age. And I'm not prepared to lie and try and fake it in case that was going to be the suggestion from some of the men LOL - I'd be nervous enough without having to try to fake experience too. Help. What do I do?? What would you do? How will women respond to me?

Answers from women especially, but also men, would really be appreciated. I'd like to hear from both perspectives. Thanks.

2007-04-03 07:47:45 · 27 answers · asked by John 1 in Singles & Dating

I'm going to get married in 3 mths to a guy I've been in love with for 2 years. I'm Asian and we had a big e'ment in our country and after we came back to the US, things got bad- once he twisted my arm in a public parking lot at night and two weeks after that, he hit me on the shoulder twice, his hand bouncing off and hitting my jaw. I got angry and confronted him and he pushed me back violently.The first time he touched me violently was a year ago. I almost broke up with him then. All was fine until after the engagement when this happened. Again I threatened him and he's being wonderful, but I'm not convinced it won't happen again. He's only 25 (I'm 27) and I wonder if its immaturity.He's an amazing guy otherwise, very warm and loving, sensitive, caring. He loves me a lot. We've had fights over his need to control though. I'm independant and he can be controlling. It drives me nuts and now I'm really worried. I love him very much but don't know if I should marry him. Please help!!

2007-04-03 07:46:54 · 28 answers · asked by star 1 in Marriage & Divorce

There's this girl who works at a restaurant my husband and I have been going to for four years. She started working there about a year ago, and she's totally trying to steal my man right in front of me. I've talked to my husband and he told me "don't worry". She's not ugly, but she's not the most attractive person. Anyway, she's always sending my husband emails and text messages -- he shows them to me and thinks they are funny. I'm not really worried about him, but what should I do about her? This girl is like 8 years younger than us so she's pretty young. What do you suggest?

2007-04-03 07:46:08 · 27 answers · asked by Jamie T 2 in Marriage & Divorce

does the maid of honor wear the same thing as the bridesmaids? what are they rules for this?

2007-04-03 07:45:15 · 17 answers · asked by bar22bie 2 in Weddings

Okay it's been over 3 months now since I found out the affair of my so called husband soon will be my ex This ***** who is married as well, still trying to harass me. Let's see, he hasn't seen or talked to her since last December when he asked her to apologize to my 3 kids,I already called my two cop friends, talk to her employer and she got fired, her husband filled for divorce, I met with her thought it will be my husband that will meet her in Temecula but not, had fun messing her face.
With all the things I've done to ruined her face and her life, she still trying to fight what she thought will be her's,the love of my dear husband. I've changed my number(home and cell),and now calling my kids cell? The police says she's not sick in a head but what is wrong with the picture here??

1) What will you do if this is your case?
2) Will you let your spouse fix his mess even though that you've done all the things to scare her?/

2007-04-03 07:44:00 · 12 answers · asked by islandgirl06 5 in Marriage & Divorce

me & my bf are in luv with each other for abt 2yrs.earlier that is in the begining of our relationship he was very caring.he still is but nowdays he has changed a lot. earlier he used keep his temper in control.he used to seldom get angry and if when we did fight, we used to make up very soon. but nowdays if he gets anoyed (which happens a lot nowdays, it seem that i irritate him a lot) he never calls to makeup.even when it is his fault 7 i complain he is ready to tell me that i too did something like that 11/2yrs ago to him.it always me who says sorry and makeup.it is i who always call after a fight no matter whos fault it is.on top of that he will not talk to me properly for a day to tell me he is talking to me but is still angry.i have tried to tell him how i feel but he is ready with an answer that how i hurted him 1yr ago on some ocassion.i know he luvs me.but what did i do to change my prince into a monster.any suggestions how can i get my prince back

2007-04-03 07:42:57 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

how long do u thing girls should stay virgin? should they keep it for the marriege?

2007-04-03 07:42:49 · 65 answers · asked by zara 2 in Singles & Dating

bearing in mind you have to do this for 4 years and can't drive.

2007-04-03 07:42:47 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Have you ever loved deeply and suddenly turned to a deep hate to the same person?
Can deep love be a deception eventually leading to an equivalent hatred of the same strength?

2007-04-03 07:42:15 · 2 answers · asked by Sara007 5 in Singles & Dating

2007-04-03 07:39:21 · 12 answers · asked by caseynicole 1 in Weddings

My boyfriend and I met this guy at a biz conference. The guy ended up finding me on Myspace. We started talking via email b/c well, work gets boring. I told my boyfriend that we were talking. He didn't mind at first, then he decided he didn't like that we talked. When I said I wouldn't stop, he hacked into my account . He found a inappropriate joke that I had laughed off from the guy. He assumed that I was untrustworthy w/o asking what had happened. I feel betrayed. He says he doesn't trust me b/c even though he knew we where talking, its equal to if I had kissed the guy. I was just trying to make my work day go faster, and yes. my bf had been ignoring me for the last few months. I can't remember the last time we kissed unless it was goodbye. So it was nice to have someone interested in me. We live together, and have fought nonstop. I think he should move out. he says that he won't unless we break up. He checks my phone... Says hes not sure he can trust me. what do I do?

2007-04-03 07:38:02 · 18 answers · asked by cmv359 1 in Singles & Dating

I went on a date with him and we had a really good makeout session once 2 years ago.. He is HOT! he works real hard and is now on a TV show and has become famous. He remembers me! when I saw his MySpace profile I just had a feeling so I called and he answered. We talked for 5 min. and I told him to save my number he said he would and now he will know its me when I call. I want him.. What should I say / do?

2007-04-03 07:36:28 · 18 answers · asked by ~ 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-04-03 07:34:18 · 53 answers · asked by ladybird 3 in Marriage & Divorce

I am looking for great stories from women who were proposed to, backed out on, and wanted to get even. (Looking for stories/ methods of revenge only, if you have a nice story about a clean break, please answer elsewhere!)
This happened to me and I'm thinking about sharing my story and stories from gals who are hurt just like me and smart enough to make him pay!

2007-04-03 07:33:49 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I am perplexed. We have been together twelve years and just had a son 7 months ago. He just re-did our house and he is finatical about it. I feel like I can't live normally. If I open up the new cabinets wrong it ruins the wood. He doesn't want to hang anything on the new walls. I used a container last night and apparently I used the wrong one and now the refrigerator smells, according to him. He says I do not care about all the work he did and that is just not true. It is like he went nuts on me, he is not the same person at all. He nit picks on me terribly and I can't take it anymore. He fights with me everyday! I can't figure out if he hates me now or is jealous of me with the baby or is he just not happy..
Any suggestions or comments?

2007-04-03 07:31:51 · 28 answers · asked by qpook 3 in Marriage & Divorce