There's this girl who works at a restaurant my husband and I have been going to for four years. She started working there about a year ago, and she's totally trying to steal my man right in front of me. I've talked to my husband and he told me "don't worry". She's not ugly, but she's not the most attractive person. Anyway, she's always sending my husband emails and text messages -- he shows them to me and thinks they are funny. I'm not really worried about him, but what should I do about her? This girl is like 8 years younger than us so she's pretty young. What do you suggest?
2007-04-03 07:46:08 · 27 answers · asked by Jamie T 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Okay, he gave her his business card when he helped her move. Her boyfriend moved to NY and she's supposed to follow this summer. That's how she got his cell phone number and email address.
He doesn't work at the restaurant. We just go there because that's where we had our first date so it means something to us. Plus, we've been going there so long that we know everyone there and are friends with them. She just started this about three weeks ago.
2007-04-03 08:00:48 · update #1
trust your man, if he does do something he isn't worth your time and doesn't deserve you..and don't start acting all crazy and jealous either, guys hate that.
2007-04-03 07:50:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If your husband cared about you he would quit his job and save any potentional cheating that may or may not happen...serioulsy, restaurants are everywhere, he will get another job and should remove himself from the situation.
No the girl is not in control but your husband is as he can easily get another job and the situation is controllable. Plus men love younger women, and 8 years is no doubt a huge turn on to your man...I am 11 years younger than my man and he loves it.
So watch out, and your husband may only be showing you certain emails too, and erasing the sexy ones...to make you think otherwise...been there and know better.
2007-04-03 07:55:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Start going to another restaurant? Tell the wench that he is your man and to stay back if she knows whats right. Really how in the F in the first place did she get your husbands account info? Secondly is this something you are worried about because your hubby appears interested give him more sex and drive him wild with desire for you then he wont stray. Really I would ask him how she got his email and all that? I think he deserves to be slapped around a little for giving his info out to a complete stranger and a woman no less.
2007-04-03 07:55:01 · answer #3 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all why does the waitress at the restaurant have your husbands cell number and e-mail address?
With that said you need to be very worried about your friendly *** husband. What do they have in common so much that they needed to exchange contact information?
Do they own property together?
Are they long lost sister and brother?
Did he give her a kidney?
Did she give him a kidney?
What the hell do they need to communicate outside of that eating establishment for?
You need to check your husband, and worry about the text messages he hasn't shown you. The waitress owes you no respect nor loyalty, but your husband does. How would he feel if the fine *** bus boy at the restaurant had your cell and e-mail address.......don't think his slimmy *** would like that at all.
Check your husband, chances are he's banging the waitress.
2007-04-03 07:55:34 · answer #4 · answered by NURSING FOR LIFE!! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he's enjoying the attention, that's nice. He's discounting your feelings, that's not right. If he's your man then he'd be understanding. ASk him how he'd feel if some strange guy was sending you emails and such. If he says "that's different" then yall need counselling. He's not thinking realisticly.
About her, I suggest you go to her and tell her that you're highly offended that she would treat you with such disrespect. If she doesn't apologize and knock that **** off, then its time to talk to hubby again. If he won't take your feelings seriously, then tehre's a very real problem here. You don't get married just so you can conveniantly ignore your spouses issues altogether. I'm amazed how many people act like this.
2007-04-03 07:52:45 · answer #5 · answered by Cassandra G 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Tell your husband that a trustworthy honest married man would set this girl straight and let her know he only reads emails and texts from his wife. If he wants you to have trust issues with him, keep this up and you will.
People in these type of situations cannot be "stolen." They willingly go where they want to be.
2007-04-03 07:55:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
How did she get his email and number? Hmm?
Ask your husband to change his info.
A person cannot be "stolen", but he can give himself away. Just like he gave himself to you, he can give himslef to someone else. So can you.
The best way for him to hide his interest (or an affair) is to make light of it, and pretend to be open.
He must like the attention or he would be getting upset that she is upsetting YOU! He is supposed to be protecting YOU, honoring and protecting your relationship.
She is making a fool of you- and he is helping.
I would talk to my husband first, and then her employer, and if that didn't cut it out, I'd insist that my husband press charges. If he refused, I'd move out and let her have him.
She does anyway.
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2007-04-03 08:03:23 · answer #7 · answered by Lottie W 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmmm, how did she get his cell phone number and email address? Obviously, your husband gave them to her. Your husband is obviously enjoying the attention she is paying to him and she is obviously coming on strong towards him.
She will persist and he will think more and more about doing her. It's not a matter of if it's going to happen, but when It's gonna happen.
2007-04-03 07:58:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
How'd she get his phone number and email address? Obviously he gave it to her. Tell her to back off. He's married. Stop going to that restaurant. If all else fails, catch her leaving work one day and beat her @ss. He needs to tell her to stop calling and texting-it's inappropriate. Would he care if some guy was emailing and texting his wife? He should take care of this, and if he won't, you have to wonder why.
2007-04-03 07:58:02 · answer #9 · answered by Lotus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-25 23:37:52 · answer #10 · answered by herzog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um, how did a random girl working at a restaurant got your husband's e-mail and telephone #? I would be very worried if I were you, about both of them. Tell your husband to ask the girl to stop all contact; what she's doing sounds pretty ridiculous to me. If she continues to harass him against his wishes, report her to her employer and to the police.
2007-04-03 07:52:13 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋