I was raised from birth in a pretty repressive funamentalist Christian religion. They had endless rules...one of which was no sex before marriage. Well I obeyed all the leaderships rules all my life - including no sex - until I finally discovered that they were lying to their members and were actually full of bull. So now I find myself out of that religion, unmarried (thank God I didn't marry within it!), still a virgin.............and in my early thirties!! I'm not bad looking, I'm a nice guy, but I'm concerned that women wont want to have anything to do with me if they know I'm still a virgin at this age. And I'm not prepared to lie and try and fake it in case that was going to be the suggestion from some of the men LOL - I'd be nervous enough without having to try to fake experience too. Help. What do I do?? What would you do? How will women respond to me?
Answers from women especially, but also men, would really be appreciated. I'd like to hear from both perspectives. Thanks.
2007-04-03 07:47:45 · 27 answers · asked by John 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My new beliefs mean I no longer think it wrong to have sex before marriage. I certainly hope to LOL.
2007-04-03 08:11:54 · update #1
awe hon dont worry about it, bieng a virgin at ur age is commendable and no u shouldent lie about it women in general hate men lying to them and if u find a decent girlfriend she will wait for u too be ready before sleeping with u and she will reassure u and teach u how to satify her and urself, good luck xx
2007-04-03 07:58:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do you feel you need to tell a partner about your experience, or lack of it? If you're getting close to a partner, I think you should just take things slowly and let things happen naturally. Speaking as a woman in her late twenties (and also, as it happens, a virgin, though I don't think that's important for my answer) I don't think any woman who met a sweet, funny and kind man would care whether or not he was a virgin. I don't think it matters to most women. At least, I would not care, and it wouldn't be a problem for me. If a woman felt she couldn't have anything to do with you because you're a virgin, then she's not really a woman worth bothering with. I think you shouldn't fake anything, but you shouldn't feel compelled to tell a woman you're a virgin unless you want to, either. Work on being a happy, kind and gentle man, and you'll find that women will respond. Good luck and I hope you find happiness.
2007-04-03 08:24:54 · answer #2 · answered by Sinead C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're planning on having sex for all the wrong reasons. What is it with people these days. Being a virgin is always made up to be such a big deal. As a female, I prefer to be with men who are virgins. There's something very special about the idea of marrying the one you love and sharing that intimacy with each other - and ONLY each other.
But hey, do what you like. As you can see, no one really cares if you are a virgin or not. A woman will date you for who you are, not for how good you are in bed because you can work on your sex techniques but you can not so easily change a arrogant personality.
2007-04-03 08:23:47 · answer #3 · answered by Daisy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its lovely that you are still a virgin, and when you meet the right person they will too! I slept with other people before I met my boyfriend. Now I know that I want to be with him for the rest of my life, I wish that I'd have waited to lose it to someone special. Hold on to it for as long as you want, and don't lie about your past. Any woman would love your honesty and if they don't then they aren't right for you. Don;t let it rule your life because you'll big it up to be something that it isn't! You'll know when you've met the right person and it will feel amazing. Good luck and have fun when it relaly does happen x
2007-04-03 08:38:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with being a virgin no matter how old you are! It is the best gift you could give a woman on your wedding night!!!!
If that is the way you were brought up, then god bless you, hold your head up high, and take pride that you are not one of the millions of people in this world walking around with STD's and not even knowing it!
I think that is awesome, you are taking care of yourself, and when you do marry, then that will be one lucky woman!
2007-04-03 07:58:24 · answer #5 · answered by carriegreen13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What has happened to you is unfortunate but you have to move on from it and start living your life the way you want to.
The best thing to be with women is honest, when you meet someone and you feel like you want to take that next step with them tell them about your past and tell them you are nervous.
A woman will respect you a lot more for telling her the truth than she will you either lying to her or suffering in silence.
As for the response, well any woman who likes you enough wont care about your past and any woman who lets it affect your relationship was not worth the bother in the first place.
Be happy babe xxx
2007-04-03 08:08:56 · answer #6 · answered by anastacia500 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are seriously undervaluing your virginity. There are many women out there who would be thrilled to find an honest, loving man who is not just out for whatever sex he can get. What would you do if in the process of losing your virginity, you picked up a sexually transmitted disease? Yeow! Keep yourself pure until you meet the right girl. She will be thrilled to share her virginity with you after marriage!
2007-04-03 07:54:01 · answer #7 · answered by bevrossg 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am female and here is my response good for you. Too many people have sex for sex sake and god knows the diseases running around. A real woman who cares for you will not have a problem with you being a virgin and be honored to be your first. Don't worry about it there are women out there who will not laugh but be happy to be with someone like you
2007-04-03 07:52:25 · answer #8 · answered by bbinqueens33 4 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Get to know a girl so that you are completely comfortable with her before even thinking about taking it to the next level. Once you are that at ease with someone, it should not matter to her if you are a virgin or not. Try explaining the situation as you have done here, its completely understandable.
2007-04-03 07:59:40 · answer #9 · answered by only_lil_kez 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all find a special person to love, then let things happen. Don't make it an issue, just go with the flow.
If the person you find is a special person, they won't find it a problem, also it means that you trust them.
I think some women find it may find it endearing! Good luck
2007-04-03 07:56:02 · answer #10 · answered by ANGEL-T 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋